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Is is okay to contact a religious communty's vocation director just to schedule a time to meet? I've been in contact with a vocations director, but only over the phone and email. I would like to meet her in person, but I don't want to waste her time since this would be nothing too important. What do you think? And how do you suggest to go about asking? Thanks :)

 

I think that it would be great to meet with her in person. Since you have been in contact with her over the phone and email meeting in person is the next logical step. Even though it feels like "nothing too important" this is how a community gets to know you.

I would suggest next time you call or email her mention that you would like to meet in person and give a general time frame (ie a few different dates) that you would be available. Ask if any of those times would work for her.

Don't over think it (I do this too) and don't worry too much!

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I have been accepted into postulancy with the Sisters of Life. My entrance day is in 9 months on Saturday, September 6, 2014. :) Thank you for all your prayers!   Gloria in excelsis Deo!

I've been accepted by a Benedictine house in the UK and we're currently working out a date for me to arrive.

Put in my notice at work. Going to go spend a weekend with my sisters (whom I haven't seen since before Christmas!) the day after I get done! Then I'll have a month off, then I'll enter.  :)

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Next month I am making an informal two-night visit with a friend of mine to a nearby monastery coinciding with the feast of the Assumption.  (:  Discerning a vocation there isn't my specific goal - since my friend was already visiting I thought I'd join him and split the gas money - but I am open.  It will be nice to experience a day of the horarium and hopefully talk with a monk or two!  I haven't actually spent any length of time at a monastery/community so I am looking forward to this.

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I am at a cross roads, I have seen how hard it is to be accepted into the seminary, my situation with my diocese is at the least complicated and the vocations director is not willing to communicate with me,  I could move to a new diocese but I have no idea as to how to start some where new, fresh, take the lessons I learned and not make the same mistakes twice, or wait a few more years and test the waters with my diocese again , or just say hey why not discern with a few religious orders....i'd rather make things right with my diocese but that is such a giant uphill battle, and I would be surprised if they ever gave me another chance to at least show that I have grown and am understanding things better.....I am learning religious orders are interested in what I can bring to the order, so that is another obstacle , having piety and zeal is not enough. A college degree might help, so I am working on that front right now, but it wont guarantee me a secular career nor a religious career path to serve Christ and others.

 

But what ever, God's will rarely coincides with ones desires, but it does make me wonder how versus the people who have tarnished the Church managed to some how find a " Calling ", and I know who I am, and I know what I am not, and I tried and screwed up so bad out of fear and it is like one door shutting after another.....  And I have no idea who to turn to for direction on this as I really do not want to serve in the secular world under people who could honestly care less what they do or how they do it or who they hurt in the process of making or doing what ever it is they do.  To only face similar issues in this process, from clergy who may feel one does not belong or is not called, and is wrong, and shuts the door on the wrong person , or has an agenda for what ever reason which is going to bar someone from getting in where they should be.

 

But then comes God will lead and it becomes so convoluted. But yet I find myself not wanting to give up. which makes me aggravated.

 

 

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I am at a cross roads, I have seen how hard it is to be accepted into the seminary, my situation with my diocese is at the least complicated and the vocations director is not willing to communicate with me,  I could move to a new diocese but I have no idea as to how to start some where new, fresh, take the lessons I learned and not make the same mistakes twice, or wait a few more years and test the waters with my diocese again , or just say hey why not discern with a few religious orders....i'd rather make things right with my diocese but that is such a giant uphill battle, and I would be surprised if they ever gave me another chance to at least show that I have grown and am understanding things better.....I am learning religious orders are interested in what I can bring to the order, so that is another obstacle , having piety and zeal is not enough. A college degree might help, so I am working on that front right now, but it wont guarantee me a secular career nor a religious career path to serve Christ and others.

 

But what ever, God's will rarely coincides with ones desires, but it does make me wonder how versus the people who have tarnished the Church managed to some how find a " Calling ", and I know who I am, and I know what I am not, and I tried and screwed up so bad out of fear and it is like one door shutting after another.....  And I have no idea who to turn to for direction on this as I really do not want to serve in the secular world under people who could honestly care less what they do or how they do it or who they hurt in the process of making or doing what ever it is they do.  To only face similar issues in this process, from clergy who may feel one does not belong or is not called, and is wrong, and shuts the door on the wrong person , or has an agenda for what ever reason which is going to bar someone from getting in where they should be.

 

But then comes God will lead and it becomes so convoluted. But yet I find myself not wanting to give up. which makes me aggravated.

 

Saying a prayer for you.  :)


Not sure where is the best place to ask this --- it's a question about religious discernment, but please let me know if it would be better moved to another thread:
I've heard it said by clergy that in order to discern whether an individual has a true monastic vocation one of the first signs will be that the individual wants to become a monastic.  Have any of you come across this line of thought?  So often what God wants us to do is truly the furthest from what we would have chosen for ourselves.  I'm wondering if anyone has any experience on someone having a monastic calling that doesn't necessarily want to become a monastic.  (Saint Thomas of Canterbury springs to mind --- even though he wasn't a monk)

Many of you have shared your experiences of wanting to enter religious life and -- due to various reasons -- either had to put this on hold or find your vocation 'in the world' instead.  Any personal experiences of the opposite?  Someone wanting a life in the world and against all odds being pulled into the monastery? 
 

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Saying a prayer for you.  :)


Not sure where is the best place to ask this --- it's a question about religious discernment, but please let me know if it would be better moved to another thread:
I've heard it said by clergy that in order to discern whether an individual has a true monastic vocation one of the first signs will be that the individual wants to become a monastic.  Have any of you come across this line of thought?  So often what God wants us to do is truly the furthest from what we would have chosen for ourselves.  I'm wondering if anyone has any experience on someone having a monastic calling that doesn't necessarily want to become a monastic.  (Saint Thomas of Canterbury springs to mind --- even though he wasn't a monk)

Many of you have shared your experiences of wanting to enter religious life and -- due to various reasons -- either had to put this on hold or find your vocation 'in the world' instead.  Any personal experiences of the opposite?  Someone wanting a life in the world and against all odds being pulled into the monastery? 
 

In discernment literature, I've read that Teresa of Avila chose to enter Carmel because she thought it was the better way for her to serve God. She didn't initially have much attraction for it but forced herself to desire religious life. That was not given as an ideal way to discern a vocation (primarily we should be drawn by love), but it was one facet of discernment - how am I personally meant to serve God? I need to pursue how God wants to reveal Himself in me and through me, even if I might not initially be attracted to that vocation. I don't have my own story about wanting a life in the world and ending up seeking out a Monastery, but I've heard a lot of them. I think it is common. I was communicating for several months with a Carmelite who had a good career and every intention of settling down with the right guy, but then she saw a nun in habit, and for some reason she knew that it was time to change course.

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Pretty sure I'm called to the Nashies, but having to wait... and about to step into college.  XP  (Any advice out there for what to do while waiting?  I know there are a couple good articles out there by the Dominicans, but does anyone in the same boat/who used to be in the same boat have advice?)

 

Pax et Bonum!

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