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  1. 5 points
    Kayte Postle

    Kayte Discerns (An Ongoing Journey)

    Friends, in my journey I need some prayer right now. I am so frustrated because of my mental illness, especially as of late. I'm having to move soon, and I'm not even sure where I'm going to live in a few weeks. I had to cut my hair very short, because it was falling out due to stress. To say the least my mental state has been shakey lately. I'm having to lay this down at the cross about 100 times a day. My heart longs for the convent, but I know it's still quite awhile aways, if it is in God's plan for me at all. I see the community I love and long to be there among them, and tonight my heart is sick at the thought that I might never be there. God is good always though, and I know that He is in control and ultimately working for my good, and the good and salvation of the world. He is Lord, and that's enough. Sometimes I have to remind my heart of that fact. So some prayers would be appreciated.
  2. 5 points
    Kayte Postle

    Kayte Discerns (An Ongoing Journey)

    It's been a few since I've posted an update. Things in life are going well, and I will actually be moving to a new state and city by the end of the summer. I am so excited for this move and transition in life! I've needed a change for awhile, and things just lined up very nicely to make the move now. Still thinking about religious life, I wasn't able to visit the community I mentioned above. I think that it was divine providence that it happened that way. I am feeling called to a community that can't accept me with medication. I am really praying about being able to come off medication within the next year (which is what my doctor has been hoping for as well), and will revisit the idea of a vocation then. Until then I'm going to focus on praying, growing, settling into a new city, and paying off my student debt.
  3. 4 points
    Sister Leticia

    Franciscan Sisters of the Immaculate?

    Hello Jacinta and welcome to this forum! I was reading the age barrier thread and saw that you posted there, saying you are 48 years old. I'm pretty sure that even if these sisters are in a position to start accepting candidates again, that they probably have an upper age limit a lot lower than 48. So please, don't suspend your life and your discernment waiting for them to be able to invite you to visit, start discerning etc - it could be a long wait. Continue making contact with other communities, and follow some of the suggestions made on that other thread - your home may well lie there, and not with these sisters. Blessings on your journey!
  4. 4 points

    Age Barrier

    Entering religious life in later life is complex and difficult, more so than entering in young adulthood. I speak as a former religious from a community that accepted older vocations from time to time, and my observations are my own and not necessarily representative of a particular community. One thing that is difficult about religious life, whatever age you're at, is not being able to make choices for yourself (beyond obviously the choice whether or not to remain in religious life). I have seen the extreme difficulty faced by older women in community who feel that based on their life experience they know best, only to have to obey their 30-year-old novice mistress. After 50 or 60 years of doing things a certain way, to switch to what someone else tells you to do is very challenging. Habits of speech, forms of prayer, ways of relating to others, coping mechanisms for the various frustrations of life -- all of these will be uprooted. Few people are psychologically, emotionally, physically, spiritually able to abandon the life they have spent half a century building and successfully adjust. Not that it is impossible, just rare. Based on my experience, as well as conversations with other former and current religious, many discerners have an unrealistic view of what the life entails, and while leaving religious life may be a difficult experience for a young person, it can be utterly devastating for an older person (who may have taken early retirement, sold significant assets, resigned from a job, interrupted contributions to a 401(k), or some other life-altering decision) and this can in addition significantly hamper the person's individual freedom in discernment. The documents of the second Vatican council made it clear that the vocation to holiness is a universal call for each person in the church. The profusion of third orders, societies of apostolic life, and new movements within the church speaks to me of an outpouring of the Holy Spirit on the laity. There is real Christian community, opportunity for growth in Christian life and charity, and a true and authentic form of life in imitation of Christ. It is easy to get caught up in romantic notions of religious life but this is like entering a marriage simply fantasizing about the day of the wedding. We have to be practical and realistic about our own limitations -- there is no merit in picking up the cross that looks to us like the biggest. Exercising our human freedom in an appropriate way requires prudence and self-knowledge (which includes candid knowledge of one's own limitations). I'm not trying to throw cold water on anyone's fire. I hope that older discerners will be encouraged by the possibility of a vocation within the church to a path of holiness that embraces all of the valuable experiences and gifts they possess already, that meets them in their lives as they are and encourages them to devote themselves wholeheartedly to Christ and his people.
  5. 4 points
    Anastasia (L&T)

    Long rest of the week

    Hello, I am getting up in 5 hours for a day with a phone interview in the middle and a job application to be done after. Husband is having MRI in the morning. Trying to get stuff finished at work before I leave.
  6. 4 points
    Sister Leticia

