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curtins

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heres the deal:
I have no problems with porn masturbation fornication any of that bad stuff- i have no struggles with it its not a problem for me. Id never do it. period.

the thing i have trouble with is maybe getting into the gray zone- where its not so clear as to what exactly is a sin and if it is is it mortal or veinal. Its really hard for me to determine if being aroused is a sin when i am aroused. I dont go out seeking arousal- i know thats a sin and i wouldnt need to go out- i have a computer. but its like getting aroused for some of the lamest most stupidest things that i dont even get why it happens. somebody might say something and its not even like sexual it might not even have to do with sex at all- ussually doesnt. or like today- its 1 week til we graduate and already the girls are getting emotional :wacko: :rolleyes:
so i mean they are all givin everyone hugs and all and i musta been hugged more today that all year and its not that i get really aroused when i give someone a hug- its quick hug and not bad or anything- but maybe after wards or i might think uf something that i really dont wanna but it just happens. all day i had this one girl who i know used to like me but then told me she doesnt like me like last week- all day shes hugging me and telling me she loves me- sometimes just the way a girl might say that like that gets you going and its like i dont want to i hate it but i cant do anything about it and nothing is consitant its not like every single time so and so does this- bam = arousal- no its sporradic it might be something or this its really hard to explain. idk i feel bad about it for some reason though- maybe my hormones are playing games with me or im being way too over scrupulous- idk thats why im asking you guys

thanks so much and God bless

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KizlarAgha

[quote name='curtins' date='Jun 3 2005, 06:11 PM'] heres the deal:
I have no problems with porn masturbation fornication any of that bad stuff- i have no struggles with it its not a problem for me. Id never do it. period.

the thing i have trouble with is maybe getting into the gray zone- where its not so clear as to what exactly is a sin and if it is is it mortal or veinal. Its really hard for me to determine if being aroused is a sin when i am aroused. I dont go out seeking arousal- i know thats a sin and i wouldnt need to go out- i have a computer. but its like getting aroused for some of the lamest most stupidest things that i dont even get why it happens. somebody might say something and its not even like sexual it might not even have to do with sex at all- ussually doesnt. or like today- its 1 week til we graduate and already the girls are getting emotional :wacko: :rolleyes:
so i mean they are all givin everyone hugs and all and i musta been hugged more today that all year and its not that i get really aroused when i give someone a hug- its quick hug and not bad or anything- but maybe after wards or i might think uf something that i really dont wanna but it just happens. all day i had this one girl who i know used to like me but then told me she doesnt like me like last week- all day shes hugging me and telling me she loves me- sometimes just the way a girl might say that like that gets you going and its like i dont want to i hate it but i cant do anything about it and nothing is consitant its not like every single time so and so does this- bam = arousal- no its sporradic it might be something or this its really hard to explain. idk i feel bad about it for some reason though- maybe my hormones are playing games with me or im being way too over scrupulous- idk thats why im asking you guys

thanks so much and God bless [/quote]
It's not your fault. It is a demon known as testosterone. What you're going through is normal. In fact, for teenage boys, erections for no reason at all are quite common. I'm sorry it's such a struggle.

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Thy Geekdom Come

No, you're being scrupulous. Don't worry. You have to be doing something willingly in order to sin, and having a physical/chemical reaction to something is not willful.

There's a rule for the scrupulous, written by St. Alphonsus Ligouri: if you're not absolutely, clearly, completely sure it's a sin, don't confess it. If you can't swear before the throne of God that you know it was a sin, don't confess it or worry about it.

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zealousrap

yea man for guys we are at our sexual peak at 18, which makes it the easiest time of our life to get aroused...women don't peak until their 30's!! girl's always wonder why guys struggle more lol. stay strong, i've found that saying a prayer like hail mary or a sporadic prayer for purity has always worked for me
God Bless

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You're fine, brother. Don't worry about it. You are human you know. You have hormones. That is just normal stuff happening to you. Stay Pure, Joey

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yeah, the thoughts aren't necessarilly wrong. unless you are purposefully entertaining them and what you may do to act upon them. but i wouldn't sweat it too much. just pray to st joseph for purity! i'll throw some prayers your way as well, if you'd be so kind to do the same for me :D
oh, and who said testosterone was a demon?? i happen to like it...;)

peace,
chris

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KizlarAgha

[quote name='jp2_rules' date='Jun 3 2005, 07:32 PM'] yeah, the thoughts aren't necessarilly wrong. unless you are purposefully entertaining them and what you may do to act upon them. but i wouldn't sweat it too much. just pray to st joseph for purity! i'll throw some prayers your way as well, if you'd be so kind to do the same for me :D
oh, and who said testosterone was a demon?? i happen to like it...;)

peace,
chris [/quote]
I did. Testosterone is a vile demon.

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KizlarAgha

[quote name='Raphael' date='Jun 3 2005, 07:56 PM'] Testosterone is beautiful...I'm very grateful for it. :) [/quote]
Anything that makes you sweat, smell bad, and grow hair on your face must be a demon.

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God Conquers

I'd be more worried if you WEREN'T getting aroused easily.

It's what you do with it that is the proof of virtue.

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Thy Geekdom Come

[quote name='KizlarAgha' date='Jun 3 2005, 08:59 PM'] Anything that makes you sweat, smell bad, and grow hair on your face must be a demon. [/quote]
You mean women don't sweat?

As for the facial hair...some women will disagree with you...although, not StColette, as she's not a fan of facial hair.

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KizlarAgha

[quote name='Raphael' date='Jun 3 2005, 09:16 PM'] You mean women don't sweat?

As for the facial hair...some women will disagree with you...although, not StColette, as she's not a fan of facial hair. [/quote]
Women sweat, but less.

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