PhuturePriest Posted August 31, 2015 Share Posted August 31, 2015 FP--I thought this was a well written, well thought out post. But, I'm not sure about the bolded paragraph. Obviously, God wants different things for each of us, and we need to be looking for God's will in our lives. But, I'm not sure about the idea of picking a religious Community based on which one is the "...closest thing to purgatory you can possibly find." I think that there is a reason why there are religious Communities with different charisms and apostolates. God has given people different gifts and different ways of approaching Him, and from what I have read on Phatmass, it seems that a discerner is best off if they try to find a Community that fits their natural spirituality and where they feel comfortable and at home. Whether in or out of religious life, life itself manages to provide us with an constant array of things that we find difficult and require us to work on our imperfections--there are no shortages of this for anyone. Based on comments here on Phatmass from those who have been in religious life or are currently in religious life, if nothing else, communal living, while being a great gift, also provides daily ways to learn to try to understand and forgive other people. However, I think your basic point was a good one--namely that the "perfect" religious Community does not exist. In the end, a discerner has to trust God when making the choice of a Community to join. Heck, even if a Community somehow managed to seem "perfect" when the discerner entered, life is constantly changing, and so, over a lifetime a Community will also see changes. The Community in which a discerner celebrates their 50th Jubilee may look very different from the Community the discerner joined. Of course, it's all a matter of opinion. Saint Thomas Aquinas said that choosing a community that is more lax in rules than a stricter one is a sin. I disagree with that, but the aim of killing your desires has always been an integral part of religious life. Obviously this does not mean the killing of personality, fun, or specific charisms. Perhaps I should have been clearer, but it was a long post and I didn't want to take too long. For instance, I could join the Missionaries of Charity, but their charism doesn't appeal to me whatsoever. Living with them would be hell for me, rather than purgatory. Or I could join the Dominicans, whose spirituality and charism appeals to me far more, but whose life would also most certainly sanctify me. The below paragraph is what I'm talking about. The poverty of spirit and giving up what we want in favor of what God wants in all aspects of our life. The good news is, God wants our happiness, so if we follow what He wants, we're in good shape. Dominican Heart, I began my discernment in much the same way having grown up almost exclusively with the EF. I was a novice for 2 years with the Slaves of the Immaculate Heart of Mary. But I had a wise spiritual director who, when I said that the Latin Mass was in my blood answered, "No, it's in your experience." I had to learn to discern according to CHARISM and let a lot of what I thought I needed to live religious life, die. It is part of true poverty of spirit. There are some things that all of us couldn't probably want as part of religious life but religious is so much more than the form of liturgy. So, a lot had to die within me in becoming a Dominican Nun. And then God could really enter in. And then I began to see I was called to Dominican contemplative life. Religious life is about leaving EVERYTHING to follow Christ. There will be many, many similar such renunciations in religious life. I would just say that many of the customs that reminiscere mentioned as what the Buffalo community does MANY Dominican monasteries do but it doesn't make us who we are as Dominicans. Exactly! Also, not all religious are free to throw their habits in the wash whenever they want! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sr Mary Catharine OP Posted August 31, 2015 Share Posted August 31, 2015 "Of course, it's all a matter of opinion. Saint Thomas Aquinas said that choosing a community that is more lax in rules than a stricter one is a sin. I disagree with that, but the aim of killing your desires has always been an integral part of religious life." ???? Can you cite your source? I've never read this. In fact, St. Thomas says just the opposite! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egeria Posted August 31, 2015 Share Posted August 31, 2015 Exactly! Also, not all religious are free to throw their habits in the wash whenever they want! Indeed, but one can do a lot of damage with a bucket in one's cell. And then have to go and confess to the laundry sister! (Full disclosure: it was only a scapular and not a habit, but that meant ending up with a habit and scapular of different colours...) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
puellapaschalis Posted August 31, 2015 Share Posted August 31, 2015 Indeed, but one can do a lot of damage with a bucket in one's cell. And then have to go and confess to the laundry sister! (Full disclosure: it was only a scapular and not a habit, but that meant ending up with a habit and scapular of different colours...) I'm sensing a little bit of residual trauma here Please do come and sit down and have a cup of tea and a biscuit. It'll be ok! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Antigonos Posted August 31, 2015 Share Posted August 31, 2015 Ultimately, you're going to have to decide which one (Dominicans vs. Tridentine Mass) is more important to you. What are you up to these days, PP? Either you've been away for a while, or I'm not reading the correct threads Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Antigonos Posted August 31, 2015 Share Posted August 31, 2015 Ultimately, you're going to have to decide which one (Dominicans vs. Tridentine Mass) is more important to you. What are you up to these days, PP? Either you've been away for a while, or I'm not reading the correct threads Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted August 31, 2015 Share Posted August 31, 2015 "Of course, it's all a matter of opinion. Saint Thomas Aquinas said that choosing a community that is more lax in rules than a stricter one is a sin. I disagree with that, but the aim of killing your desires has always been an integral part of religious life." ???? Can you cite your source? I've never read this. In fact, St. Thomas says just the opposite! I'm sorry to say that I can't. A religious priest told me this once, but there's always the possibility that he was wrong. What are you up to these days, PP? Either you've been away for a while, or I'm not reading the correct threads I'm currently interning and continuing my seminary application with the diocese, so I'm afraid I don't have much time for Phatmassing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheresaThoma Posted September 1, 2015 Share Posted September 1, 2015 I'm sensing a little bit of residual trauma here Please do come and sit down and have a cup of tea and a biscuit. It'll be ok! Can I come too. I don't have trauma such as this but I do like tea and cookies! On topic though of desires about a community particularly their liturgy. My first experiences with Liturgy of the Hours were with some wonderful Dominican Brothers. Which meant, chanting choir to choir, organ etc. The whole shebang, I especially loved the organ playing during LotH. I really wanted any potential future community to have a very similar liturgy. I started discerning with the community I am seriously discerning with about two to three years ago. It took over a year and visits to a couple of different priories including the mother house to notice something that would seem rather obvious. They do chant the LotH but it is all acappella. They don't use or even have organ music at all! I was rather shocked when I finally noticed because I didn't miss it one bit. Something that I thought would be a major deciding factor for me was not even something I had thought about. I tell this story because I have found out that when you find the right community things just fall into place. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egeria Posted September 1, 2015 Share Posted September 1, 2015 I'm sensing a little bit of residual trauma here Please do come and sit down and have a cup of tea and a biscuit. It'll be ok! Actually, it wasn't too bad - and was one of those things everyone joked about a few years later. But tea would still be welcome! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gabriela Posted September 3, 2015 Share Posted September 3, 2015 I agree with FP in his first post and admit that I twinged when I read in the OP, "...so that I can have both". I've heard that approach to discernment referred to as "checklist discernment" or the "college admissions" approach. It don't work. @Sr Mary Catharine OP: I was hoping you'd tell your discernment story! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IgnatiusofLoyola Posted September 3, 2015 Share Posted September 3, 2015 I agree with FP in his first post and admit that I twinged when I read in the OP, "...so that I can have both". I've heard that approach to discernment referred to as "checklist discernment" or the "college admissions" approach. It don't work. @Sr Mary Catharine OP: I was hoping you'd tell your discernment story! Just an FYI--The Summit Dominicans are on retreat right now, so we probably won't hear much from Sister Mary Catharine for the next week or so (if we hear from her at all). Sr. Mary Catharine--Even if you don't see this until AFTER your retreat, I have been praying that you have a wonderful retreat. You have some very busy months ahead with aspirants and new entrances (God willing!)--among other things--so I hope your retreat provides both a time of rest and learning. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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