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    Lilllabettt

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  1. 5 points
    beatitude

    Permission to attend interview

    I have a part-time job that I love. The salary is quite low and it's not enough on its own, so I've been looking for other part-time work to make ends meet. I've been invited to an interview this week. The problem is that I will need time off my current job to go. (The prospective employer is unable to change the interview time - I asked.) My boss hasn't responded to my request for time off, and I felt bad even asking, as I've already missed a lot of time in November due to my mum's recent heart attack and an appointment I had myself. Please pray that if it is God's will I will be allowed to go and I can get this job.
  2. 4 points
    Maximilianus

    Why is the Phorum Mostly Dead?

    phatmass is like a pub you used to frequent daily, but now visit on occasion. At one time it was vibrant and you looked forward to spending time there. Now when you go to the pub you don't recognize many or the place is empty. Long time patrons that were staples of activity have long gone, or just come inside to down a shot of spirits, pass some pleasantries then disappear like a fog that has been dissipated by the dawning of the morning sun. You have a vague recognition of some of the patrons. A few you have seen at the pub since your very first day there, but you really don't know them, so you don't even make any kind of contact, you just let them imbibe in peace. Every once in a while you run into an old acquaintance, but the relationship has devolved to where they are almost strangers again. You see other old acquaintances across the bar in a booth. They acknowledge you with a raise of their glass or a nod and quickly turn back to their already in progress conversation with another vaguely familiar patron. Every once in a while there is a bar scuffle, sometimes between individuals, sometimes it's an affair with multiple patrons, but the pub owner quells the conflict. You look around the dimly lit hall, at the empty seats, stools, booths, and sigh. You think of when they used to be filled, of the abundance of good natured revelry, exchange of ideas, exchange of experiences, the sometimes tense contentions and mutual reinforcement of ideals and beliefs. So you sit at the bar, all alone, staring at your pint and looking at the myriad of faded and tired advertisements on the walls of various beverages while in the background someone attempts to play Gary Jules's version of 'Mad World' on an old piano. You smile at the faint familiarity, turn back and finish your malty beverage, then leave the establishment. As you walk home you pass other pubs, some you have been to before, some you don't care to enter. None of them look particularly inviting. So you enter a bookstore, head to the Catholic section that has a half a dozen books. You see the NAB, CCC, Catholicism for dummies, 2 books by popular heterodox authors and a misplaced copy of "Green Eggs and Ham". Fin
  3. 3 points
    Lilllabettt

    You Had a Wedding Share Your Knowledges Thread

    My husband makes rosaries; he made me this one; it was my something blue. We also had to get married on the Feast of Our Lady of the Rosary, Because. Husband getting ready, is handsome Flower girl, her name is Mary Madeline Country church Lovely chanted Nuptial Mass with schola and CHANT. During the homily Father played a 3 minute youtube clip from his ipod. Something will go splat on your wedding day, just roll with it. Skip unity candle, go pray to Our Lady My sweetie had all his military buddies come and do an arch of swords. He did all the planning for this. It was a Major Accomplishment. Everyone look at the front of my dress. Reception was at a hotel. Wedding planning advice: pick your 3 main things you want to spend money on and cut corners on all else. I wanted nice photography, music (esp. for Mass) and good food. I wore a Davids Bridal dress I bought used, online. We did not have a limo, my husband drove us. I did candles and greenery, no flowers except my bouquet. Flowers are SO expensive, people are allergic, they have to be done last minute and they wilt if you look at them wrong, and they DIE. I saved so much money and anxiety and hassle by buying wholesale candles and wholesale greenery and getting everything set up ahead of time. Marriage advice: Only been married a year, so I don't have much to give. Take time every day to look at your spouse, really BEHOLD them, think on how lucky you are, and promise God again to take care of them.
  4. 2 points
    Lilllabettt

    You Had a Wedding Share Your Knowledges Thread

    Some people from phatmass are getting married. We should give them wedding inspo by posting pictures. Whether you got married yeseterday or 50 yrs ago ... post those pics and your advices about wedding planning or marriage. What was your best wedding planning decision? Did anything go wrong the day of? If you've been married awhile and could go back to your wedding day to tell your newlywed self some wisdom, what would it be?
  5. 2 points
    Miss Simon

