J.P. Posted March 5, 2007 Share Posted March 5, 2007 So here's a question. I like a girl, and I think that she likes me. But Im still recovering from a past hurt from a former relationship. Do I go ahead and ask her out? Or do I wait until I feel healed? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hoosieranna Posted March 5, 2007 Share Posted March 5, 2007 You're really the only one that can determine your readiness. All we can do is offer advice, prayers, humorous anecdotes, and tacos, so very tasty and good for you,. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J.P. Posted March 5, 2007 Author Share Posted March 5, 2007 Advice and tacos, so very tasty and good for you, sound excellent. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MIKolbe Posted March 5, 2007 Share Posted March 5, 2007 I SOOOOO have the taco hook-up. and remember... sometimes you gotta play hurt.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sojourner Posted March 5, 2007 Share Posted March 5, 2007 [quote name='MIkolbe' post='1208389' date='Mar 4 2007, 11:22 PM']and remember... sometimes you gotta play hurt....[/quote] yep don't let the hurt keep you out of the game true healing is found in relationship ... first with God and being open to His love, and then in being open to relationship with others. In my experience, healing rarely happens alone ... or if it does it's much more slowly. If you don't open up to love (and not just romantic relationships, but friendships as well) hurt lingers longer. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
let_go_let_God Posted March 5, 2007 Share Posted March 5, 2007 (edited) When it comes to relationships take the time first to know that you are ready to be in a relationship first with God. If you can't love God first and be intimate with Him you won't be able to love anyone else. Quick story: When I went to college, I had effectively given up all men in order to fall into a deeper relationship with God. About 2.5 weeks into the school year I met guy and we had started to talk and such through a church function. That night I had before going to bed I prayed for some of the needs he had and left it at that. I hadn't thought about him at all until I ran into him the next evening. Within the next day I stayed in prayer and he asked me if I would be in a relationship with him. I felt a definite push that it would be alright and went for it. Now 2.5 years later we're engaged and have been for over a year. Even shorter point: Follow God to where you need to be, He ultimately knows what is best for you. Hope I have been of help. God bless- LGLG Edited March 5, 2007 by let_go_let_God Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J.P. Posted March 5, 2007 Author Share Posted March 5, 2007 Thats some pretty sound advice you guys got there. let_go_let_god thats a stellar story. very encouraging! Anyother advice out there? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J.P. Posted March 5, 2007 Author Share Posted March 5, 2007 Thats some pretty sound advice you guys got there. let_go_let_god thats a stellar story. very encouraging! Anyother advice out there? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J.P. Posted March 5, 2007 Author Share Posted March 5, 2007 Thats some pretty sound advice you guys got there. let_go_let_god thats a stellar story. very encouraging! Anyother advice out there? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J.P. Posted March 5, 2007 Author Share Posted March 5, 2007 Thats some pretty sound advice you guys got there. let_go_let_god thats a stellar story. very encouraging! Anyother advice out there? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J.P. Posted March 5, 2007 Author Share Posted March 5, 2007 Boy. that was embarrasing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sojourner Posted March 5, 2007 Share Posted March 5, 2007 [quote name='J.P.' post='1208592' date='Mar 5 2007, 12:10 PM']Boy. that was embarrasing.[/quote] It's ok ... we know it's not your fault. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alicemary Posted March 6, 2007 Share Posted March 6, 2007 We all need friends, and what better way to get over a past hurt then make a new friend. They don't have to be a love interest at first, give it time, but dont close your heart. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clg01 Posted March 6, 2007 Share Posted March 6, 2007 If I were in your situation, I wouldn't make the first move. You said she likes you... you think. If that's the case, she'll approach you. This is the 21st century and it is o.k. for girls to make the first move. I figure, if she's not inspired to approach you then, it's probably best to continue your healing process. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aalpha1989 Posted March 6, 2007 Share Posted March 6, 2007 Not all girls will make the first move though. some wait for you and you dont want to miss out if she IS interested and there really can be something there. (quadruple post was nice. very smooth. ). i think you should pray about it a lot, and if you feel pushed in that direction then YOU approach HER. just because girls CAN make the first move doesnt mean they will...or even want to make the first move. i know a lot that won't make any first move no matter how interested they are. anyway just a thought. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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