well, I've been posting on PM for awhile now, but I haven't posted here until now. I've felt the call to priesthood, but at the same time I kinda feel called to marriage. It's been on the back of my mind since high school and now it's my 4th year in college. I decided a long time ago that I should go to regular college first before the seminary. I figured I could spend more time on studying things like Theology and philosophy and focus on my formation. I'm still holding myself to that, but I'm nearing the end of college career. I've had people (including my own parents) tell me that I should go into the priesthood and I would make a good priest, but I've also had people say think I could go either way and be good at it. I've never actually dated seriously, so I'm feel like I'm lacking in that department. However, God doesn't call the equipped, He equips the called. I don't know how that would work out, but we'll see.

Just recently, I went on the Regional FOCUS conference in Chicago. I went to Vocations panel for Men, and listened to what they had to say, and even asked a few questions of my own. I asked them what advice they would give to someone who felt unsure about their vocation. The main response was to take action and find out about each vocation. Fr. Luke of the CFR's told me that JPG said there were 3 main reasons for young men not wanting to enter into formation. They are lack of a relationship with Christ, Fear of commitment, and lack of education about the vocation. Msgr. Swetland of Peoria, Illinois suggested learning about the priesthood formation first before marriage. His reasoning was that if I dated first and then decided on the priesthood, I would be jerking aorund the emotions of my girlfriend, and that wouldn't be nice. I totally agree with everything that was said. So I've decided to take a more active role in my discernment. I've also decided that I need to take my faith to the next level, especially since I've been going through some rough times and wearing me down.

I was wondering if there was anyone else who is or has been in a similar situation. I would very much like to hear from them. If you have any questions for me, please feel free to ask. Thanks and God bless.

Thanks so much O_J for sharing your story on here. I don't have much in terms of advice to help you. It sounds like you've sought the wisdom and council of others, and are invested in bettering yourself as a person.

Prayers of wisdom for you on your journey.

That's a great saying.

O_J, very few people are sure of their vocation in the beginning. If you feel called to both marriage and the priesthood then this is what I suggest you do.

Since 'trying out' marriage is hard, if not sinful; I suggest you try out the priesthood first. Find a community whose charism attracts you and give them a shot. What is the worst case scenario? Well, there isn't one. You'll either find out that the priesthood is where God wants you or you'll find out that you're called to marriage.

Either way, in the end you win. In the mean time, you're almost guaranteed to grow in holiness.

Let us know what you decide.

I agree with you! I'd say to check out the priesthood. God will tell you in your heart if it is right for you or not.

That's the main question -- ask God what He wants for your life. You won't regret it.

Peace and all good man!

That's kinda what Msgr. Swetland said to me.
























When did people decide to call me O_J?