Posted 11 April 2012 - 05:52 PM
Posted 11 April 2012 - 05:57 PM
is dating just not an option?
I mean like before that. I mean like seeing if it's even worth giving it a shot. You're dealing witha stereotype-fulfilling nerd here.
Edited by Byzantine, 11 April 2012 - 06:02 PM.
Posted 11 April 2012 - 06:17 PM
Your seeking an answer that doesn't exist. Your asking if you can win it all by risking nothing. You want to walk into the casino, count the cards, and win comfortably.
You can roll the weighted dice on many things in life, but this is NOT one of them.
Now go bet your heart and put it on the line......it might hurt, but keep the faith, and you'll grow closer to God no matter what happens and what vocation you discern.
Posted 11 April 2012 - 07:41 PM
The obvious answer to everything concerning vocations is prayer and lots of it. I think what else is helpful in discerning marriage as a teen is to pay attention to families around you. If there are married folks around you that you admire, spend time with them and ask them engaging questions. Don't assume anything. Marriages and families that work, take hard work. mutual respect and prayer. But you might find some answers that surprise you. I asked one couple and the husband said "I try to find one thing each day to make her feel special". And they were married for 35 years.
Discerning marriage before dating isn't a bad idea. You can make some personal decisions based on the lives around you. Do you want to be like the couples you know? If you don't know any good couples, can you use them as the example of the opposite? Perhaps when it's said and done, you value marriage but you don't see yourself as a husband or father. That's good discernment too!!
Open yourself up and ask questions in prayer and in role models and I promise you'll figure it out!
(says the middle aged single guy)
Posted 11 April 2012 - 07:47 PM
Posted 11 April 2012 - 10:33 PM
Yes I'm engaged but I'm not married yet. So I'm still single?
I don't think you're technically single since you're in a relationship... unmarried but committed. Single implies no attachment. But I figured by "single" you meant "unmarried." So, middle aged guy embarking on the great marriage adventure. Technically, as such, you should have loads of advice about discernment and dating.
Posted 11 April 2012 - 11:41 PM