How do you know if the person you are dating is the one you will eventually marry?

You get struck by lightning and have a eureka moment.

Hehe. Just kidding.

When the question is popped and the "yes" is given in reply.

Well, i doubt if one goes on a first date, or dates for a month, if one will know definatively, then and there. Like with all great things like love and wisdom; patience and prayer are required.

Unfortunately, there is no magic checklist to mark off; other than the one in your heart and soul.

With me, i just knew. I cannot fully explain it logically. She inspires me. I see God's heart in her. I feel God's love through her.. if that makes sense.... I just knew she was for me. it was like God slapped me about the face and said "wake up, this IS her". But i tend to need God slapping me many times to make His point.

Pray. Ask God.

i like that answer

Amen! God is constantly hitting me with a 2x4 to wake me up! I'm kinda like you, though, I just knew. Not the first time I met my husband; we were friends for quite a while when I started feeling attracted to him. I prayed for 3 months before starting to pursue a relationship, and another 3 months of prayer before we actually had our first real date. I did know by then, because I felt God affirming it in my prayer, but I know my husband's experience of it was completely different. In other words, there is no one way of knowing, Iguess.

It's cliched, but true. You really do just know. For me, the a-ha moment came early in our relationship. We were hugging hello, and when we pulled apart, I swear to you it felt like our souls were separating. It literally hurt. A longer period of time, prayer and reflection (and many serious discussions about marriage and our views on it) confirmed that moment.

Basically, that is one of those questions that you will answer about yourself better than any of us can. Through prayer, of course.


Usually though, if you find yourself with a huge shiny rock on your ring finger, that's a pretty good clue.

"I just knew" is a terribly unhelpful answer, but its TRUE. I did just know. It was like God placed Matt in my life at the exact moment I needed him; he has been my rock, hero, support, and best friend (etc., etc., etc.) since the beginning.

All cliches have truth in them.

When you are seperated you feel like you are living half a life. When you are together you are finally whole.
When they hurt, you physically hurt as well.
When you are together, you are more "you" than you ever imagined.
When being with them turns the whole universe upside down - literally
When together you think no one has loved as you do , and no one will ever do so again.

This is very interesting.

Wow.

I have seen and heard this question asked many times, and this is the best answer to it I've ever seen.