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[Annie12]

So my prom is next week. Everyone is bringing dates except me. I don't want one. but I wish I has a Guy friend that i could bring that wasn't serious. But I don't... sigh. Both my friends have dates. They want me to get a date but the guys I do know, I have only gone to a summer thing with for 2 weeks and only talked maybe twice.... awkward. Its too late any way but what should I tell my friends when they tell me I should have brought a date?

P.S. I want to be a nun so I have put dating off limits. My friends don't want to accept that.

Edited by Annie12, 11 May 2012 - 11:05 AM.

[FutureCarmeliteClaire]

If you don't want to get a date, don't bring one. If you want to bring a friend, bring him! It'll be fun. I had the best time at my formal with no date with my friends and we all "made the pizza", lol! It was perfectly fun without a date. Tell your friends that you think it will be just as fun without a date and you just wanted to come to have a good time.

P.S. You better post pictures!

[MissyP89]

Hey Annie, I didn't bring a date. I went by myself with a couple of girl friends that were also single and we had a fantastic time. I still got to spend time and dance with my guy friends, too.

I promise you that in the end, not having a date won't matter. It won't haunt you 10 years from now. The idea is to go and eat lots of food and be silly and have a great time ... and you don't need a date for that. Tell your friends so. You're going to have fun, and that's that.

[Spem in alium]

Annie, FCC and MissyP89 are right. You do not need a date to enjoy yourself.

My school held formals (proms, but the Australian kind) across the last three years of high school. I went to two of them, and on both I took dates - mainly because I was pressured by my friends. I've matured a lot since then, I think.

If you don't want to bring a date, don't feel like you need to. In the end, it's your night. Enjoy it however you want, and don't worry about what people say you should have done. Have loads of fun!

[Annie12]

Thanks! I can't wait and I liked the advice that I don't need a date to have fun! I never thought of it in that way for some reason even thought that is what I thought for a long time.

[brianthephysicist]

Ironically my prom story is extremely similar to MissyP's.

The table I was originally sitting at put way too much emphasis on the fact that I didn't have a date, feeling sorry for me and trying to match me up with some of the girls there. I told them that I appreciated what they were trying to do, but that they were missing the point of prom. I ended up switching tables to sit with some other people that (like Missy said) just wanted to eat lots of food and be silly and have a great time. It was a nice little drama free zone where we could all just hang out and enjoy the fact that we were drawing near to graduation. I ended up having a blast.

[Brother Adam]

I did the same thing at mine - instead of taking the girl who wanted me to ask her who had a crush on me (my future wife), I took my best friend's little sister, we just went as friends to have a good time.

Actually now that I think about that maybe you shouldn't take my advice.

[Annie12]

So, it turns out my friends are not going to eat dinner with me before prom this year because they have dates. We have been planning to do that until they got dates. This is going to be an interesting prom. That is for sure.

Edit: I feel rejected.

Edited by Annie12, 13 May 2012 - 10:03 PM.

[Theresita Nerita]

hey annie,

I went to two proms - to my junior prom I was the only one of my friends without a date, and I had a TON of fun. My senior prom, i went with a male friend and it was practically no fun at all.

All a date means at a prom is some guy having hurt feelings the minute you want to dance without him/sit down instead of dancing, just anything really. Without a date you're free to dance as much as you want! Sit as much as you want! go home when you want!

I highly recommend going stag (doe?)

[BG45]

Yeah I didn't go to prom, but if I had, I wouldn't have had a date.

Edit: Sorry guy came in to put the locks. Don't stress about not having a date, because you'll have a fun time if your friends are there. Dating, especially with what you said about it earlier, isn't everything! It's perfectly possible to have fun with friends at the prom.

Edited by BG45, 14 May 2012 - 08:59 AM.