Posted a question earlier, probably wasn't specific enough. How is a teenager to discern marriage? I'm pretty sure "ask out girls until one says yes" isn't the way to go.
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Posted 11 April 2012 - 05:54 PM
is dating just not an option?
edit: i don't mean dating in the sense of the way the world means dating, i.e. hooking up.
edit: i don't mean dating in the sense of the way the world means dating, i.e. hooking up.
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Posted 11 April 2012 - 05:57 PM
is dating just not an option?
I mean like before that. I mean like seeing if it's even worth giving it a shot. You're dealing witha stereotype-fulfilling nerd here.
Edited by Byzantine, 11 April 2012 - 06:02 PM.
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Posted 11 April 2012 - 05:58 PM
what the what is that?
(sorry: to clarify, Byz had posted an image and I didn't know what it was)
(sorry: to clarify, Byz had posted an image and I didn't know what it was)
Edited by Lil Red, 11 April 2012 - 10:51 PM.
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Posted 11 April 2012 - 06:00 PM
i'm thinking i should just stay out of any thread dealing with dating, but obviously i'm being too thick-headed to know what people are saying, and not typing clearly enough for people to understand what i'm saying.
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Posted 11 April 2012 - 06:17 PM
Byzantine, with all due to respect, Lil Red answered your question.
Your seeking an answer that doesn't exist. Your asking if you can win it all by risking nothing. You want to walk into the casino, count the cards, and win comfortably.
You can roll the weighted dice on many things in life, but this is NOT one of them.
Now go bet your heart and put it on the line......it might hurt, but keep the faith, and you'll grow closer to God no matter what happens and what vocation you discern.
Your seeking an answer that doesn't exist. Your asking if you can win it all by risking nothing. You want to walk into the casino, count the cards, and win comfortably.
You can roll the weighted dice on many things in life, but this is NOT one of them.
Now go bet your heart and put it on the line......it might hurt, but keep the faith, and you'll grow closer to God no matter what happens and what vocation you discern.
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Posted 11 April 2012 - 06:26 PM
You're right, Eagle Eye. Sorry, Lil Red.
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Posted 11 April 2012 - 07:41 PM
Byz your question is not a bad one. Red is partially right. But hers is more "what's another step in discerning marriage"?
The obvious answer to everything concerning vocations is prayer and lots of it. I think what else is helpful in discerning marriage as a teen is to pay attention to families around you. If there are married folks around you that you admire, spend time with them and ask them engaging questions. Don't assume anything. Marriages and families that work, take hard work. mutual respect and prayer. But you might find some answers that surprise you. I asked one couple and the husband said "I try to find one thing each day to make her feel special". And they were married for 35 years.
Discerning marriage before dating isn't a bad idea. You can make some personal decisions based on the lives around you. Do you want to be like the couples you know? If you don't know any good couples, can you use them as the example of the opposite? Perhaps when it's said and done, you value marriage but you don't see yourself as a husband or father. That's good discernment too!!
Open yourself up and ask questions in prayer and in role models and I promise you'll figure it out!
(says the middle aged single guy)
The obvious answer to everything concerning vocations is prayer and lots of it. I think what else is helpful in discerning marriage as a teen is to pay attention to families around you. If there are married folks around you that you admire, spend time with them and ask them engaging questions. Don't assume anything. Marriages and families that work, take hard work. mutual respect and prayer. But you might find some answers that surprise you. I asked one couple and the husband said "I try to find one thing each day to make her feel special". And they were married for 35 years.
Discerning marriage before dating isn't a bad idea. You can make some personal decisions based on the lives around you. Do you want to be like the couples you know? If you don't know any good couples, can you use them as the example of the opposite? Perhaps when it's said and done, you value marriage but you don't see yourself as a husband or father. That's good discernment too!!
Open yourself up and ask questions in prayer and in role models and I promise you'll figure it out!
(says the middle aged single guy)
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Posted 11 April 2012 - 07:42 PM
(says the middle aged single guy)
wait....i thought....
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Posted 11 April 2012 - 07:43 PM
wait....i thought....
Yes.
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Posted 11 April 2012 - 07:45 PM
i'm confused.
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Posted 11 April 2012 - 07:47 PM
I'd give my interpretation but I don't want to say anything out of line. 
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Posted 11 April 2012 - 08:44 PM
no doubt... that'll take forever!I'm pretty sure "ask out girls until one says yes" isn't the way to go.
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Posted 11 April 2012 - 08:49 PM
I didn't think it was possible for nerds to have girlfriends... Am I missing something here?
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Posted 11 April 2012 - 10:16 PM
I'd give my interpretation but I don't want to say anything out of line.
Yes I'm engaged but I'm not married yet. So I'm still single?
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Posted 11 April 2012 - 10:33 PM
Yes I'm engaged but I'm not married yet. So I'm still single?
I don't think you're technically single since you're in a relationship... unmarried but committed. Single implies no attachment. But I figured by "single" you meant "unmarried." So, middle aged guy embarking on the great marriage adventure. Technically, as such, you should have loads of advice about discernment and dating.
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Posted 11 April 2012 - 10:42 PM
I thought we already covered what it means to discern a vocation (ANY vocation) in the other thread...
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Posted 11 April 2012 - 11:41 PM
Lots of prayer regarding your vocation in general. I thought for a while that I was called to the priesthood, but through lots of prayer, I'm fairly confident that I'm called to marriage. Now, I don't want to rule any options out yet completely, especially since I'm not in a relationship at the moment, but I feel like you can determine a calling to marriage without dating ahead of time. Of course, you can't fulfill that vocation without dating first, so you still have to put yourself out there.
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Posted 12 April 2012 - 12:00 AM
Wait... is this why I can no longer find the "Find Jaime a Wife" Facebook group?
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