scardella Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 Coffee, make the wedding in the summer, so that the teacher/student malarkey is a nonissue. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
let_go_let_God Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 [quote name='scardella' post='1444072' date='Jan 10 2008, 12:34 PM']Coffee, make the wedding in the summer, so that the teacher/student malarkey is a nonissue.[/quote] Well for me, I want a winter wedding and I am a student studying to be a teacher. I just plan on having the wedding when I have a break in the teaching, a long weekend or a week off or what not. It doesn't guarantee that we get an immediate honeymoon, but it does give us the ability to celebrate what it means to be married when we finally will. God bless- LGLG Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CoffeeCatholic Posted January 10, 2008 Author Share Posted January 10, 2008 OH boy oh boy! First off, Joey and I have our first meeting with our marriage prep priest tonight at 8pm. Prayers please! I'm so excited and so nervous!!!!! Also, I spent an hour and a half on the phone with my mom last night. I tried SO hard to tell her that Joey and I aren't making any decisions on places or times until after we meet with our priest, but she just kept pushing! At one point she even said that if Joey and i have the wedding out here, they won't come. She said they can't afford to because of airline prices, which she said are like $500 a ticket (not true, I checked and I'll be flying home in a month for $181), but that if we have the wedding in Va, she'll pay for Joey and I to fly out and for the priest to fly out, and for accommodations for the priest, and for the wedding and the reception and my dress. I said "Mom! If you can't pay to fly out to CO, then there's no way you can afford to pay for a wedding or our plane tickets!" but that didn't seem to sink in. I told Joey about the conversation, which involved a lot of crying and raised voices for other various reasons- the first real fight with my mom in years- and he said it sounds a lot like blackmail. ugh. Also, Joey's mom is trying to tell him that he promised her he wouldn't get married until after he graduated. Obviously, that's not true. He may have said he would probably not get married until then, but he wouldn't make a promise like that- he's not marrying his mom for goodness sake! So anyway, both of our moms are going a little nuts. We will be talking about all this to our priest tonight, so please pray for guidance and wisdom that we will be able to make the right decision. Joey would like to get married next January (09), and I would like to get married next August (08) although i'm ok with waiting until January- I just don't want to have to move in the middle of the winter in Colorado. I really don't think that my family would refuse to come to a Colorado wedding, but it certainly hurts to hear my mom say that. Anyway, how's everybody else'e preparation going? Anybody taken the FOCCUS yet? How was it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CoffeeCatholic Posted January 10, 2008 Author Share Posted January 10, 2008 [quote name='scardella' post='1444072' date='Jan 10 2008, 03:34 PM']Coffee, make the wedding in the summer, so that the teacher/student malarkey is a nonissue.[/quote] I want it in August- Joey wants it in January. We'll see. Also, we just found out that Joey's fall semester classes start August 11th. Can you believe that?!?! If we get married in August, it'll be on the Feast of the Beheading of John the Baptist- Aug 29th. Pretty sweet huh? And if we do it this year, that's the Friday before labor day, so that would be nice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hoosieranna Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 [quote name='Cathoholic Anonymous' post='1442714' date='Jan 6 2008, 12:10 PM']Hold on - Sacred Music Man and Nadezhda are engaged? How did I miss this? What's going on?[/quote] It's a joke, all in good fun. Now, back on topic. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
let_go_let_God Posted January 11, 2008 Share Posted January 11, 2008 Awww... thought we had more members getting married to eachother. God bless- LGLG Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CoffeeCatholic Posted January 11, 2008 Author Share Posted January 11, 2008 *phew* that went well. No FOCCUS yet, but a great meeting. Looks like we're leaning more towards January, 09. As for where, please keep me in your prayers so I can talk to my mom without fighting. Oh- and anybody know any good feast days in January? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missionseeker Posted January 11, 2008 Share Posted January 11, 2008 [quote name='CoffeeCatholic' post='1444241' date='Jan 10 2008, 07:36 PM']I want it in August- Joey wants it in January. We'll see. Also, we just found out that Joey's fall semester classes start August 11th. Can you believe that?!?! If we get married in August, it'll be on the Feast of the Beheading of John the Baptist- Aug 29th. Pretty sweet huh? And if we do it this year, that's the Friday before labor day, so that would be nice.[/quote] That's my birthday!!! It would be awesome! hehe Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ash Wednesday Posted January 13, 2008 Share Posted January 13, 2008 (edited) I wish I had my mother there to plan my wedding with me. But I had to post something because I am so excited: I now have my veil. Okay, well it was my grandmother's veil. Vintage wartime 1940s. And my mother wore it at her wedding almost 30 years later. It feels like I would have them both with with me, at least in spirit, on my special day. Edited January 13, 2008 by Ash Wednesday Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Clauda Posted January 13, 2008 Share Posted January 13, 2008 [quote name='CoffeeCatholic' post='1444434' date='Jan 11 2008, 01:08 AM']Oh- and anybody know any good feast days in January?[/quote] Yeah! St. Elizabeth Anne Seton (4), St. Anthony (17), St. Thomas Aquinas (28), and St. John Bosco (31), to name a few... Congratulations! I hope everything goes well! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
