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DancesforLove

Awww Karin *hug* I am so sorry, IM if you ever need to talk about anything! :sadder: thats gotta be hard for you hun!
Much love,
Your sister is Christ
Chelsea

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CreepyCrawler

a friend of mine sent me this long email in response to some issues i'm having with my family this week. it's too long to copy here, but i will copy the part that touched me the most:

In coming into our world he came also into our suffering. He sits beside us in the stalled car in the snowbank. Sometimes he starts the car for us, but even when he doesn't, he is there. That is the only thing that matters. Who cares about cars and success and miracles and long life when you have God sitting beside you? He sits beside us in the lowest places of our lives, like water. Are we broken? He is broken with us. Are we rejected? Do people despise us not for our evil but for our good, or attempted good? He was "despised and rejected of men." Do we weep? Is grief our familiar spirit, our horrifyingly familiar ghost? Do we ever say, "Oh, no, not again! I can't take any more!"? He was "a man of sorrows and acquainted with grief." Do people misunderstand us, turn away from us? They hid their faces from him as from an outcast, a leper. Is our love betrayed? Are our tenderest relationships broken? He too loved and was betrayed by the ones he loved. "He came unto his own and his own received him not." Does it seem sometimes as if life has passed us by or cast us out, as if we are sinking into uselessness and oblivion? He sinks with us. He too is passed over by the world. His way of suffering love is rejected, his own followers often the most guilty of all; they have made his name a scandal, especially among his own chosen people.

Know that Jesus is with you always and you can cry into His arms and He'll hold you always. I will pray for you.

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cmotherofpirl

[quote name='karin' date='Dec 9 2004, 03:13 PM'] i dont know how to act around him i know i need to treat him like Christ would but it feels wrong to be nice to him. i just dont know what exactly to do. [/quote]
I know, you don't know what to say to him.
Thats ok, he probably feels awkward as well.

Its ok to tell him that it is difficult.
Its ok to be angry, its ok to ask him if he still loves you.
You need reassurance right now, and its ok to ask for it.

Remember whatever happened between your dad and your mom is unrelated to you. It is not your fault.

Its their job as parents to not ask you to take sides in their dispute.
Sometimes you will need to remind them of this.

Many prayers.

You phatmass phamily is here for you.

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[quote name='cmotherofpirl' date='Dec 14 2004, 09:57 PM'] I know, you don't know what to say to him.
Thats ok, he probably feels awkward as well.

Its ok to tell him that it is difficult.
Its ok to be angry, its ok to ask him if he still loves you.
You need reassurance right now, and its ok to ask for it.

Remember whatever happened between your dad and your mom is unrelated to you. It is not your fault.

Its their job as parents to not ask you to take sides in their dispute.
Sometimes you will need to remind them of this.

Many prayers.

You phatmass phamily is here for you. [/quote]
I am not angry at him, i feel sorry for him. I know it is not my fault in anyway i dont blame myself. my parents never have yelling fights not really fights at all they just talk and my mom usuallly ends up crying. It's just hard to deal with like he comes over every day to visit us and it is so hard not to hate him.

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I know my mom let's my dad come over all the time for our sake but it causes her so much pain to see him. She has been married to him over half her life.

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cmotherofpirl

She is a very good woman to do that. Maybe she should take herself out to lunch or something while he is there to spare herself a bit of pain.

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therevolution

prayers for you, i know how you feel, not exactly but i know how you must be feeling, mine is leaving this week, to mexico for good, on my senior year, just me and my mom... it's hard to forgive and love you know?

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