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  1. 5 points
    Kayte Postle

    Kayte Discerns (An Ongoing Journey)

    Friends, in my journey I need some prayer right now. I am so frustrated because of my mental illness, especially as of late. I'm having to move soon, and I'm not even sure where I'm going to live in a few weeks. I had to cut my hair very short, because it was falling out due to stress. To say the least my mental state has been shakey lately. I'm having to lay this down at the cross about 100 times a day. My heart longs for the convent, but I know it's still quite awhile aways, if it is in God's plan for me at all. I see the community I love and long to be there among them, and tonight my heart is sick at the thought that I might never be there. God is good always though, and I know that He is in control and ultimately working for my good, and the good and salvation of the world. He is Lord, and that's enough. Sometimes I have to remind my heart of that fact. So some prayers would be appreciated.
  2. 5 points
    Kayte Postle

    Kayte Discerns (An Ongoing Journey)

    It's been a few since I've posted an update. Things in life are going well, and I will actually be moving to a new state and city by the end of the summer. I am so excited for this move and transition in life! I've needed a change for awhile, and things just lined up very nicely to make the move now. Still thinking about religious life, I wasn't able to visit the community I mentioned above. I think that it was divine providence that it happened that way. I am feeling called to a community that can't accept me with medication. I am really praying about being able to come off medication within the next year (which is what my doctor has been hoping for as well), and will revisit the idea of a vocation then. Until then I'm going to focus on praying, growing, settling into a new city, and paying off my student debt.
  3. 4 points
    Sister Leticia

    Franciscan Sisters of the Immaculate?

    Hello Jacinta and welcome to this forum! I was reading the age barrier thread and saw that you posted there, saying you are 48 years old. I'm pretty sure that even if these sisters are in a position to start accepting candidates again, that they probably have an upper age limit a lot lower than 48. So please, don't suspend your life and your discernment waiting for them to be able to invite you to visit, start discerning etc - it could be a long wait. Continue making contact with other communities, and follow some of the suggestions made on that other thread - your home may well lie there, and not with these sisters. Blessings on your journey!
  4. 4 points
    underatree

    Age Barrier

    Entering religious life in later life is complex and difficult, more so than entering in young adulthood. I speak as a former religious from a community that accepted older vocations from time to time, and my observations are my own and not necessarily representative of a particular community. One thing that is difficult about religious life, whatever age you're at, is not being able to make choices for yourself (beyond obviously the choice whether or not to remain in religious life). I have seen the extreme difficulty faced by older women in community who feel that based on their life experience they know best, only to have to obey their 30-year-old novice mistress. After 50 or 60 years of doing things a certain way, to switch to what someone else tells you to do is very challenging. Habits of speech, forms of prayer, ways of relating to others, coping mechanisms for the various frustrations of life -- all of these will be uprooted. Few people are psychologically, emotionally, physically, spiritually able to abandon the life they have spent half a century building and successfully adjust. Not that it is impossible, just rare. Based on my experience, as well as conversations with other former and current religious, many discerners have an unrealistic view of what the life entails, and while leaving religious life may be a difficult experience for a young person, it can be utterly devastating for an older person (who may have taken early retirement, sold significant assets, resigned from a job, interrupted contributions to a 401(k), or some other life-altering decision) and this can in addition significantly hamper the person's individual freedom in discernment. The documents of the second Vatican council made it clear that the vocation to holiness is a universal call for each person in the church. The profusion of third orders, societies of apostolic life, and new movements within the church speaks to me of an outpouring of the Holy Spirit on the laity. There is real Christian community, opportunity for growth in Christian life and charity, and a true and authentic form of life in imitation of Christ. It is easy to get caught up in romantic notions of religious life but this is like entering a marriage simply fantasizing about the day of the wedding. We have to be practical and realistic about our own limitations -- there is no merit in picking up the cross that looks to us like the biggest. Exercising our human freedom in an appropriate way requires prudence and self-knowledge (which includes candid knowledge of one's own limitations). I'm not trying to throw cold water on anyone's fire. I hope that older discerners will be encouraged by the possibility of a vocation within the church to a path of holiness that embraces all of the valuable experiences and gifts they possess already, that meets them in their lives as they are and encourages them to devote themselves wholeheartedly to Christ and his people.
  5. 4 points
    Anastasia (L&T)

