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  1. 3 points
    beatitude

    Feeling unworthy

    I will pray for you. I'm away from home for the summer, and attending a parish named after St Francis de Sales, which inspired me to pick up his writings again. They are very practical and down to earth. I think they might really help you. One thing Francis says is, "He asks for your own heart. Give it such as it is...Are we not aware that everything that is placed in his divine hands is converted to good?" So there is no sense in even using words like 'worthy' or 'not worthy', because God wants our mess and our failures just as much as he wants what's best in us. All we have to do is hand them to him. Literally. I've stomped up to Communion before now and said to God as I waited in the line, "Here I am, Lord, in a towering temper. I give you my anger." Be honest, with God and with yourself. That's all he wants - for our honest gift of ourselves. He can do the rest. Sometimes the idea of unworthiness is a cloak for fear of religious life. I've met a lot of people who said they were unworthy, and underneath it, they were afraid. Afraid of failing somehow, afraid of being unhappy, afraid it wouldn't work out. I'm not saying this is you, but if it is, offer him that fear along with the sense of being unworthy. Give him everything in prayer. He'll look after you.
  2. 2 points
    Seven77

    The Wall

    To get back on topic, I think the Trump supporters should be more vocal about this issue and denouncing Trump's policy. (I'm talking specifically about separating children, especially those who arrive here with their parents.) To say that Obama did it too is a red herring. It seems that those children were already separated for the most part… And even if it is the same as what is happening now, both situations are just as bad. Trump supporters, while condemning abortion--- obviously the right thing to do---- did not condemn Obama's immigration policies which were unjust. Yes, it's great that Trump is against abortion, but if you voted for him, you have the obligation to call him out on immigration without turning a blind eye to it. Plus, if one is willing to fill Obama under the bus for immigration (as some people are doing all of a sudden to excuse what Trump is doing with immigration), throw Trump under the bus for it too. I believe that if those who are vocal about condemning abortion are also vocal about condemning unjust immigration policies which, granted may not have the same amount of gravity, we will make serious inroads in changing popular opinion about abortion and the other life issues. People will make connections when they understand that we also condemn other things that jeopardize human dignity--- they will begin to see that abortion too, jeopardizes human dignity.
  3. 2 points
    Lou

    Kayte Discerns (An Ongoing Journey)

    I talk to the VD of the community I'm entering almost weekly... But I think probably monthly is a good beginning point. It's a two way street though and they can get in touch too. Though some VDs don't want to come across as if they're pressurising the discerner so it's good for you to reach out to let them know that you're still praying about it and still hoping to come to visit and still feeling that attraction. It's also helpful if they know what else you're up in the summer to help them get to know you! So if you're working a bit or going on vacation (!), just tell them, adding on that you'd like to visit in fall if that suits. Equally asking them for book recommendations to learn more about their community or Order is a wise option too Glad your talk with your mom went well. I have a similar situation so I empathise. Keep praying for her, these things are never as bad as they seem at first, God has a hand. All will be well.
  4. 2 points
    fides' Jack

    Holiness

    Basically, you're saying that the most any one person can do, their highest calling, is to do what God wills for them. And I absolutely agree with that, completely. My beef with this position comes when people claim that when 1 person does God's will for them 100%, and another person does God's will for them 100%, that it somehow makes them equally holy, or just equal in general. That's really not the case. God calls some people to a greater holiness than other people. That's the simple truth. Not all vocations are equal. Objectively speaking, a religious vocation is holier than the married life. The early Church fathers noted this on many occasions. Absolutely nothing. But that doesn't mean that one person submitting to God's will can't be more or less pleasing to God than another person submitting to His will. I think we could argue about the definition of the word "holy", and argue about whether one person doing His will is holier than another person doing His will. That really depends on the definition. But certainly, God loves some people more than others, and some people are more pleasing to Him. I would say that the level of being pleasing to Him is not solely based on the level at which a person does His will. Edit: removed extra apostrophe... how embarrassing! It would be easier for the world to survive without the sun than to do without Holy Mass. ~ St. Pio of Pietrelcina
  5. 2 points
    Ash Wednesday

    The Wall

    Making these kinds of assumptions and having a condescending attitude towards people on here is certainly not going to get you anywhere.
  6. 2 points
    Sister Leticia

    Feeling unworthy

    Hello and welcome! Feeling unworthy, or aware of our shortcomings, is quite normal for someone considering religious life. It's certainly how I felt, almost 30 years ago - very aware of my lack of fervour and holiness. And it doesn't always help when you meet holy and inspiring religious, because you set an ideal before yourself, and just can't imagine ever being even half as holy! It isn't necessarily about what we might call "having a past". In fact, the past is easier to deal with, precisely because it is the past, and we have/can move on from it and grow. No, it's our present-day weaknesses which can drag us down, and make us doubt God's amazing, unbelievable choice and call. Believe in grace - and believe in God's copious generosity with grace. That's what sustains us, and enables us to grow, and transcend our selfishness and sin. Pray with yesterday's second reading, in which God tells St Paul "my grace is enough for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness". Or, as St Madeleine Sophie, who founded my order once said: "so you say you are weak - but have you measured the strength of God?" Blessings on your journey!
  7. 2 points
    underatree

