Rejected.

[Lilllabettt]

When I was lonely a little while ago, I typed "I am lonely" into google.

The first link that popped up was this thing from MovieCodec.com, a forum which is about resizing files. It has nothing to do with loneliness.The title of the post read linked read: "I am lonely will anyone speak to me?"

One of the first replies in the thread is: "Dude, i typed in “I am lonely” in Google, and your post was the very first response. Does that make you the most popular loneliest person on the planet?"

So that was 4 years and 36,000 posts ago, and people are still typing "I am lonely" into Google and finding that thread and posting on it.

The New York Post had an article a long while ago about the phenomenon.

It's kind of weird but kind of nice, too. We are not alone when we are lonely.

[Guest nvzbl]

phatmass is phamily how can you ever be alone???

[Blanket Maker]

[quote name='dauntingknight' post='1769021' date='Feb 1 2009, 10:39 PM']What about starting to learn how to play Chess?
[/quote]

I know it decently enough to play, but hey that doesn't solve the social problem now does it (people here don't play chess outside in the -12 degree weather.

Thanks for the idea though

[Blanket Maker]

[quote name='nvzbl' post='1769130' date='Feb 1 2009, 11:43 PM']phatmass is phamily how can you ever be alone???[/quote]

Simple, the fact that you have no recollection of memories similar or the same to mine, nor do you share in knowing the features about me, or vice versa, so it's extremely superficial. If by family you mean counselor to speak with most definetly. Family implies a much deeper and fundamental attachment, one that is not PROMPTED by any influence (nor religion)

this is merely a place for ideas.

[Blanket Maker]

[quote name='Hassan' post='1769110' date='Feb 1 2009, 11:30 PM']I guess what I'm getting at is that you can either complain about these things on the internet (which is fine, there is nothing wrong with venting) or you can do some serious introspection and figure out how you need to change yourself to fit how you want to interact with other people.[/quote]

the way I find I need to change inorder to interact wth people, is never bring up my family, or my past, to make up enjoying football, cheerleaders, and everything stereotypical male, believing that a crummy weld is 'sweet' and forget my training as a blacksmith and a weldor, because thats what old guys do when their wife is not something to return to.

I find the items I need change to be 'liked' or 'loved' by others is changing to their whims, I work, I provide for myself and those who need it. I offer service to churches, to schools to colleges, and have been since 5th grade. Somehow I am a mismatched back of parts that no one seems interested in enough to construct a friend of any kind out of...and FRIEND is not an acquaintance. (if I could ever spell that word now)

Thank you for the idea, but I much like myself (minus doubt and mental scarring and inability to read proficiently, and axienty attacks from simple items) as I am, and the history I have, for I never want my past to change, why?

Because then I wouldn't be where I am now, nor would I have known what I do.

But I am sure people find me too blunt for comfort, something about total honesty is never appreciated as much as thought to be.

Again, thanks for the ideas, but I'm just looking for a friend, not a listener, not a doer, just someone who I don't ask for help, but they ask to help without prompt.

[Blanket Maker]

[quote name='Hassan' post='1769092' date='Feb 1 2009, 11:22 PM']Well. I have plenty of family who care for me and quite a few friends but no one I am really close to. That's just kind of always how it has been, I've really never been close to anyone in my life. Now that really does not bother me, except occasionally, because that is just how I've always been. If you need close relationships I'd suggust asking if perhapse it's something you are doing. I mean I come off cold and indifferent to people before they get to know me. I can't tell you how many people, once we get to know each other, say somehting along the lines of how different I am than they imagined at first. Perhapse you put off some vibe like that. If it bothers you then just try to change yourself a bit.

Hopes that helps.[/quote]


when I ask , "Why don't you ever call?" "Why don't' you come to me first":

they respond, "You seem fine and happy all the time"

(see friends still bother for the sake of bothering...not a circumstantial person who only wants to help when someone yells fire)