Luthien Posted March 27, 2009 Share Posted March 27, 2009 [quote name='reelguy227' post='1817682' date='Mar 27 2009, 05:40 AM']Wait for what? Till he could date you?[/quote] Something like that, when I had met him I still needed a little space. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StColette Posted March 27, 2009 Share Posted March 27, 2009 [quote name='Luthien' post='1817576' date='Mar 27 2009, 12:10 AM']I made my husband wait. [/quote] I made mine wait too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missionseeker Posted March 27, 2009 Share Posted March 27, 2009 I made Jeff wait for months. At least. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
franciscanheart Posted March 27, 2009 Share Posted March 27, 2009 don't plan your life around her but don't ditch her either. that's my advice. if it's meant to be, God will bring y'all together. if it's not, He'll make it clear. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fides quarens intellectum Posted March 27, 2009 Share Posted March 27, 2009 (edited) rg227, My boyfriend says, "You don't get relationship advice from women." Edited March 27, 2009 by fides quarens intellectum Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rose wrought of iron Posted March 27, 2009 Share Posted March 27, 2009 [quote name='reelguy227' post='1817683' date='Mar 27 2009, 03:42 AM']Ya, but what do I do in the meantime? Pursue her or not? I feel that if I continue to pursue her I'll drive her away, but that if I don't do something she'll totally forget that I'm interested. That's what I'm confused about.[/quote] Just keep getting to know her, become friends, don't pursue her, but don't just leave her without a word. Just keep talking to her and stay in touch. And friendship is the best way to start something. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Archaeology cat Posted March 27, 2009 Share Posted March 27, 2009 [quote name='rose wrought of iron' post='1817816' date='Mar 27 2009, 05:06 PM']And friendship is the best way to start something.[/quote] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StColette Posted March 27, 2009 Share Posted March 27, 2009 [quote name='rose wrought of iron' post='1817816' date='Mar 27 2009, 01:06 PM']Just keep getting to know her, become friends, don't pursue her, but don't just leave her without a word. Just keep talking to her and stay in touch. And friendship is the best way to start something.[/quote] I agree. I fell in love with my hubby through our friendship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sweens8403 Posted March 27, 2009 Share Posted March 27, 2009 I joined Catholicmatch.com a few months ago. It seems like a decent website so far. I was a bit leery about using the internet for dating, but since I didn't know any Catholic girls since my decision to convert I figured it'd be a good way to meet some. One thing I have discovered is that there is a bit more pressure up front about where this budding relationship will go when you actually meet someone from a dating website. The obvious implication is that both parties are actively pursuing a marriage partner, so there is a little more impatience on both sides to find out if its going to be with YOU or not. I'm glad to hear that so many here on phatmass have had success with the site. So far I haven't had much myself, but hey I'm only 24 and not in a huge hurry. Maybe I'll just do it the old fashioned way and meet her at a fish fry. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Socrates Posted March 28, 2009 Share Posted March 28, 2009 [quote name='reelguy227' post='1816554' date='Mar 25 2009, 08:56 PM']Here's an update on my situation: We got to talking about a long distance relationship and she told me that she doesn't want a relationship right now, but that there's still a chance and that she's not ruling me out. Just that she needs time to think things through. What exactly does that mean? She also told me that she felt we got along pretty well, which is something I agreed with. And she also called me after we had this conversation on facebook, which is something I was surprised by. So, what should I do?? I don't know if it's even worth it to continue pursuing her. And I'll be honest, even going off of facebook and Catholicmatch, I've never felt this type of attraction to a girl. She seems like a perfect fit for me, and believe me, that doesn't come along much--if ever. It's weird, even though she doesn't really want a relationship, I feel like my heart has an affection for her and no one else. I don't know how to treat these feelings. Could they be a sign from God to keep my interest in her going and wait for the right time? Or could they just be feelings? There's just something about this girl that's telling me to not let her slip through my fingers, she just seems like too good of a match. I don't know. Help please.....I have no idea how to approach this situation. Thanks again guys[/quote] Okay, unless I'm missing something, you still haven't met this girl in person, right? Like I said earlier, you should arrange an actual meeting/date in person, face-to-face, before you start worrying about "being in a relationship," etc. Blabbing about how you want to be in a relationship, when you haven't even met yet sounds like a good way to scare a girl off. But if she's still talking to you, that's generally at least a hopeful sign. But before you worry about anything else, set up a face-to-face date. I know you're three hours apart, but really, that's not too far. I'm sure you can find a weekend you can both take off at some time. If she really has any actual interest in you, she'll happily agree to a face-to-face date, and be eager to see you. If she doesn't show real interest in meeting you in person, but just wants to play "pen-pals" indefinitely, she's not interested in you, but is only playing games and wasting both your time. Stop wasting your own time, forget her, and move on to someone else. How you interact in person will be a lot more important and tell you a lot more than facebook chats and even phone conversations. If there's genuine mutual attraction, you'll know it. If not, you'll know to move on. But if you really do want to get to know her and don't want her to "slip through your fingertips," you need to make your move and ask her out - sooner rather than later. I can guarantee a lot of hesitancy and waiting around will get you nowhere. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dauntingknight Posted March 28, 2009 Share Posted March 28, 2009 Continue as friends and then if it is meant to be God will tell you somehow to get more and more serious. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
piano_freak184 Posted March 28, 2009 Share Posted March 28, 2009 [quote name='dauntingknight' post='1818281' date='Mar 27 2009, 11:01 PM']Continue as friends and then if it is meant to be God will tell you somehow to get more and more serious.[/quote] Agreed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
reelguy227 Posted March 28, 2009 Author Share Posted March 28, 2009 [quote name='Socrates' post='1818213' date='Mar 27 2009, 10:20 PM']Okay, unless I'm missing something, you still haven't met this girl in person, right? Like I said earlier, you should arrange an actual meeting/date in person, face-to-face, before you start worrying about "being in a relationship," etc. Blabbing about how you want to be in a relationship, when you haven't even met yet sounds like a good way to scare a girl off. But if she's still talking to you, that's generally at least a hopeful sign. But before you worry about anything else, set up a face-to-face date.[/quote] I didn't ask her to be in a relationship off the bat, we got to talking about it in a conversation. It wasn't just me. Secondly, why would she want to go on a date with me if she doesn't really want to be in a relationship right now? I'm not following that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luthien Posted March 28, 2009 Share Posted March 28, 2009 [quote name='reelguy227' post='1818387' date='Mar 28 2009, 02:20 AM']I didn't ask her to be in a relationship off the bat, we got to talking about it in a conversation. It wasn't just me. Secondly, why would she want to go on a date with me if she doesn't really want to be in a relationship right now? I'm not following that.[/quote] I think its good to even meet just as friends, you can go on a "date" without it being a dating relationship per se. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
reelguy227 Posted March 28, 2009 Author Share Posted March 28, 2009 Really? I never thought of a date other than as a date to be in a relationship, but if you say so. You guys seem to know more than I do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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