Would You Marry Someone With Tattoos?

[IcePrincessKRS]

[quote name='FuturePriest387' timestamp='1345921755' post='2474147']
If he's not man enough to handle a [i]c[/i]heese grater than he's not man enough to get married quite yet.

But really, if it was Religious or it really meant something I wouldn't mind. If it was a skull or demon tattoo I would likely flip, but if it was something reasonable like Our Lady or perhaps a crucifix it wouldn't bother me[i] too [/i]much. I would definitely begin to say something if one of my daughters or sons was becoming what I call a human tattoo, which I think is absolutely crazy, but 99% of people with tattoos have no desire to have that many. It may surprise you to know that once I really wanted to get a tattoo, actually.
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But now you're ok with your daughter or son getting one as long as it's tasteful?

[PhuturePriest]

Honestly I admire people who get tattoos on their feet and the back of their fingers like Dominic Monaghan (Though I think he should have gotten one on his hand that says "Not Penny's Boat"). I just think "Tattoos in general have to hurt, but ones on the foot and the back of the fingers have to be agony!"

[Maggyie]

[quote name='franciscanheart' timestamp='1345922103' post='2474150']
My favorite part of responses like these is the choice of images y'all choose for people. A large pirate? Really? I'd question his choice of art more than his sitting for ink.
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True. But that's just an example. I'm also not into droopy crosses, words that are stretched out like captchas, and so forth. It would be better if they wound up looking like abstract art but instead it just looks like a ruined tattoo. My personal opinion: Ew.

[PhuturePriest]

[quote name='IcePrincessKRS' timestamp='1345922461' post='2474155']

But now you're ok with your daughter or son getting one as long as it's tasteful?
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I'm afraid I might say something dumb or offensive, but I'll respond.

Yeah, I think so. As I said, I wouldn't want them to become a human tattoo, but a tattoo or maybe a few more that were meaningful and didn't take away from their natural beauty would be fine.

[Lil Red]

to be honest, when i look at my husband's body, his tattoos don't even register any more. maybe it's that way for most couples that have been together for a long time?

Edited August 25, 2012 by Lil Red

[PhuturePriest]

[quote name='Lil Red' timestamp='1345922667' post='2474161']
to be honest, when i look at my husband's body, his tattoos don't even register any more. maybe it's that way for most couples that have been together for a long time?
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I can believe that. It's sort of like a picture on the barren hallway wall. At first you notice it every time you walk by, but eventually it gets to where you almost forget it's there.

[IcePrincessKRS]

[quote name='FuturePriest387' timestamp='1345922578' post='2474159']
I'm afraid I might say something dumb or offensive, but I'll respond.

Yeah, I think so. As I said, I wouldn't want them to become a human tattoo, but a tattoo or maybe a few more that were meaningful and didn't take away from their natural beauty would be fine.
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Just checking. (That's a totally acceptable answer.) ETA: it would be acceptable if you said you weren't ok with your children getting tattoos at all, too. I just wanted to make sure you're setting the same standard for sons as you are daughters.

[quote name='Lil Red' timestamp='1345922667' post='2474161']
to be honest, when i look at my husband's body, his tattoos don't even register any more. maybe it's that way for most couples that have been together for a long time?
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I think so. I don't tend to notice my friend's tattoos anymore unless it becomes a subject of conversation. I mean, I see them, obviously, but it's not something I actively look at. I would imagine if it was your spouse it'd be even less noticeable.

[PhuturePriest]

[quote name='IcePrincessKRS' timestamp='1345923034' post='2474164']
Just checking. (That's a totally acceptable answer.) ETA: it would be acceptable if you said you weren't ok with your children getting tattoos at all, too. I just wanted to make sure you're setting the same standard for sons as you are daughters.
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I knew there was a possible "Gotcha!" aspect to that question.

Now that I think about it and have formulated my thoughts on it a little more, I wouldn't mind if my daughters or sons got tattoos while they were living in my house. I would draw a line at some point as I have said, but as soon as they move out they have to make their own decisions. I would weigh in my opinion, but I would ultimately leave it up to them. Hopefully I would, anyway. I know letting go of former power is a very difficult transition for some parents.

[arfink]

How about high-speed-photography water on head bald tattooed guy? He's pretty amesome.

[img]http://behance.vo.llnwd.net/profiles4/146258/projects/4889175/8be558e443a93e23f1749084bc622161.jpg[/img]

[Innocent]

[quote name='FuturePriest387' timestamp='1345922335' post='2474153']
From experience I have seen a lot of guys who chose the dumbest tattoos on the planet, ranging from skulls and things related to death. I do not really approve of these tattoos, but that is mostly because I do not understand why they got them. Is it because they like death? If so this is disordered. But can it be something meaningful that happened in their life that made them choose to have a tattoo of a skull? This is what I am trying to figure out.
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Perhaps if done for the right reasons, a reminder of death is not a bad thing, wouldn't you agree?

