Folks: I had a question.. Someone (a former seminarian and a married man who used to be a seminarian before he got married) said that if I am still a virgin before wanting to enter the seminary that I need to "get the wild oats" out of my system because I can't stay like that forever? I know you'll will say this isn't true but why would guys who used to be in the seminarian say such a thing? My conscience is very good that I couldn't think about losing my virginity before marriage but that wouldn't be good advice to my discerning right (what both of them told me). Sometimes I feel like you have to "get the wild oats out of your system" before you enter the seminary? This sounds confusing.. sorry!

Pax,
Chris

Pardon me if I sound uncharitable, but "consider the source."

If I were in your position, I absolutely would not go out and commit mortal sin before entering the sacred grounds of God's seminary. Such activities outside of marriage is mortal, damning sin, and I would stay as far away from it as I could.

Blessings, and prayers for those two guys who are being very misleading,
Gemma

Speaking as a married mother of 3, that advice was worth what you paid for it , namely NOTHING. What IS worth doing before you enter seminary is having healthy friendships with your peers of both sexes. This whole idea of "sowing your wild oats" is selfish and overblown at best, exploitive and predatory at worst. I wouldn't know whether to laugh at, pity, or give those guys a smack upside the head for telling you that.

That person's advice was nothing less than stupid.

as a current seminarian, I would most definitely NOT LISTEN to this man's advice! It is common to have the thoughts of what if I "..." or maybe I should go to more parties,.....etc... before u enter the seminary, but PLEASE realize it is nothing short of the devil tempting u with worldly pleasures...

Sure, Staying pure is tough, but it is for real men, like Christ and his Apostles! It definitely beats carrying around additional emotional baggage from previous sinful "actions."

Hope this helps! If u have any other questions, please feel free to PM me!

God Bless!
~Seminarian Shawn

I would consider two things... first, the person who gave you the advice is a "FORMER" seminarian. Obviously, chastity was too hard for him.

Second, what if, in "sowing your wild oats" you somehow managed to get a young girl pregnant? Or take away her virginity? Or were you considering a prostitute? The consequences of sin are very serious indeed. Whatever advice this person gave you should be considered as a temptation - nothing more. He might as well have said, "Why don't you go out and rob a bank before you enter?" or something equally silly.... Committing sin prior to entering the seminary just doesn't make sense to me......

Of course you can have fun, there is nothing wrong with that -- but healthy, happy, holy fun.

To be honest I think this is something many who have entered seminary have thought about, but we can not listen to those thoughts because they are from the devil. I feel like if you where to go out and loose your virginity now you would be cheating God. He loves you more then we can understand, and I don't think he will make you feel bitter that you stayed a virgin. Its just our twisted society who thinks sex is more important than everything else in life. That is a lie

Having sex doesn't "get out the wild oats" so much as it lays the seed for many more wild oats.

lol, this is what i was going to say. we will all pray for those two men who have misguided you. (i almost want to smack them though...hehe.)