let_go_let_God Posted January 13, 2008 Share Posted January 13, 2008 I had the weirdest experience at mass this morning. Before mass I was debating whether I wanted to say a Rosary or the Divine Mercy Chaplet and decided on the Divine Mercy Chaplet. Well the prayer usually said on the Our Father beads starts with "Almighty Father I offer you the..." well so does the Diocese of Duluth Vocations prayer starting with, "Almighty Father we beg you for..." and every time I got to the Our Father bead I would start the Chaplet prayer and then get into the vocation prayer. So I stopped in the middle of the Chaplet and prayed for a while on vocations. Then I was able to continue with my Chaplet with no problems at all. I go through mass and the priest giving the homily is a priest that usually comes to the college and does student masses. He was speaking about how John the Baptist was hesitant about following what Jesus was asking of him. Then going into how we should also follow whatever Jesus calls us to do. I continued to offer this mass up for vocations and myself with my fiance, at the end of mass I prayed a little while longer and felt at peace with me continuing my course to marriage. Now as I'm writing this, my phone rings. It's a little odd since my roommates haven't returned yet and it's now Sunday afternoon. I pick it up and there's an older gentleman on the line asking for the Monastery which is located on our college campus. Now the funny thing is, I have discerned becoming a sister and felt that it wasn't for me. However today has just been odd. I know God does have a sense of humor, but I don't know if He's trying to show me something or my mind has just been in interesting places today. God bless- LGLG Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CoffeeCatholic Posted January 13, 2008 Author Share Posted January 13, 2008 Ash- Beautiful veil! I wish i had a family heirloom like that- but both my grandparental sets eloped, and my mom was married in a $50 summer dress that was on sale because it was February- and a size 2. I'll be making all my own heirlooms- and praying to have someone to pass them on to. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CoffeeCatholic Posted January 13, 2008 Author Share Posted January 13, 2008 LGLG- I've had some similar situations throughout my courtship with Joey. I never discerned the religious life for very long- probably about a week total. Joey actually wrote to the seminary the week before we met, and for the first year of our relationship he struggled with where God was calling him. I have a friend who just prayed a novena to St. Therese for her vocation and asked her to give her a red flower for marriage and a white one for religious life. She recieved a bouquet of 48 red AND white roses. She took that as God saying "it's your choice- I trust you to make the right one." Several days later she say a statue of our Mother holding a wilted white rose, and she knew that was her path- and it was wilted because it had taken her longer than God had expected for her to discover it. God wants us to Discern, not just decide. And until we are either married, consecrated, or ordained (for the guys) we should continue to discern actively! Maybe God's just reminding you that even though you feel comfortable in your relationship, He doesn't call you to be comfortable, but to be active in your faith. Beyond that- Marriage IS a vocation, just as holy as Holy Orders. When Joey and I were just dating, and someone asked if we were married, we would respond that we were Discerning marriage. Most people, especially protestants, had no idea what we meant, or said that was the first time they'd heard that phrase. But it's true. Dating isn't a joy ride, and engagement isn't marriage. We must continue to discern, daily, our spiritual well-being on our current path towards the Vocation that God has chosen for us. You never know, he may call you at the last minute to a different path, but that doesn't mean he will. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
let_go_let_God Posted January 13, 2008 Share Posted January 13, 2008 You reminded me of one other thing that happened during mass. During the sign of peace there was this older woman behind me who during the sign of peace wished me all the blessing on my up coming marriage. You're right, [quote name='CoffeeCatholic' post='1445332' date='Jan 13 2008, 02:10 PM']Dating isn't a joy ride, and engagement isn't marriage. We must continue to discern, daily, our spiritual well-being on our current path towards the Vocation that God has chosen for us. You never know, he may call you at the last minute to a different path, but that doesn't mean he will.[/quote] and I've just been comfortable where I am, not still exploring if God is calling me somewhere else. As for the last minute thing, a friend of mine was about a month or two away from his wedding when God called him to the priesthood. He is now the most popular priest in the Diocese. (Ok, yeah he's older than me) I asked him once when did he know that he was called to become a priest. To this he replied that it wasn't cemented in his heart until right before he officially became a priest. I've told Nathan the same thing, that if I get called to become a nun or something before we take our vows, I'm going. I think you're right, that God was just giving me a reminder. I was crying as I was praying for vocations and told God that if He needed me elsewhere, to just ask, loudly, and I'll answer. Upon that I felt a great peace in my heart that told me I was where I needed to be at the moment. God bless- LGLG Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ash Wednesday Posted January 14, 2008 Share Posted January 14, 2008 (edited) I spent a lot of time praying for direction at the church in Oxford last fall -- I mean just really praying HARD. It's just funny that I will most likely end up getting married at the very same church 2 years later. (It's scheduled in the priest's book, anyway!) That was definitely not in my plan, but it sure is funny and pretty powerful when you think about it. "YOU WANT AN ANSWER, HERE'S AN ANSWER." Edited January 14, 2008 by Ash Wednesday Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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