    Long rest of the week

    Hello, I am getting up in 5 hours for a day with a phone interview in the middle and a job application to be done after. Husband is having MRI in the morning. Trying to get stuff finished at work before I leave.
  6. 4 points
    Sister Leticia

    Come & See in UK and Ireland

    I know there's already a thread listing discernment weekends and other events (thank you Luigi), but as there are dozens and dozens of them, mostly in the US, I fear the events in this country might get lost or drowned out, so to speak. Hence this new thread. These are the events being advertised on UK religious life website - http://www.ukreligiouslife.org/events/ And here's the Irish counterpart, though I think its events listing needs updating http://www.vocationsireland.com/category/news/
  7. 4 points
    sakurasanta86

    Healing prayer for my husband's lung cancer

    I pray to you O my Lord and ask for assistance. I pray that my husband's (Joseph Eduarte) another biopsy results are negative and I pray that he do not have cancer. I pray for your miraculous blessings and I pray for strength to help us get through the stress of waiting for the results. Thank you so much for everything! Thank you for always helping me, Lord, I thank you for the strength you give me everyday, I thank you for my beautiful family, my wonderful amazing husband. I thank you for the food we eat everyday, the house we live in, our good health, my solid marriage and the love I share with my family and friends. I know all this is possible because of you . Thank you!
  8. 3 points
    beatitude

    Franciscan Sisters of the Immaculate?

    Echoing Sister Leticia. I may not have understood you correctly, but it sounds as if you haven't really interacted with these sisters much, you just saw them in the procession at Fatima. I don't think it's a good idea to pin all your hopes on a community whom you've only seen and haven't yet got to know. Definitely write to them, but also contact one or two other communities. If devotion to Mary is important to you, you could look for communities with a strong Marian spirituality. I only know one religious community in Boston and I'm not sure of their age limit, but if you got in touch with the diocese they should have a directory. God bless your discernment.
  9. 3 points
    little2add

    Peace on the Korean Peninsula

    Let us pray
  10. 3 points
    BarbaraTherese

    Personal situation

    Please say a prayer to The Holy Spirit for me to inspire me on how to handle a difficult personal situation. It has me quite concerned. How I handle the situation could affect others. Thank you, fellow Phammers ....... and my prayer for you and your own intentions along with all on Phatmass, including any who are reading only.
  11. 2 points
    Nihil Obstat

    I am going to be a dad

    We are expecting a baby girl this August. I am very excited.
  12. 2 points
    little2add

    Where has sin gone?

    If you follow the old school Catholic guidelines your life will be better, happier and with greater reward. You will have the greatest Quality of life that one can receive.
  13. 2 points
    beatitude

    Update and prayer request

    I spent Pentecost with the community with which I'm a candidate, and during this visit the provincial and I decided which house I will go to for my postulancy. I will be living with sisters I already know. Please pray for me. Please also pray for the sister who accompanies me. She is a woman of deep prayer and I trust her insight, but a couple of things she said during this visit made me worry that she doesn't completely grasp how my disability affects me, even though we've talked about it at length. As the sisters do low-paid work that takes them among the poorest of local people, she suggested that during the first few months I could get a part-time job as a cleaner and bed-maker in a nearby hostel, where another sister also works. I don't have the physical capabilities for that and I was a bit concerned that I had to explain this to her, especially as I had to reject a similar proposal on my last visit. Then she was suggesting I could get a job waitressing in a café, which would be even worse - the last thing someone with bad balance and poor control of their limbs should be doing is carrying around hot drinks and fragile things in a bustling environment! The sister also asked me for the second time if I would be learning to drive, and I have already told her that medically I'm not allowed. I know that God equips the called rather than calling the equipped, but at the same time he does not design turtles to fly and I am not sure this sister realises quite how much of a turtle I am.
  14. 2 points
    Anastasia (L&T)

    Job hunting

    Looking for something better, better paying, and healthier for me.
  15. 2 points
    Joeysgirl

