[DameAgnes]

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[dominicansoul]

I have had a very difficult relationship with my father, most especially during my childhood years...

He was both emotionally and physically abusive, and I have had to pay a great price for all that I went through with him...

At the same time, God gave me a saint for a mother, and the love that she gave me made up more than enough for the love my father could not show me...

I used to pray that he would die before my mother, because, I didn't want to have to handle his presence without my mom for support...

But God had different plans. I came home from the convent, my mom died, and now I am living with my father. In these past years, things have become very very good between the two of us. I know that my mother is praying for him and me! I know now, things happened the way they did, because I had to work out our relationship before He passes away...

Surprisingly, of all the members of my family, my dad was the only one who supported my vocation!

Pray for my dad, and pray for all fathers out there! My dad grew up in an abusive household, and so, it was a cycle that wouldn't end... he also struggled after fighting in WWII both emotionally and mentally...I am not trying to make excuses... but there are definite reasons for his behavior towards me...

I love him... I really do, and I think my love for him is helping him to see the errors of his past....
...that in itself proves that love conquers all....

[tinytherese]

My dad physically tortured me as a little girl, has been emotionally abusive to me for as long as I can remember, and last year started to sexually harass me. It's really rough. I've been told, "Once an abuser/harasser always an abuser/harasser," yet it feels as if the root of all of his behavior is his narcissism and macho man attitude that comes from him getting hurt somehow my guess from his early days. I've hoped that through me praying for him and giving him a book from a Christian perspective on what manhood really is (Wild at Heart) that he will start to make progress. I still don't feel safe with him though and my mom doesn't want me to make a big deal out of what he says and does, saying that he just wants to get a rise out of me and that she's been trying to change him for years and he just won't do it. The sexual harassment is still very alarming to me though. I try to avoid him, particularly being alone with him.

[DameAgnes]

I'm unclear Does your mother know he is sexually harrassing you?

[tinytherese]

DameAgnes, on Jun 28 2009, 04:35 AM, said:

I'm unclear Does your mother know he is sexually harrassing you?

Yes, and has told him to knock it off. It made him laugh and he wanted to do it even more since it annoyed me. She just says to let whatever he does pass, that he just has an infantile maturity. :rolleyes: