A Death In The Family

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Continued Prayers.

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I will still continue to pray

[Alycin]

prayers from me too... *hugs*

[MissScripture]

I just got off the phone with my sister-in-law (wife of my other brother). It was a good talk and I'm glad I called. She said I should call my other sister-in-law (the one getting the divorce), because my brother is full of it, saying that she's happy. And she needs us, right now.

Thanks again for the prayers.

[CatherineM]

I understand what you are going through. I have 5 brothers, but have had 12 sisters in law. It is very much like a death, and you will all go through a grieving process. Don't let anyone minimize that for you. Continued prayers.

[kujo]

Yeah. My parents divorced when I was 13. It was a nasty, bitter divorce that really felt like a death. I'll be praying for you and your family. God bless you....and may Mary shine a light of love upon you and your family.

[MissScripture]

The death thing sort of occurred to me, because my mom was telling me how she woke up a couple mornings after being told and she was angry, and then it occurred to her that this was going to be a grieving process.

I think one of the hardest parts about it is that my brother either doesn't see or doesn't want to see how his choices affect us as a family. Honestly, I don't think he has ever realized the influence he has on us...good and bad. I don't wear make up, because when I was in jr. high, he would get after his girlfriend (who is the woman he is currently married to) about wearing make up, because he told her she was so beautiful she didn't need it. And somewhere in hearing this so many times, I decided that if someone couldn't love me without make up, they weren't worth it. And when he came back to the Church for a brief time, it was after he told us that he was sorry for how he'd hurt all of us, that I was finally able to bring myself to tell my other brother's wife (fiancee at the time) "Welcome to the Family," after both of us had been battling eachother for some years.

On the same note, however, I think he's terrified of disappointing me. When he came back to the Church for a while, I made a HUGE deal about how wonderful it was to have my big brother back, because it was incredible. And even when he left again, I emphasized to him that I will always love him, though I may not agree with him, and in fact, think he's the dumbest smartest person I've ever met. (He has tons of facts, although the logical connection to reality with those facts sometimes eludes him). And before my parents told me (something he'd told my mom that he'd do before he left, but didn't) he gave me a long hug (and he's very good at giving hugs) and I could tell he was about to cry and he said, "I want you to know I'm proud of you." But now we're finding out all of these things he's said that are half-truths and that we can't believe what he's saying...

I just want my big brother back, the one I had before he had depression...

[Archaeology cat]

I'm praying for you.

[doe-jo]