    Job for my niece

    Please pray for my disabled niece who has applied for a few jobs and has interviews next week, that she may find a position. She has had arthritis for almost 27 years (since she was 3) and can only work part time because of her disabilities. Thank you - I will remember you all in my prayers too.
  16. 2 points
    little2add

    Spam

    no one likes Spam, even Spam doesn't like Spam
  17. 2 points
    Sister Leticia

    Update and prayer request

    Dear Beatitude - congratulations on this confirmation of your next step on your journey. This is usually a time for joy and relief - but also a host of other feelings and anxieties, and all sorts of things to think/worry about and prepare for. I know that during your discernment and application you discussed your disability with the sisters. Did you also have any discussions with the Provincial or another sister about jobs you could do, which fit in with their charism and your capabilities? For example a return to care work, which I recall you used to do, and which is generally low paid. Or retail work eg on the checkout? Maybe she suggested the hostel and cafe because they know the owners or there are often vacancies, and they want you to be able to slot in quickly, instead of the uncertainty of job-hunting elsewhere? Blessings on this time - and my prayer of course, for you and the sister
  18. 1 point
    beatitude

    Age Barrier

    I agree with JHFamily's advice. It's best to have a conversation with the community in question. I also want to second what underatree wrote. I'm 31, so still under the age limit for many religious communities, but I can see that I am much less flexible and adaptable than I used to be, at least in some ways. I was in a boarding school from the age of 13 to 18, sharing a small room with three other girls, on a corridor that was bursting with still more girls. Personal space didn't exist. If I wanted to be quiet or alone I had to hole up in the library or take a walk across the sports fields. Showers were communal and if you weren't out of bed at about six in the morning you weren't guaranteed hot water. Even as eighteen-year-olds, we had to ask permission from staff for everything we wanted to do. Yet at the time this didn't bother me at all. I enjoyed life at that school, on the whole. ...and now, thirteen years since I left that school, if you told me that I would have to share my room with three other women, have limited personal space, and ask permission for things like walking into the village, my mental reaction would be NO WHAT HELP THIS WILL TAKE A MIRACLE. I'm used to having my own flat now. I like planning my own day. And I imagine that the adjustment would only get more challenging with time. This is not to say that older woman shouldn't become nuns. I've met several who have. One is a former Anglican vicar who entered a Catholic community in her late fifties, and she's incredible. But it takes great courage and humility, moreso I think than for someone younger.
  19. 1 point
    JHFamily

    Age Barrier

    I know of a personal story of a community whose age barrier was quite young but accepted a widowed grandmother. I was told they get letters somewhat regularly from women who are older and now want to enter religious life, but this lady was different. Her motivations were pure and her spiritual life already advanced. They accepted her. So, I would suggest that instead of asking, "What is your age limit?" that you write letters telling your story and why you now filled called to religious life after all these years. That says so much more than an age.
  20. 1 point
    cappie