    Come & See in UK and Ireland

    I know there's already a thread listing discernment weekends and other events (thank you Luigi), but as there are dozens and dozens of them, mostly in the US, I fear the events in this country might get lost or drowned out, so to speak. Hence this new thread. These are the events being advertised on UK religious life website - http://www.ukreligiouslife.org/events/ And here's the Irish counterpart, though I think its events listing needs updating http://www.vocationsireland.com/category/news/
  7. 4 points

    Healing prayer for my husband's lung cancer

    I pray to you O my Lord and ask for assistance. I pray that my husband's (Joseph Eduarte) another biopsy results are negative and I pray that he do not have cancer. I pray for your miraculous blessings and I pray for strength to help us get through the stress of waiting for the results. Thank you so much for everything! Thank you for always helping me, Lord, I thank you for the strength you give me everyday, I thank you for my beautiful family, my wonderful amazing husband. I thank you for the food we eat everyday, the house we live in, our good health, my solid marriage and the love I share with my family and friends. I know all this is possible because of you . Thank you!
  8. 3 points

    Franciscan Sisters of the Immaculate?

    Echoing Sister Leticia. I may not have understood you correctly, but it sounds as if you haven't really interacted with these sisters much, you just saw them in the procession at Fatima. I don't think it's a good idea to pin all your hopes on a community whom you've only seen and haven't yet got to know. Definitely write to them, but also contact one or two other communities. If devotion to Mary is important to you, you could look for communities with a strong Marian spirituality. I only know one religious community in Boston and I'm not sure of their age limit, but if you got in touch with the diocese they should have a directory. God bless your discernment.
  9. 3 points

    Peace on the Korean Peninsula

    Let us pray
  10. 3 points

    Personal situation

    Please say a prayer to The Holy Spirit for me to inspire me on how to handle a difficult personal situation. It has me quite concerned. How I handle the situation could affect others. Thank you, fellow Phammers ....... and my prayer for you and your own intentions along with all on Phatmass, including any who are reading only.
  11. 2 points
    Nihil Obstat

    I am going to be a dad

    We are expecting a baby girl this August. I am very excited.
  12. 2 points

    Where has sin gone?

    If you follow the old school Catholic guidelines your life will be better, happier and with greater reward. You will have the greatest Quality of life that one can receive.
  13. 2 points

    Update and prayer request

    I spent Pentecost with the community with which I'm a candidate, and during this visit the provincial and I decided which house I will go to for my postulancy. I will be living with sisters I already know. Please pray for me. Please also pray for the sister who accompanies me. She is a woman of deep prayer and I trust her insight, but a couple of things she said during this visit made me worry that she doesn't completely grasp how my disability affects me, even though we've talked about it at length. As the sisters do low-paid work that takes them among the poorest of local people, she suggested that during the first few months I could get a part-time job as a cleaner and bed-maker in a nearby hostel, where another sister also works. I don't have the physical capabilities for that and I was a bit concerned that I had to explain this to her, especially as I had to reject a similar proposal on my last visit. Then she was suggesting I could get a job waitressing in a café, which would be even worse - the last thing someone with bad balance and poor control of their limbs should be doing is carrying around hot drinks and fragile things in a bustling environment! The sister also asked me for the second time if I would be learning to drive, and I have already told her that medically I'm not allowed. I know that God equips the called rather than calling the equipped, but at the same time he does not design turtles to fly and I am not sure this sister realises quite how much of a turtle I am.
  14. 2 points
    Anastasia (L&T)

    Job hunting

    Looking for something better, better paying, and healthier for me.
  15. 2 points

    Job for my niece

    Please pray for my disabled niece who has applied for a few jobs and has interviews next week, that she may find a position. She has had arthritis for almost 27 years (since she was 3) and can only work part time because of her disabilities. Thank you - I will remember you all in my prayers too.
  16. 2 points


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  17. 2 points
    Sister Leticia

    Update and prayer request

    Dear Beatitude - congratulations on this confirmation of your next step on your journey. This is usually a time for joy and relief - but also a host of other feelings and anxieties, and all sorts of things to think/worry about and prepare for. I know that during your discernment and application you discussed your disability with the sisters. Did you also have any discussions with the Provincial or another sister about jobs you could do, which fit in with their charism and your capabilities? For example a return to care work, which I recall you used to do, and which is generally low paid. Or retail work eg on the checkout? Maybe she suggested the hostel and cafe because they know the owners or there are often vacancies, and they want you to be able to slot in quickly, instead of the uncertainty of job-hunting elsewhere? Blessings on this time - and my prayer of course, for you and the sister
  18. 2 points

