Before I begin, let me be clear about something. I believe in the sanctity of marriage instead of this divorce culture that we live in today, but I'd like to know how to properly respond to these questions. When people ask them, I'm not sure what to say.

"Wouldn't it be harder on the kids to make them live with parents in a bad marriage than for them to be divorced?"

"You say that divorce has a bad effect on the kids and the family as a whole, but what about the ones who appear to be happy and well adjusted? What's so bad about getting a divorce then?"



I also have a friend whose parents are divorced and have each remarried someone else. All four of her grandparents remarried after their divorces (so she's got multiple step grandmas and grandpas.) I remember one time she said that it was such a blessing that she had such a big family because of the divorces and remarriages. I cringed when she said that. It was like it was all good and justified.

It seems that Christ permits Divorce in certain cases where the marriage is seriously damaged by spousal neglect. What Christ does not permit is divorce and remarriage. Once two people are married then they are married until death breaks the marriage bond.

However, if a marriage is nullified, which is too say there was something that prevented an authentic gift of self, then it would seem to be a good in that the truth is discovered. Going through with an annulment can also be a freeing process. It takes, or at least should, a great deal of honesty.

Finally, divorce is usually caused by selfishness on some one's part. Very often it starts with contraception and "closedness" to life. Moving beyond that would be very good thing.