    You Had a Wedding Share Your Knowledges Thread

    My wedding was small. We chose to save on arbitrarily inflated prices that follow in the shadow of newly engaged couples and spend that money instead on a nice honeymoon. I think our wedding was 30 people or so? Including the wedding party. My husband and I also do not gravitate towards much pomp and circumstance so that might also explain it. My advice to those planning weddings is do what makes you feel comfortable. You'll want to enjoy the day and not worry about technical details so plan for something within the range of your stress levels.
  6. 2 points
    CatherineM

    Life Update

    We’re fine. Been working on adopting more teenagers. We are committed to not letting another kid age out of foster care without being adopted. We got awarded the Order of St. Sylvester for our work with these kids. My husband loves the idea that he can now legally ride a horse in St. Peter’s square wearing a sword. I’m sure the Swiss Guard are going to let a 6’5” 300 lb. schizophrenic with a sword near the Pope. I volunteer with a army cadet unit. Basically Canadian JROTC. I do their uniforms and help with the pipe and drum band. I’m learning to drum military style along with a bunch of teenagers. We have a new basset hound puppy. He’s 5 months old and teething. My husband’s feet are his favorite teething rings. Fed 36 people for Thanksgiving. Some of my books have now been translated into 18 languages including Latin and Cree. I’m hoping Gaelic is next.
  7. 1 point
    Lilllabettt

    Why is the Phorum Mostly Dead?

    Did they really ban you 1000 years? I have to say I appreciate the dramatic flourish. 1,000 yrs is more beautiful than "perma ban." I used to tell bad Catholics they should consider leaving the church. When I say bad, I dont mean sinners. I mean people who just dont believe that what the Church teaches is a sin, is a sin. Because I believe God prefers an honest atheist to a hypocritical Catholic, who mouths the words I'm Catholic but who's heart says "no." And, I still believe this, honestly. I think people who confront who they are have a better chance at conversion one day too vs someone who stays comfy as a cultural catholic. And I, personally, know that I value integrity more than other things. So I would 100% burn my catholic culture to the ground if I didnt think it was true. Part of it is I expect others to value the same things, and I am irritated when they dont. But, I repented from that, because i realized its above my pay grade. I have too much fear and trembling that people could die in mortal sin because of my advice. Maybe they would anyway, because they dont see a need to confess sexual sin, for example. But who knows what path their soul might take, better to leave it to God than to puppet master people. So, it is needed to take care what we say or do. On the other hand. Ive heard it said there are two sins. Giving scandal and being scandalized. Giving scandal is like murder, being scandalized is like suicide. Like you said. committing spiritual suicide because of a message board would seem to be seriously lame. One would think people value their relationship with Jesus more than that - if they were believers to begin with.
  8. 1 point
    Anomaly

    Why is the Phorum Mostly Dead?

    #1 Reason: Because dUSt rarely posts and is minimally involved in the website. That is the lack of leadership personality needed.
  9. 1 point
    MIKolbe

    Date a non Catholic

    I married a non-catholic... didn't even get a dispensation for cult..parish said they would handle it and they didn't, and I didn't know any better. She was received into the Church 3 years ago.
  10. 1 point
    Meritt

    Praise and Thanksgiving

    Hello everyone, I have not posted in a long time but I wanted to let you all know this praise report. I had written last time about my student loans prohibiting from entering the Poor Clares. I began my Candidacy live in at the Monastery on the Feast of St. Francis October 4th. God did a miracle two weeks later. My loans have been completely paid off! It truly was a miracle. Thank you all for your prayers and support! God is amazing. My potential entrance date to the Postulancy will be at the end of April 2019! Right now I am looking forward to spending Advent with my community. My prayers are with all of those with obstacles to entering religious life, that those obstacles will fall, and each would have the courage to pursue God's will for them. Happy Advent to all! A season of Hope!
  11. 1 point
    Kayte Postle

    Kayte Discerns (An Ongoing Journey)

    You guys rock, just fyi. I've had a lot of talks with my SD, my friends, my family, and even the VD of the community I'm discerning with. The one thing know for sure is that I need some time for life to settle down before proceeding. The money and timing hasn't come together for me to visit the sisters in December, and I had a very good talk with the VD about this. We are shooting for sometime in the spring, which really gives me the chance to heal more, and let life settle a bit. I'm so thankful for all of your thoughtful responses, and I'm so thankful for this little internet community. I'll be keeping y'all in prayer!
  12. 1 point
    lost_in_this_world

    Why is the Phorum Mostly Dead?