    Daughters of divine will

    Of course none of it is "scandalous" -- if you haven't lived religious life, it all seems fine, and if you have lived religious life then the obvious implications of that book won't even surprise, let alone scandalize. Hard disagree on the "it's none of our business" -- if you are discerning religious life, these things are important. Every community has problems, just like every family or every company. However, if you're job-hunting, you might want to know which companies in your sector are booming, which are close to bankruptcy, which ones have a reputation for sexual harassment or 80-hour workweeks, which ones have good health plans or retirement benefits.... It's your life, and there are no extra points for making bad decisions. Please please don't join a religious community because you think they need you or you're doing them a favor. Lots of people who are attracted to religious life are the same people who can never say no to anything in the parish, or at work, or in their family or among their friends. Some people who become "mother foundress" are doing it to fulfill their personal psychological or emotional needs, or for other reasons unrelated to a call from the Holy Spirit. A genuine and balanced foundress of a new community will understand your questions and concerns as prudence, not doubt or disagreement or suspicion of wrongdoing. I can understand a community wanting to pretend in a published work that a split among the sisters was a mutually agreeable gift from God -- but if they maintain that front while speaking to a discerner privately and in person, they're not being truthful, with you or with themselves (particularly if the split was as recent as the one in question). Conflicts like this create deep wounds, especially among women who have lived, prayed and worked together for many years. According to Arroyo, the sister who now has taken the name of Gabrielle Marie founded her new community after she was prohibited by the PCPA sisters from returning to the monastery after her required sabbatical. Of course he uses lots of nice words to make it sound all very spiritual, because the idea that he's selling here is that Mother Angelica was responsible for the foundation of many religious congregations (and that this is a good thing). You are not responsible for the vocations crisis in the Church, and you are not responsible for fixing it. You are responsible for your own life and your own decisions. Do not listen to people who want to use you to fix their congregation, or their diocese, or their mistakes. Your discernment is not about them. Remember that God does not need you in order to do anything! He is more than capable. He will give you work; you do not ever have to go looking for the biggest cross you can find.
  8. 1 point
    Sponsa-Christi

    Silly Songs

    From The 5,000 Fingers of Dr. T, easily the weirdest movie I have ever seen:
  9. 1 point
    Anomaly

    The Wall

    Ash, You’re being trolled, now. Only little2ad cares to engage with gsh for any length of time. It’s what the web is now.
  10. 1 point
    linate

    The Wall

    coming from another liberal outcast, i think said comment was just provocative at worst.... you'd have to read into it to say it was a threat. it's possible it was a veiled threat, but you have to read too much into it to think that. i think you could draw analogies to something like "that's a nice body you have... it'd be a shame if someone killed it", but i dont think they are strong enough to make it a strong enough comparison. there's a continuum to what it's comparable to, and i think most of us just don't view it as serious enough to call it a threat.
  11. 1 point
    underatree

    Life "Behind Bars"

    Viewing your family as an "impediment to holiness" is probably not very healthy or helpful. An inordinate attachment to anything is a form of idolatry, which really just means substituting God with something else. We all do it to some degree because we're not angels (meaning we live in time with matter and subject to the gradual workings of grace). It's not uncommon, early in religious life, to need separation from friends and family in order to fully embrace the new way of life. It's similar psychologically to boot camp -- you need that intense, focused, immersive environment, and properly done it helps you leave behind your previous emotional crutches and form bonds with your new community. I think especially when you're not experienced in religious life it's easy to imagine that it would all be different if I could just change my circumstances. If I had a better job/lived there instead of here/didn't have this problem/got along with that relative/had taken an opportunity/just had better options, then I would be a better person. What I have learned is that regardless of my circumstances, my only real impediment to holiness is me.
  12. 1 point
    BarbaraTherese

    Prayer

    Deo Gratius - they are all out! "THE Tham Luang cave has delivered its miracle, with all 13 members of the Wild Boar soccer team making it to safety in one of the most inspiring rescue missions the world has witnessed. The Royal Thai Navy SEALS have confirmed all 12 boys and their coach have successfully swum through flooded passages and are now either out of the cave system or currently making their way. It is understood the team’s coach is still at the third chamber where rescuers have set up a base camp, but will be coming out soon.' Read More HERE Giving thanks with prayer that after their terrible ordeal they will soon be in good health and fully re-united with loved ones.
  13. 1 point
    Ash Wednesday

    The Wall

    How many times have I had to explain that I viewed it as a rhetorical question and NOT an actual death threat? If you keep accusing me of condoning death threats -- when I do not -- then you don't need to decide whether you want to come back, I'll make that decision for you.
  14. 1 point
    sr.christinaosf

    Religious Life - funny anecdotes

    OK - I was going to say - I'm not THAT old
  15. 1 point
    GreenScapularedHuman