    A Facebook Post I Made About School And Guns

    While I agree with tighter restrictions and more accountability for gun ownership, I do not think guns are the reason people shoot up schools. Blaming guns for school shootings is doing harm by taking attention away from the underlying reason why these people are shooting up schools. Mental instability, immorality and the systematic devaluation of human life.
  19. 1 point

    Private Vows in The Laity/Spirituality

    My spiritual director (priest and religious superior) has received permission from diocesan offices to celebrate a Home Mass for the purpose of me renewing my life private vows to the evangelical counsels. At the same time, "Bethany" (residence) will be blest. My SD suggests that I have the celebrant and a couple of witnesses sign some sort of a record as witnesses. I plan to keep things as quiet and as simple as I can with my brothers and wives present along with a couple of close friends including religious who are close friends. The next step (advice of our Vicar General to my spiritual director) is to speak to my parish priest and I have asked for an appointment at his convenience. My pp can contact my spiritual director if he wishes. I suspect that this is protocol and formality since the Home Mass will be in his parish. I daresay as it all unwinds, I will become the wiser and was far too overwhelmed when my SD told me permission had been received to think of questions to ask. My SD too has suggested that I write my own vows. When the subject first came up, Father mentioned making the vows at the Offertory - I replied that I was under the impression that private vows could only be made before or after Mass. That aspect is still to be sorted out and Father will probably refer the matter back to the Vicar General - he is very traditional and conservative............but with a rich sense of humour, of the funny and absurd (hence directing me! :smile4:) I am hoping Mass will be in the morning or afternoon, since providing a morning or afternoon tea will be far cheaper than a full meal. I will keep this thread updated as things unfold - although if it disappears into the archives I will need to start a new thread again - since I don't plan the Mass in hope until the Feast of The Immaculate Heart of Mary (Saturday) in June 2014 (June is traditionally dedicated to The Sacred Heart) - my SD asked me to pick a feastday - and of course I need for him to be available on the date I choose. By choosing a Saturday, it should not present in hope inconvenience to those I am inviting. I am hoping to go on retreat prior, but there seems to be an absence of facilities for a one person only retreat - most of the facilities here nowadays are for groups only now that are large Carmelite Monastery has been sold. I could always stay in the Carmelite guest house before it was sold. I am still looking for somewhere and have contacted the Jesuits at Seven Hills Retreat Centre in Clare here in South Australia but no reply as yet. Much too for me will depend on cost involved. If all comes amiss retreat wise, then I shall go on retreat here in Bethany. I am no little overwhelmed by it all still and I don't think that humility is the word since I doubt that humility has anything to do with 'shock and trembling'. I have spoken to one of my brothers who is not at all impressed having seen my journey with Bipolar and my 20 very ill years. I think I am challenging his notion that such things should only be done by very holy people and only in convents or monasteries - and by people who are undoubtedly completely and always sane. It is very difficult to crawl out from under a tag of "mental illness",
  20. 1 point

    Franciscan Sisters of the Immaculate?

    Thanks JHFamily! I sent email to the Sisters in Italy and waiting for their response.
  21. 1 point


    By the time our First reading from Genesis begins in verse eight, the serpent (who by the way is never identified as Satan in Scripture) has already deceived Adam and Eve into disobeying God’s command. Now they are engaged in a hide and seek game of their own—and the stakes are high. As they hide in the garden like children, God seeks after them, fully aware that something has gone very, very wrong. We listen as God calls out to them, “Where are you?” This is the first question that God asks in Scripture and, as is the case with every good story, it is asked not just of the characters on the page and in the scene, but of every single one of us. At once, the question assumes an answer—we are not where we should be—and poses yet another question—where should we be? The last one hundred years have been marked by the exponential growth and sophistication of technology. The world is undoubtedly more connected than ever, but it may also be more distracted than ever. Scientists have long warned about the dangers of getting distracted by technology. When left unchecked, it can distract us from everything from our ability to have meaningful face-to-face conversations, to keeping our eyes on the road and off our screens as we drive. So it is with our lives of faith. In his commentary on the Book of Genesis, Walter Brueggemann suggests that the serpent in the Garden of Eden is the world’s first theologian because it is the serpent who convinces humankind to exchange obedience to God for theology about God. If we think about God narrowly enough, we can think our way to salvation. Our knowledge becomes a means of self-preservation and protection, rather than a means of transmitting and communicating faith in the living God. And yet, God cuts through our words and ideas, persistently calling out to us, “Where are you?” In the same way, when moments of tension invariably arise in our communities of faith, instead of turning to prayer and patient discernment, we get distracted by arguments and anxieties and self-interests, and so we take our ball and go home. We cut ourselves off from community and, in turn, we short-circuit the possibility of reconciliation. God’s voice calls out after us as we stomp away, “Where are you?” For us to consider this question, we must discern deeply as to where we are in relation to where God is inviting us. One place to start is to take account of all that distracts us from living lives of faithfulness. Distractions may look different for different people, but their central characteristic is the same: they draw our attention away from focusing on the life-giving parts of our lives. We can become distracted from our relationships with friends and family, Work that once brought much joy to our lives can become occluded by the desire for position and power, influence and wealth. Even our days of rest and vacation can become muddled with concerns about what we might be missing on Facebook. All these things distract us from the places in our lives that afford us peace and joy and love, and ultimately, they distract us from our life before God. The possibilities for getting distracted in our lives, and particularly our lives of faith, are many. But the Good News is that ours is a God who, no matter where we wander or try and hide, relentlessly pursues us, calling out after us, “Where are you?” and inviting us back to Godself. In the midst of our busyness it is very easy to forget to take the time to slow down, pray and discover the will of God. Even this past week in meeting with the German Evangelical Lutherans, Pope Francis stated, "Let us not forget to start from prayer, so that it is not human plans that indicate the way, but the Holy Spirit: He alone opens the way and enlightens the steps to be taken." Jesus throughout his ministry was led by the Spirit of God. It is that Spirit that can 'renew our inner self day by day'. May we listen intently enough to hear God’s voice and discern deeply enough to answer God’s call.
  22. 1 point