    As someone who was slightly active for a hot second years ago and now recently started checking it out again, I think it has a lot to do with the way responses are perceived by the one who started the thread. Sometimes when someone has a question or comment that doesn’t fit the proper catholic mold, I think some of the responses can be a bit challenging to swallow. Not that they are wrong but it’s hard to interpret a persons inflection when reading a comment online. I also think that in general there are a lot of issues with the church right now so when someone is looking for guidance or answers and they get a firm response. It might be hard for them to move on. We must remember that we are all imperfect and sometimes that doesn’t come across.
  13. 1 point
    Lilllabettt

    Going Away Party

    Peo tip: if you want to gift someone money, give them a check and write the purpose it is restricted to in the memo line. That way it has to go where you intended it, legally. When I was in we got a lot of donations restricted to Dairy Queen ice cream trips because one if the sisters moms knew about how to do this
  14. 1 point
    Lilllabettt

    Chastity and Counseling

    I feel like it's a fake question. I mean duh. I think we know the answer, right. But the choice is not that simple. If you are using and abusing women sexually (by having premarital sex with them for example) that isn't healed just because now you're married and your sex is acceptable. Married men can and do use their wives. If you can't practice continence you're going to be rubbish at marriage. Because when you need to practice continence and you're married... its worse because you "should" be able to indulge.
  15. 1 point
    Ash Wednesday

    Curious to see what others think

    To answer the poster's original question, perhaps one reason why they push gay/questioning families on TV so much is because they are afraid of criticism and being viewed as "homophobic" -- if you want to make it in the business these days, generally you have to go with "the agenda" or you're done. Not that I agree with it. I also think that people have a tendency to want to overcompensate for past social wrongs, or at least things they viewed as wrong. Treating homosexuals as anything less than fellow human beings and children of God WAS wrong. However, upholding and celebrating the traditional family structure based on a marriage between a man and a woman was not. As for "Who am I to judge?" -- the problem I have with this quote, regardless of what the Pope's intentions were when he said it, is that it has been overused and abused so much by people to justify a relaxed attitude about sin and an inability to tolerate any criticism about it. In fairness to Francis, at the very least he came out this week and stated that men with deep rooted homosexuality shouldn't be priests. But I'm sure people are going to sweep that aside and ignore it. People have been taking what the pope says and just picking, choosing, and hearing what they want to hear for decades now.
  16. 1 point
    Ash Wednesday

    Why is the Phorum Mostly Dead?

    A lot of phatmassers from the core group I know and remember got married and their families grew, so their available time shrunk. I know a couple of ladies personally that used to post on here and have no issues with phatmass and the phorum, but they're busy moms. I think social media changes things a lot, too. There's only 24 hours a day and more places for younger Catholics to spend their time that would normally have been flocking here. We didn't have instagram and twitter in the early 00s when Phatmass was more populated. That said I've dabbled a little bit on Catholic twitter but I found it pretty disappointing. Blocked or unfollowed for being "too traditional" because I was critical of heterodox Jesuits or blocked for pointing out that Democrats are just as bad with "cults of personality" as Trump supporters are. Or shunned by others for not being "trad enough" because I'm not a sedevacantist. Whatever, dudes. Not as friendly of a community there as phatmass has been when its at its best. For me, sometimes I get busy or just plain tired and just don't have time for Catholic internet. I spent a long time away around 2015-2016 because I was very sick but I'm doing OK now. I always like seeing familiar faces come back. I think some of the drama and fights hurt but there's no need to let those things define a place. Ideally the best you can do is try to make the place a positive corner on the internet and let the rest take care of itself.
  17. 1 point
    Josh

    Why is the Phorum Mostly Dead?