    The Wall

    It wasn't an insinuation. They asked why they couldnt come kill me for no reason. And if we want to pretend death threats and my tone (which is almost entirely your imagination it would seem) are on the same level... thats so flooping flooped up I am not sure where to start.
  16. 1 point
    fides' Jack

    The Wall

    I really don't know where you get these numbers. I would say the wild support for Trump is probably less than 5%. Defense for Trump is probably closer to 45% or 50% - just based on the fact that he was voted President. I voted for him, and I'd defend him in an argument, but I also despise the man. He's disgusting. Should someone like him be president? Probably not. He's the president we need, not the one we deserve. I'll be voting for him again in 2020. No, that's not the message of Christianity. That's a popular misconception. The message of Christianity is to try to get people into Heaven, by telling them the truth: if they don't love God and live the way they should, they will go to Hell. (Most people on this site would disagree with that statement, by the way) No, I'd say of the non-Catholics I've seen here, you're nowhere near the most liberal, politically. I would hope that Catholics would tend to be on the right politically, but I've also seen many people professing to be Catholic here take some of the same stances you have. I really, really doubt anyone here condoned shouting murder and rape. Please give a link - I really want to read where that accusation is coming from. If people here are doing that, dUSt would absolutely have their accounts suspended in a heartbeat. If anything, I think the moderation here is too strict - which is absolutely their right to be. By the way, the only people I've seen shouting those kinds of things come from the far-left (including mass media, educational systems, Hollywood, Antifa, and supporters of these organizations).
  17. 1 point
    BarbaraTherese

    Feeling unworthy

    I don't think you would be alone in what you feel. Many nuns, religious sisters and priests too have a past. Last night at Mass a young man in the noviciate of a religious order spoke about his not-good-at all-past and how humbled he felt to be called to religious life. No one is worthy of any gift of God whatsoever including a religious vocation. God's Gifts are freely given and given to one are given to all - and this is because His Gifts are given for the good of the whole Church and this might be most mysterious to us from our God Who Is Mystery. There is a saying that goes "God does not call the qualified, he qualifies the called". I am wondering if you have spiritual direction where you can open up and speak freely about your feelings - all of them. Prayers for you and your vocation. ______________ Don't hang on to your past nor tend to live in it or from it. Once you have made a good Confession, God not only forgives, He forgets and wipes your slate completely clean as surely as if nothing happened at all. That is the type of forgiveness we owe to each other and to ourselves.
  18. 1 point
    Laurie

    Holiness

    I agree with everything you said. What I would add is without married couples & children, there would be no one to receive the sacrifice of the Cross throughout the ages. Christ laid his life down for the Church, His people. They are initiated into being His people through the ministry of the clergy who bring us all the sacraments. But there'd be no Church & no one to initiate without marriage.
  19. 1 point
    little2add

    Silly Songs

  20. 1 point
    Luigi

    Religious: how to know which community?

    1. Write out the names names of the three congregations/orders - leave some space below the names. 2. Now, write, ROCK under the first one, PAPER under the second one, and SCISSORS under the third one. 3. Now, draft a friend to play Rock-Paper-Scissors with you. You should know is just a couple of rounds! (Just kidding! But don't you wish it were that easy?)
  21. 1 point
    Ash Wednesday

    Supreme Court Justice Anthony Kennedy's retirement

    Good night, sweet thread.
  22. 1 point
    GreenScapularedHuman

    The Wall

  23. 1 point
    Nunsuch

    New Book: New forms of religious life

    There is a new book on new forms of religious life, including hermit life, consecrated virgins, and others. Some here may find it of interest: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1717148026/
  24. 1 point
    dUSt

    The Wall

    I don't think crossing borders is a crime, so I don't agree with having a wall at all. People should be free to come and go as they please. If they want to take advantage of the full U.S. welfare system, then they should become U.S. citizens. If they don't become U.S. citizens, they should be identified, given a non-citizen ID and provided basic human needs (minimal welfare). If they do a crime, they do the time (I also think the criminal system needs an overhaul to better turn criminals into productive people, instead of turning criminals into worse criminals). And yes, I also think the U.S. should be a better neighbor.
  25. 1 point
    Kateri89

    Franciscan Sisters of the Immaculate?

    I had visited with the sisters at their convent in Massachusetts about two years ago. The last time I spoke to a sister was late last summer. I found out early this year that they had left the US and weren’t accepting new vocations for 3 years. I emailed a different sister whose contact info was on their website but never heard back. It’s so unclear as to what spurred the investigation to begin with and why it’s still going on four years later with no end in sight. It’s disheartening because I loved this Order and was seriously considering applying with them. God knows what’s best so I’ll trust Him that I wasn’t meant to enter with them, at least at this time. Now I’m looking into the Franciscan Sisters of the Renewal and the Marian Sisters of Santa Rosa. I love the spirituality of the CFR Sisters but I love the liturgy and Marian devotion of the Marian Sisters. God willing, I’ll follow His path for me.
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