    TENTH SUNDAY IN ORDINARY TIME

    By the time our First reading from Genesis begins in verse eight, the serpent (who by the way is never identified as Satan in Scripture) has already deceived Adam and Eve into disobeying God’s command. Now they are engaged in a hide and seek game of their own—and the stakes are high. As they hide in the garden like children, God seeks after them, fully aware that something has gone very, very wrong. We listen as God calls out to them, “Where are you?” This is the first question that God asks in Scripture and, as is the case with every good story, it is asked not just of the characters on the page and in the scene, but of every single one of us. At once, the question assumes an answer—we are not where we should be—and poses yet another question—where should we be? The last one hundred years have been marked by the exponential growth and sophistication of technology. The world is undoubtedly more connected than ever, but it may also be more distracted than ever. Scientists have long warned about the dangers of getting distracted by technology. When left unchecked, it can distract us from everything from our ability to have meaningful face-to-face conversations, to keeping our eyes on the road and off our screens as we drive. So it is with our lives of faith. In his commentary on the Book of Genesis, Walter Brueggemann suggests that the serpent in the Garden of Eden is the world’s first theologian because it is the serpent who convinces humankind to exchange obedience to God for theology about God. If we think about God narrowly enough, we can think our way to salvation. Our knowledge becomes a means of self-preservation and protection, rather than a means of transmitting and communicating faith in the living God. And yet, God cuts through our words and ideas, persistently calling out to us, “Where are you?” In the same way, when moments of tension invariably arise in our communities of faith, instead of turning to prayer and patient discernment, we get distracted by arguments and anxieties and self-interests, and so we take our ball and go home. We cut ourselves off from community and, in turn, we short-circuit the possibility of reconciliation. God’s voice calls out after us as we stomp away, “Where are you?” For us to consider this question, we must discern deeply as to where we are in relation to where God is inviting us. One place to start is to take account of all that distracts us from living lives of faithfulness. Distractions may look different for different people, but their central characteristic is the same: they draw our attention away from focusing on the life-giving parts of our lives. We can become distracted from our relationships with friends and family, Work that once brought much joy to our lives can become occluded by the desire for position and power, influence and wealth. Even our days of rest and vacation can become muddled with concerns about what we might be missing on Facebook. All these things distract us from the places in our lives that afford us peace and joy and love, and ultimately, they distract us from our life before God. The possibilities for getting distracted in our lives, and particularly our lives of faith, are many. But the Good News is that ours is a God who, no matter where we wander or try and hide, relentlessly pursues us, calling out after us, “Where are you?” and inviting us back to Godself. In the midst of our busyness it is very easy to forget to take the time to slow down, pray and discover the will of God. Even this past week in meeting with the German Evangelical Lutherans, Pope Francis stated, "Let us not forget to start from prayer, so that it is not human plans that indicate the way, but the Holy Spirit: He alone opens the way and enlightens the steps to be taken." Jesus throughout his ministry was led by the Spirit of God. It is that Spirit that can 'renew our inner self day by day'. May we listen intently enough to hear God’s voice and discern deeply enough to answer God’s call.
  21. 1 point
    sr.christinaosf

    Thoughts from a Franciscan Sister

    Hello all! I am going to cut back on posting on Our Franciscan Fiat to once a week. I hope you'll still stop by. Also, if you want to comment here or there in the meantime toward the top, I won't argue. Thanks and have a great night!
  22. 1 point
    BarbaraTherese

    Prophetic ? .........

    Reflecting on the times and in the big picture, looking past trees to see the wood, it seems to me that all Praise and Thanksgiving to The Holy Spirit for Pope Francis in our time. We needed a very strong man of great childlike Faith and trust in God and we got one. We have received the gift of a Pope and leader aware of the endless depths of Divine Mercy. A man of Scripture. A Pope who disturbs secular concepts (for one only) - and a Pope whom the secular quite often likes and in the urgent task of evangelisation, especially in our times, it is the person that speaks first without words. Francis is a Pope who talks the talk of Scripture and walks the talk. A Pope who can begin the transformation of Catholic cultural consciousness as well as the secular cultural consciousness. Be the above as it may, I still believe that if Pope Francis puts his foot down, it would go right through the jolly floor. When Cardinal Bergoglio was elected Pope taking the name of Francis, most everyone said "HUH! who on earth is he?". Our God of The ........."SURPRISE!" and more, I would wager, is 'waiting in the wings'
  23. 1 point
    dUSt

    Drop a word, keep a word (GIF edition)

    pasture swimming
  24. 1 point
    Lou

    Update and prayer request

    This is just a brief thought, but in my final year in college, which literally finished a few days ago (!), I did some administrative work for a religious order. It was very basic and low paid- just above minimum wage, with flexible hours. They didn't know I was discerning and I was treated just as the other lay staff in the "office". I filled in excel documents and wrote brief newsletters and made lists of names and addresses and put stuff in envelopes and made coffee .... the latter two jobs being the most common! It was around 10 hours per week. Anyway, there are often these sorts of jobs going in charities or in congregations or communities and I'm sure it wouldn't be a big deal if the job was in another religious congregations house. Anyway, maybe a basic or simple admin role could work and be something you could research before you enter with the guidance of the novice director. Prayers for you.
  25. 1 point
    CatherineM

    Spam

    My husband has an adult trike. I put a 48hp electric motor on it.
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