    I post every now and then in streaks. I used to go by Delivery Boy until I entered AA 63 months ago and switched to my real name at that time. By the grace of God I haven't had a drink although I have new negative addictions. I credit Phatmass for teaching me the faith and Catechizing me. I found this place at around 21 and learned a lot. I go to Mass every week now and on days of Obligation. Also Confession thanks to what I learned here. I appreciate the leiancy by the moderators over the years. I recently joined Catholic Answers Forum and within the first week was banned until 3018. The reason given was my tone in posts and lack of respect for other posters. No cursing or anything just going all the way in on some lady insinuating only Catholics will probably make it to Heaven. I get where C.A. is coming from with the Mediator of Meh ban hammer although it made me appreciate this place more and what we were/are allowed to get away with. The last sexual abuse stuff has messed with me. It sorta did in the past although when it happened in the early 2000's I was completely away from the faith. Then over the years I would hear about new stuff off and on. This last time though was tough to stomach. I wanted to join a non denominational Church or something. But I know to much to go that route. Unfortunately I've also used these scandals to justify my own sinful actions which is bad. I haven't been to Confession in 3 or 4 months. And as twisted as it is the scandels are what's going to give me the push to spit out all my grave sins (a ton) to the Priest when I do go. If he wants to yell at me fine (only happened once) but knowing what a lot of the heiarchy is guilty of and covering up I'm just another messed up sinner in good company in need of forgiveness. I'm guessing a lot of people have left Catholicism because of what happened or are in the process Of leaving now. If you're reading this and thinking about it don't. Especially if you're Holy and a decent person. People like myself need good examples to follow and learn from. And if you're like me and not Holy and thinking of leaving don't. You need Confession and all of the grace God has to pour out on you.
  18. 1 point
    Ice_nine

    I'ma get married

    No worries, we both are! Yes he's 7/7
  19. 1 point
    beatitude

    My mother in hospital

    My lovely wonderful mother is in hospital. She had a heart attack this morning. The doctors say the surgery was successful and they think she will be OK, but she needs further tests and possibly another surgery. Please pray for her and for all our family.
  20. 1 point
    Lilllabettt

    Curious to see what others think

    Uruguay; the age of consent is 15. He was caught with a rent boy. https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/europe/vaticancityandholysee/10191600/Popes-eyes-and-ears-in-Vatican-bank-had-string-of-homosexual-affairs.html When these things were exposed, the Pope stood by his appointee. Although the mans behavior was notorious. I personally feel very few qualms about judging the behavior of priests who break their vow of celibacy with adolescent boys.
  21. 1 point
    Kayte Postle

    Plane Ticket and Retreat

    Hello Pham, I am discerning religious life with a specific community. I am scheduled to go on retreat with them for a week starting on Dec 9th. However I've been struggling financially and don't have the funds for a plane ticket there. I also picked up an extra job that might not let me take the time off for retreat. Please pray that the money will come for the plane ticket there, and that I can get the time off to go. Thanks, and I'll be praying for you all!
  22. 1 point
    beatitude

    15-year-old boy in hospital

    Please pray for one of my students, a 15-year-old boy with special educational needs who has been hospitalised after trying to take his own life. When the general hospital staff told him he was being transferred to a teenagers' psychiatric unit he ran away and had to be brought back by police. He has been detained under the Mental Health Act. He will be in the teenagers' unit for at least a month. He is very frightened and angry and he misses his friends at school. Please pray for him.
  23. 1 point
    BarbaraTherese

    Bipolar episode

    A prayer please and thank you..........Phatmass prayers are very effective for me. Struggling just now with a bipolar episode and am in contact with my doctor. I have written more into the "Private Vows in the Laity/Spirituality" thread in Open Mic ...... HERE I pray daily for Phatmass members and Administration (dUSt and Moderators), especially those asking for and needing prayers. Father is coming tomorrow morning with Holy Communion
  24. 0 points
    tinytherese

    Former Classmate Died at 29

    A short time ago, I heard that a classmate from college died months ago. I found out on Facebook when her girlfriend announced that she was starting a scholarship fund in her honor. I wasn't close to her or her girlfriend, but we occassionally hung out. I didn't anticipate that I'd outlive a classmate from the same year as me at my age. I didn't even know that she was ill.
  25. 0 points
    Makarioi

    Thoughts from a Franciscan Sister

    I'm sorry to hear that and I will definitely keep you and your dad (family) in my prayers
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