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  1. 7 points

    I'ma get married

    Sometime in 2020. Yep
  2. 5 points

    New son

    Well, my youngest daughter’s boyfriend just talked to me about asking to marry my daughter. I’ll be gaining a son. My wife and I are very thrilled for my daughter!
  3. 5 points

    Permission to attend interview

    I have a part-time job that I love. The salary is quite low and it's not enough on its own, so I've been looking for other part-time work to make ends meet. I've been invited to an interview this week. The problem is that I will need time off my current job to go. (The prospective employer is unable to change the interview time - I asked.) My boss hasn't responded to my request for time off, and I felt bad even asking, as I've already missed a lot of time in November due to my mum's recent heart attack and an appointment I had myself. Please pray that if it is God's will I will be allowed to go and I can get this job.
  4. 5 points

    Why is the Phorum Mostly Dead?

    I post every now and then in streaks. I used to go by Delivery Boy until I entered AA 63 months ago and switched to my real name at that time. By the grace of God I haven't had a drink although I have new negative addictions. I credit Phatmass for teaching me the faith and Catechizing me. I found this place at around 21 and learned a lot. I go to Mass every week now and on days of Obligation. Also Confession thanks to what I learned here. I appreciate the leiancy by the moderators over the years. I recently joined Catholic Answers Forum and within the first week was banned until 3018. The reason given was my tone in posts and lack of respect for other posters. No cursing or anything just going all the way in on some lady insinuating only Catholics will probably make it to Heaven. I get where C.A. is coming from with the Mediator of Meh ban hammer although it made me appreciate this place more and what we were/are allowed to get away with. The last sexual abuse stuff has messed with me. It sorta did in the past although when it happened in the early 2000's I was completely away from the faith. Then over the years I would hear about new stuff off and on. This last time though was tough to stomach. I wanted to join a non denominational Church or something. But I know to much to go that route. Unfortunately I've also used these scandals to justify my own sinful actions which is bad. I haven't been to Confession in 3 or 4 months. And as twisted as it is the scandels are what's going to give me the push to spit out all my grave sins (a ton) to the Priest when I do go. If he wants to yell at me fine (only happened once) but knowing what a lot of the heiarchy is guilty of and covering up I'm just another messed up sinner in good company in need of forgiveness. I'm guessing a lot of people have left Catholicism because of what happened or are in the process Of leaving now. If you're reading this and thinking about it don't. Especially if you're Holy and a decent person. People like myself need good examples to follow and learn from. And if you're like me and not Holy and thinking of leaving don't. You need Confession and all of the grace God has to pour out on you.
  5. 4 points

    How can I know what my vocation is?

    Wow, your story could be mine! Feeling lost is pretty normal; if you didnt feel any turmoil I would be worried. Trying to figure out what God wants is hard but -- You can be 100% certain that God wants you to be happy and holy. There are a lot of different ways you could become those things, but as you consider the options rest knowing that you cannot screw it up. Sometimes we are like preschoolers inconsolable because we have peed our pantaloons and think we've ruined the day out. And then God sighs heavily and brings out the plastic pantaloons. Love me the plastic pantaloons. Day out saved. In all seriousness. One way to see Gods will is to try to cultivate perfect indifference in yourself regarding your vocation. This is hard because usually we have an attraction one way or the other and actually that attraction can be a good sign of where we should test the waters first. But in my experience when you can cultivate that resignation to the divine will, that's when the door swings open into Gods calling for your life.
  6. 4 points
    Kayte Postle

    Plane Ticket and Retreat

    Hello Pham, I am discerning religious life with a specific community. I am scheduled to go on retreat with them for a week starting on Dec 9th. However I've been struggling financially and don't have the funds for a plane ticket there. I also picked up an extra job that might not let me take the time off for retreat. Please pray that the money will come for the plane ticket there, and that I can get the time off to go. Thanks, and I'll be praying for you all!
  7. 3 points

    Life Update

    Hello, phriends! It's been a really long time since I've last posted on here. I'm not really sure if any of the old guard are still on here, but just in case, I wanted to have a life update and see how everyone else is doing. So much has happened that I'm not sure what to put. I am still in seminary. I'm almost halfway done with junior year, which is going by way faster than it seems the past years have. I'm currently assisting and teaching RCIA at a parish in Dallas for my pastoral assignment this year, which is going well. Also, my beard has progressed to a satisfactory level. ...Somehow I can't really think of anything else to add. Ask me questions and I'll fill in the gaps. How is life going for you?
  8. 3 points

    Praise and Thanksgiving

    Hello everyone, I have not posted in a long time but I wanted to let you all know this praise report. I had written last time about my student loans prohibiting from entering the Poor Clares. I began my Candidacy live in at the Monastery on the Feast of St. Francis October 4th. God did a miracle two weeks later. My loans have been completely paid off! It truly was a miracle. Thank you all for your prayers and support! God is amazing. My potential entrance date to the Postulancy will be at the end of April 2019! Right now I am looking forward to spending Advent with my community. My prayers are with all of those with obstacles to entering religious life, that those obstacles will fall, and each would have the courage to pursue God's will for them. Happy Advent to all! A season of Hope!
  9. 3 points

