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[Catholictothecore]

I've been a member of Phatmass for a little over 5 years. In that time, I have not been a constant poster by any means, but have given the time I could. College is kinda sucky in the way it takes away from the things we USED to like to do.

But I HAVE been around long enough to care about the site dearly. There are lots of great memories in my mind. I met my first girlfriend here, a two-year trek that taught me more than I can believe sometimes. God also fostered the friendship I had with LGLG, who is soon going to become my wife. Highest, LGLG got the job in Iowa after learning about it here, and that is paving the way for our future together. With all my heart, I thank God for Phatmass.

I was just wondering, though. I really don't know all the troubles the site has been going through lately. I know that there seems to be a lot more bickering and discension then before. Is there anything I can do to help? Like, what do we need to help the site continue and flourish? I may not be much, but I am something. What does the site need to help it grow. If there is anything that I find I can do, I will.

Yours in Christ,
Alex

[Nihil Obstat]

Yes. You can join the new iteration of the Fuzzy Bunny Crusade.

[Catholictothecore]

I have, though I confess, I'm a little confused as to how we go about doing it.

[Jesus_lol]

free beer for all?

[CatherineM]

I don't know what suggestions to give, because I didn't know there was a problem.

[laetitia crucis]

I don't know what suggestions to give, because I didn't know there was a problem.

Ditto.

Although, prayers are always good.

[Catholictothecore]

I think this is what's up.

Even if there are no outward problems, there is at least rumurs of some. The site is cliquey, posters are unkind, uncharitable. I've been back for about three months, and I've lost track of the number of times I've come across the accusations, and seen it for myself.

That's all.

[HisChildForever]

I don't know what suggestions to give, because I didn't know there was a problem.

I think everyone needs to calm down.

[ardillacid]

free beer for all?

[HisChildForever]

I think this is what's up.

Even if there are no outward problems, there is at least rumurs of some. The site is cliquey, posters are unkind, uncharitable. I've been back for about three months, and I've lost track of the number of times I've come across the accusations, and seen it for myself.

That's all.

Tempers are bound to flare during a debate. If tempers begin to flare outside of debate - which I have yet to see - then I would be concerned.

[Catholictothecore]

I believe that I have seen that a lot, especially here in Open Mic.

[HisChildForever]

I believe that I have seen that a lot, especially here in Open Mic.

Plenty of threads in Open Mic turn into a debate.

I am just tired of these "rumors" and generalizations. If people are noticing something, they should just come out and address it.

[Nihil Obstat]

I have, though I confess, I'm a little confused as to how we go about doing it.

Me too!

[Apotheoun]

I have been posting at Phatmass for six years and it is about the same today as it was when I began.

[mariahLVzJP2]

I think this is what's up.

Even if there are no outward problems, there is at least rumurs of some. The site is cliquey, posters are unkind, uncharitable. I've been back for about three months, and I've lost track of the number of times I've come across the accusations, and seen it for myself.

That's all.

I agree. Just pray..I guess.

Maybe with everything going on in the world, (economy, immigration debates, issues on morality/society) theres just a lot of irritability.

Im not a fan of cliques either..makes some feel left out.

[Nihil Obstat]

I consider everybody part of my clique.


Except Moosey. She's so mean to me.

[HisChildForever]

Cliques are almost always going to happen. People establish a common bond with one another and friendship grows. Phatmass as a whole could be considered a clique. Of course, there are cliques inside of Phatmass - different kinds. A clique that would be hard to break into would be the groups in the Lame Board, but one that would be easy to break into would be a "debate clique" (people you agree with 99% of the time and gravitate towards when you see them in a debate you have yet to enter).

[Hassan]

I consider everybody part of my clique.


Except Moosey. She's so mean to me.

Just cuz she wants you

I was talking to hey JUST YESTERDAY and she was lyk, dude, that Nihil makes me weak in the knees lulz!!!

[Nihil Obstat]

Just cuz she wants you

I was talking to hey JUST YESTERDAY and she was lyk, dude, that Nihil makes me weak in the knees lulz!!!

I know! That's why it *sniff* hurts so much when she's mean to me.

[Terra Firma]

Without naming names, I have seen some behaviors in recent months I would say were at best offenses against charity. For example, I have seen members hounding other members for months -- in the name of humor, but beyond what could be considered funny by any reasonable person familiar with the situations. It is distasteful, and not fitting to any Catholic, especially those who hold themselves out in leadership roles. This is one of the reasons I've stepped back from posting more frequently, although personal reasons play a far bigger role.

In my experience these sort of attitudes tend to pass in time, particularly in the face of holier behaviors.