"Death . . . comes for us all, my lords. Yes, even for Kings he comes, ..." - [url="http://web.archive.org/web/20110106082906/http://www.cooper.edu/humanities/classes/coreclasses/hss2/library/man_for_all_seasons.html"]St. Thomas More in Robert Bolt's play[/url]

Perhaps some of those people got that tattoo to remind themselves of their mortality. "[url="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Memento_mori"]Memento Mori[/url]" is a well established theme in ancient and medieval culture.

Similar themes have also existed in non-western cultures. (e.g., "The way of the samurai is found in death." -Yamamoto Tsunetomo in[url="http://archive.org/details/Hagakure-BookOfTheSamurai"] the Hagakure[/url] )

St. Jerome had [url="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Saint_Jerome_Writing"]a skull on his desk[/url]. I have read that many religious communities had the practice of "Preparation for a Holy Death" every month. (I read in the biography of St. Dominic Savio that the Salesians did this regularly. Don't know if the practice still exists.)

St. Paul too [url="http://drbo.org/chapter/57001.htm"]spoke of death[/url] in his letters. "But I am straitened between two: having a desire to be dissolved and to be with Christ, a thing by far the better."


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Edited August 26, 2012 by Innocent

[Nihil Obstat]

[quote name='Innocent' timestamp='1345938349' post='2474237']
Perhaps if done for the right reasons, a reminder of death is not a bad thing, wouldn't you agree?

"Death . . . comes for us all, my lords. Yes, even for Kings he comes, ..." - [url="http://web.archive.org/web/20110106082906/http://www.cooper.edu/humanities/classes/coreclasses/hss2/library/man_for_all_seasons.html"]St. Thomas More in Robert Bolt's play[/url]

Perhaps some of those people got that tattoo to remind themselves of their mortality. "[url="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Memento_mori"]Memento Mori[/url]" is a well established theme in ancient and medieval culture.

Similar themes have also existed in non-western cultures. (e.g., "The way of the samurai is found in death." -Yamamoto Tsunetomo in[url="http://archive.org/details/Hagakure-BookOfTheSamurai"] the Hagakure[/url]

St. Jerome had [url="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Saint_Jerome_Writing"]a skull on his desk[/url]. I have read that many religious communities had the practice of "Preparation for a Holy Death" every month.

St. Paul too [url="http://drbo.org/chapter/57001.htm"]spoke of death[/url] in his letters. "But I am straitened between two: having a desire to be dissolved and to be with Christ, a thing by far the better."
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[GeorgiiMichael]

And let's not forget that a crucifix isn't just an abstract rendering of a cross.

It's a cross with the corpse of a dead person on it.

[Jesus_lol]

[quote name='xTrishaxLynnx' timestamp='1345917956' post='2474123']
Been working out to impress J_Lol, huh?
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Oh he no longer needs to impress me!

[Innocent]

Nihil, Is that statue from the church of St. Peter in Chains in Rome?

[Anomaly]

[quote name='Maggie' timestamp='1345921703' post='2474146']
The tats on those older women pictured above appear to be fairly recent additions.

Skin is elastic when you are young. It is NOT ELASTIC when you are older.

I repeat. NOT ELASTIC.

In fact if you are young and are considering getting a large tattoo, I suggest you volunteer at a nursing home for a while beforehand. Not in the cafeteria, but in the rooms where the dressing and hygiene care takes place. Just so you are making an informed choice about the size and location of your art and understand it's probably not going to look the way you intend when you're older. Unless you get it on your ankle (but I have even seen doozies there). One word: CANKLES. Two more words: VARICOSE VEINS. I triple this suggestion if you are a female and intend to bear biological children.

Because I don't find messed up tattoos attractive in the slightest, and because I would intend to be married well into old age, I preferred to date guys who weren't inked up. I'm sure I would make an exception for someone I truly loved... but if I was dating a guy and found out he had a big pirate on his chest, I would automatically be thinking about how it'll look at age 80 when he has a concave chest.
[/quote]I wouldnot marry someone who was overly concerned about my physical attractiveness fifty or sixty years down the line when I'm eighty. Saggy tattoos are the least of your problems. As someone who's over fifty and has been married for more than thirty years, I know old ink is a very minor concern. It's not the ink that is a consideration, but the thought or lack thereof behind getting the ink is what's telling of a person. If you can't get beyond your own assumed motivation for someone else's ink, then you shouldn't be getting married.
I personally have a thing about facial piercings. My eldest daughter got a nose piercing which bugged me when I would see her. I know she was thinking of changing the jewelry or letting it close up. I thought she removed it. I see her once a month or less and had in my mind it was gone. She never changed or removed it, I just don't see it on my dearly loved daughter any more.
I could marry a tattooed woman, a one eyed woman, a woman with a harelip if I fell in love with the person she is and she loved me for the person I am when I'm hot and twenty one and still love me when I'm ugly and fifty one.