    Private Vows in The Laity/Spirituality

    Friday, 8th June, Solemnity of The Sacred Heart of Jesus Four Saints who saw The Sacred Heart of Jesus (with slide show) What Catholics Should Know About First Fridays (including Promises) How to Enthrone The Sacred Heart in Your Home and Heart Note the words of Jesus to St Margaret Mary Alacoque "In the excess of the Mercy of My Heart......"......... Full quote: "“In the excess of the mercy of my heart, I promise you that my all powerful love will grant to all those who will receive communion on the First Fridays, for nine consecutive months, the grace of final repentance: they will not die in my displeasure, nor without receiving the sacraments; and my heart will be their secure refuge in that last hour.” For one reason or another, I never got around to making the Nine Consecutive First Fridays in all my 72 years that I can recall anyway. I am still hoping to be able to do so. Finances should come back into line and cross over from the red to the black at the end of June, God Willing.. ... and that should permit some more taxi travel. Deo Gratius Should things go amiss again and I am unable to complete the First Five Fridays, my confidence and trust in The Sacred Heart will remain every bit as strong as if I had done so. What Jesus asks is an honest heart and sincere effort. Success or failure are always His Domain alone and in all things. Sometimes failure is clearly my own fault and in that instance Jesus has permitted failure for His Own Good Reasons. Sometimes I seem to have contributed to some success somewhere, then all thanks to The Lord for the gift and Grace to succeed. "All is Grace" (St Therese of Lisieux) Should read Nine First Fridays. It is the Five First Saturdays of Our Lady http://www.themostholyrosary.com/appendix2.htm
  23. 1 point

    Come & See in UK and Ireland

    As regards England, there's also an app called 'God Calls' and it lists vocation days as well as events and prayer meetings for young people all throughout the Uk! Here's some updates from Ireland. Women: June http://poorclarescork.ie/ September https://poorclares.ie/cloister-days- October http://www.glencairnabbey.org/news/story/events/event1/ Periodically .. follow: https://rednuns.com/event/monastic-vocations-weekend/ Men: June: http://www.vocationsireland.com/invitation-from-the-cistercians-roscrea/ or https://www.mountmellerayabbey.org/ for the latest dates for monastic experience days.
  24. 1 point

    Update and prayer request

    This is just a brief thought, but in my final year in college, which literally finished a few days ago (!), I did some administrative work for a religious order. It was very basic and low paid- just above minimum wage, with flexible hours. They didn't know I was discerning and I was treated just as the other lay staff in the "office". I filled in excel documents and wrote brief newsletters and made lists of names and addresses and put stuff in envelopes and made coffee .... the latter two jobs being the most common! It was around 10 hours per week. Anyway, there are often these sorts of jobs going in charities or in congregations or communities and I'm sure it wouldn't be a big deal if the job was in another religious congregations house. Anyway, maybe a basic or simple admin role could work and be something you could research before you enter with the guidance of the novice director. Prayers for you.
  25. 1 point

    Thoughts from a Franciscan Sister

    The Power of a Few Words Lately, I’ve been struggling with a troubling relationship. On top of the difficulty this poses, I was also feeling blamed for something I had nothing to do with. My time of prayer this morn…