    Life Update

    We’re fine. Been working on adopting more teenagers. We are committed to not letting another kid age out of foster care without being adopted. We got awarded the Order of St. Sylvester for our work with these kids. My husband loves the idea that he can now legally ride a horse in St. Peter’s square wearing a sword. I’m sure the Swiss Guard are going to let a 6’5” 300 lb. schizophrenic with a sword near the Pope. I volunteer with a army cadet unit. Basically Canadian JROTC. I do their uniforms and help with the pipe and drum band. I’m learning to drum military style along with a bunch of teenagers. We have a new basset hound puppy. He’s 5 months old and teething. My husband’s feet are his favorite teething rings. Fed 36 people for Thanksgiving. Some of my books have now been translated into 18 languages including Latin and Cree. I’m hoping Gaelic is next.
  10. 3 points
    Ash Wednesday

    Why is the Phorum Mostly Dead?

    A lot of phatmassers from the core group I know and remember got married and their families grew, so their available time shrunk. I know a couple of ladies personally that used to post on here and have no issues with phatmass and the phorum, but they're busy moms. I think social media changes things a lot, too. There's only 24 hours a day and more places for younger Catholics to spend their time that would normally have been flocking here. We didn't have instagram and twitter in the early 00s when Phatmass was more populated. That said I've dabbled a little bit on Catholic twitter but I found it pretty disappointing. Blocked or unfollowed for being "too traditional" because I was critical of heterodox Jesuits or blocked for pointing out that Democrats are just as bad with "cults of personality" as Trump supporters are. Or shunned by others for not being "trad enough" because I'm not a sedevacantist. Whatever, dudes. Not as friendly of a community there as phatmass has been when its at its best. For me, sometimes I get busy or just plain tired and just don't have time for Catholic internet. I spent a long time away around 2015-2016 because I was very sick but I'm doing OK now. I always like seeing familiar faces come back. I think some of the drama and fights hurt but there's no need to let those things define a place. Ideally the best you can do is try to make the place a positive corner on the internet and let the rest take care of itself.
  11. 3 points
    Credo in Deum

    Why is the Phorum Mostly Dead?

    I fell away from the faith. Stopped practicing and started deteriorating rather quickly. Lots of drugs and battles with suicidal thoughts, so basically a hopeless existence. The good part is this entire thing has shown me that my main issue is trust and self-hatred. I don’t trust God or people and I don’t value myself. I know I will need to do those two things if I’m ever going to be able to fulfill my part in this relationship. I’ve started to read a book called The Popes Against Modern Errors: 16 Papal Documents. It has really shown me how even when I was considered “practicing” that I wasn’t really orthodox in my thinking. While it’s good to be back it’s also difficult to be back. That’s the other thing I’ve noticed is how much sin has changed me inside or maybe it’s that grace is what had kept me from experiencing what fallen man naturally feels like: lost, far from God, uncomfortable around religious things and persons, untrustworthy, and hopeless.
  12. 3 points

    I'ma get married

    he sounds ok.
  13. 3 points

    2018 - Entrances, Vows, Ordinations

    Sr. Laetitia of the Barhamsville Poor Clares made her first profession of vows this past Wednesday, November 21. http://pcheartponderings.blogspot.com/2018/11/sister-laetitias-first-profession.html
  14. 2 points

    A.R.R. ..........

    This is a really good little video on prayer generally - 8.38mins. It is certainly not only for priests or religious: I am a fan of Fr. Mike and his quite short videos on seemingly endless topics.
  15. 2 points

    Why is the Phorum Mostly Dead?

    I laughed out loud in an inappropriate setting. I only post from my phone, and have never wanted to learn to post images. So here I sit, smug in my throne, blissfull in my ignorance, with a callous and unsmooshed heart.
  16. 2 points

    I'ma get married

    long engagements . . . I don't know. We still both live at home with our original nuclear families. So just figuring out how to support ourselves, where we're gonna live, what the careers will be, some last things that we want to do before we get married that will be hard/irresponsible to do with a family. I mostly want him to get his debts paid off or at least significantly dented. My credit score is too fly for that. Yeah maybe it's not a "good Catholic" thing to And yeah I haven't been posting around here too often because it's not as poppin' in here and I had a full-time, draining job. Now I'm per diem so no benefits but I can more or less make my own hours. Anyway, I met him on Catholicmatch. He's a city boy from Boston, I live in MA but am not from the city and like to keep city life at a distance. He is really into tech stuff (computers, video games) and he currently works as an assistive technology specialist for people with all types of disabilities. He's autistic. He told me that on the first date and I was kind of taken aback. I had some prejudicial thoughts that I'm not too proud of but decided to give him a shot. And I'm really glad I did because he's super sweet, caring, affectionate, and a total dork. We have wonderful conversations and he's always down to try new things. He is devoted to the holy family, St Joseph in particular and I admire how he practices his faith. He's black, Haitian to be exact. (I'm 100% white btw. 23andme confirmed this). It's funny because most people I was matching with on Catholic Match were not white. I wasn't looking for it, but hey. Our cultures are a little different, but nothing insurmountable. My family loves him. I guess the last girl's family he dated had a problem with her bringing home a black guy so he was a little nervous to meet my folks, but they welcomed him. He really loved my nana (she lived with my family for the past 8 years, and recently passed away last month). He did get to ask her for her blessing while she was dying, and she had enough strength to understand and respond to him so that was nice. He makes me very happy
  17. 2 points

    Kayte Discerns (An Ongoing Journey)

    The best thing you can do for yourself right now is to focus on becoming healthier, spiritually, mentally and physically. From your posts it sounds like you have had a rough time recently with your health which also will affect your mental and spiritual state. Trying to discern right now can be hard. Things can get confusing and you may miss subtle hints or that still small voice which is trying to guide you. What you may think is a "no" right now may mean "not right now" or "not here". Let yourself quiet down a bit and then really listen. In my own discernment I wanted (and still do to a certain extent) to know where I am called and then just go there. However the Lord is very kind and extremely merciful in that he told me "not yet". I'm a bit stubborn so He had to have someone literally out loud directly tell me that. Seriously the exact words were "Not right now". Which may sound like a no but I am now coming to realize that I'm not ready yet. There are some wounds that still need time to heal and things I need to work on. The Lord does not want you to enter and then leave because of some wound. He wants to heal you and that takes time. It is hard to hear that "not right now" or "not yet". I sobbed when I was told that. Yet in the past few months I stepped back from discernment a bit and focused on my spiritual life and allowing Him in to heal my wounds. And now that my heart is a bit quieter I am starting to hear that "still small voice" that is guiding me on my discernment. I am much more at peace and even though I don't know where all this is heading I know I am with the Lord and He is guiding me. I pray that you will also be able to hear His Voice and follow Him.
  18. 2 points
    Francis Clare

    Monks Of Adoration Suppressed

    Caution here, people! Why did this just pop up out of nowhere from a 1st time poster in response to a thread 11 years old. Just sayin....it's happened before. My antennas are on "high alert"!
  19. 2 points

    My mother in hospital

    My lovely wonderful mother is in hospital. She had a heart attack this morning. The doctors say the surgery was successful and they think she will be OK, but she needs further tests and possibly another surgery. Please pray for her and for all our family.
  20. 2 points

    Life Update

    Hello! Good to see you again! So, if you go in without a bachelor's degree, then you have 4 years of philosophy at one seminary, then move to another for 4 years of theology, getting ordained a deacon at the beginning of your last year and then ordained a priest once you've graduated. All in all, 8 years. Unless your diocese hates you, of course, in which case you take a pastoral year at a parish six or seven years in or so, making it 9 years. That's not even to mention those poor buffoons blessed souls () chosen to study at Rome who get advanced degrees and take even longer than that. But luckily my diocese sends no one to Rome, so I don't have to worry about that. Luckily, my diocese does not hate me, so it's only 8 years in total for me, with 2 1/2 down. Currently I'm at Holy Trinity in Irving, Texas, which has its classes through the University of Dallas, which normally I am grateful for and proud of but am currently rather meh about because of this 12 page philosophy paper I have to write for 2 books we neither read nor went over in class... Presuming I pass that class, in a year and a half my diocese my diocese will ship me off either to Kenrick Glennon in Saint Louis or Mundelein in Chicago. I'm kind of strongly hoping for Mundelein and will make that known when asked in a year, but I recognize my value and will be grateful that my bishop sends me anywhere at all.
  21. 2 points

    It's Saturday!

    It's Saturday!! And Feast of Christ the King.
  22. 2 points

    Curious to see what others think

    Uruguay; the age of consent is 15. He was caught with a rent boy. https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/europe/vaticancityandholysee/10191600/Popes-eyes-and-ears-in-Vatican-bank-had-string-of-homosexual-affairs.html When these things were exposed, the Pope stood by his appointee. Although the mans behavior was notorious. I personally feel very few qualms about judging the behavior of priests who break their vow of celibacy with adolescent boys.
  23. 2 points

    How can I know what my vocation is?

    The overwhelming majority of people have quite enough to do, just loving God and neighbour. I'm not being flippant. Remain faithful to your religious practise, but don't worry about a vocation. That tends to develop on its own - without dwelling on this. For example, my parents were utterly devoted to one another, very much in love, very responsible with their family. My mother was devout, but she hadn't done anything special to discern a vocation - it just happened that they fell in love and married (and that was a vocation.) I cannot even explain my own consecrated life - it just turned out being what I was born to do (and I had graduate degrees before a vowed life even entered my mind.) Dwelling on looking for a divine word about vocation now will only cause you anxiety. Most vocations just grow out of day to day living.
  24. 2 points

    Life Update

    a foolish person chunnp chum p
  25. 2 points

    Update Sister-in-law wants to become a Catholic

    Thank you for all your prayers - our sister in law Fran will be received into the church and receive her first Communion this Sunday 25 November. Please pray for us all - it is a beautiful outcome but bittersweet that her husband our late brother, and her late sister (also a convert) who died 3 months ago will not be with us. My husband and I are her sponsors - in their place. We will truly experience the Comminion of Saints. i will pray for you too at our Mass.