Hassan Posted March 19, 2009 Share Posted March 19, 2009 The Sultan shall leave the possability of invading England, establishing a strict militaristic rule, and getting your work done before returning it to the Parlament. It's not something he enjoyes doing, eeryone makes a big hub bub abd freak out, but your good people and he hates that you are going through this. If need be show them this post, that should put some pep in their step. (Sultan=me, see lameboard ) Also Cathy gave wonderful advise, don't let it turn you into a recluse, little things to keep depression away. Are there amy immigrant advocacy groups you could contact to help you out with legal matters? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Archaeology cat Posted March 19, 2009 Share Posted March 19, 2009 Prayers, Ash! If you're ever in Liverpool, my door's open. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
puellapaschalis Posted March 19, 2009 Share Posted March 19, 2009 [quote name='cmotherofpirl' post='1811072' date='Mar 19 2009, 04:21 AM']Dearie if you can - call your dad. Don't worry about being positive, just be honest. Sometimes I don't care what kind of news my kids give me, as long as I can just hear their voice.[/quote] Ditto this (although I'm not a mother): I don't get why my mum is always, in her own particular way, happy when I phone just to say hello. I guess I never will. But it makes her jolly, and that makes me feel a bit better too. I'm an expat but I don't have to deal with (much) paperwork because I moved within the EU. Having said that, one of the similarities between the UK and the Netherlands is an inordinate love of red tape. Being an expat is [i]hard[/i]. Don't underestimate what you are and what you're doing and just how frickin' difficult it is. Take time for yourself - give yourself little treats. Get out and go for a long walk in the park or country if you can. Expats are already a little crazy (!), no matter the reason they end up where they are. Make sure you don't let it get any tougher than it is! And take AC up on her offer if you possibly possibly can. You need human, face to face contact with people you have lots in common with :comfort: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissyP89 Posted March 19, 2009 Share Posted March 19, 2009 Praying for you now. Hang in there and let God hold onto you for a while. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ash Wednesday Posted March 19, 2009 Author Share Posted March 19, 2009 Some more encouraging news, the home office is going to give me my passport back and I won't lose my "place in line" so to speak. It turns out it's going to take them up to 9 months. I can't wait this long to look for work. If I can get this and a copy of my marriage certificate that will help a lot. Plus I will get a renewal letter from them stating that by law I'm allowed to work. That will take 3 weeks but better than another 3 months. Now I just pray I can find a job. What a mess. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StColette Posted March 19, 2009 Share Posted March 19, 2009 [quote name='Ash Wednesday' post='1811716' date='Mar 19 2009, 04:04 PM']Some more encouraging news, the home office is going to give me my passport back and I won't lose my "place in line" so to speak. It turns out it's going to take them up to 9 months. I can't wait this long to look for work. If I can get this and a copy of my marriage certificate that will help a lot. Plus I will get a renewal letter from them stating that by law I'm allowed to work. That will take 3 weeks but better than another 3 months. Now I just pray I can find a job. What a mess. [/quote] That's definitely some happier news! We'll continue praying Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil Red Posted March 19, 2009 Share Posted March 19, 2009 +J.M.J.+ yay for good news! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ash Wednesday Posted March 20, 2009 Author Share Posted March 20, 2009 Now I feel kind of stupid for going off like that, I was really stressed out about the taxes but it will get worked out. I also realized that my mom's birthday would have been this week so that was probably also why I was freaking out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
puellapaschalis Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 [quote name='Ash Wednesday' post='1812175' date='Mar 20 2009, 01:55 PM']Now I feel kind of stupid for going off like that, I was really stressed out about the taxes but it will get worked out. I also realized that my mom's birthday would have been this week so that was probably also why I was freaking out. [/quote] That's no reason for feeling stupid about yourself! You were stressed, you let it out, and a whole bunch of Pham listened. Perfectly normal course of events Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ash Wednesday Posted March 20, 2009 Author Share Posted March 20, 2009 Immigrating just makes you bat**** crazy. I would have gone crazy if I stayed in the place where I left, though. Either way. Once I get a job, we're going to take a long weekend trip to Paris. Fer sure. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
puellapaschalis Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 [quote name='Ash Wednesday' post='1812181' date='Mar 20 2009, 03:09 PM']Immigrating just makes you bat**** crazy.[/quote] Amen, sista. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmotherofpirl Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 [quote name='Ash Wednesday' post='1812175' date='Mar 20 2009, 08:55 AM']Now I feel kind of stupid for going off like that, I was really stressed out about the taxes but it will get worked out. I also realized that my mom's birthday would have been this week so that was probably also why I was freaking out. [/quote] Anniversarys can do that to you. The best way to deal with them is to acknowledge them and eventually celebrate them. My friends husband committed suicide several years ago, and the pain was not bearable for a long time. But after a year of mourning now every year on his birthday we go eat double chocolate cake on his birthday and drink a toast, and talk about old times. On my mothers birthday I look at her pictures and think about her life, drink a toast, tear up a bit. I also try to tell my children a story then about the grandma they never met. Explicitly acknowledging it with ritual and remembrance and acknowledging the pain makes the rest of the year much easier to deal with, and much easier to go on in general. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lounge Daddy Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 [quote name='Ash Wednesday' post='1810894' date='Mar 18 2009, 07:07 PM']Thanks guys. I talked to my accountant and something can probably be worked out until I can get a job -- everything is just a real mess for right now.[/quote] Oh, Ash Wednesday. I will keep praying for you. And I am glad to read that you might get something together. Idle time can seriously be the devil. On the opposite end of that, work is seriously healing and healthy. I hope something gets worked out soon. Today I am lighting a candle for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lounge Daddy Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 [quote name='Ash Wednesday' post='1812175' date='Mar 20 2009, 07:55 AM']Now I feel kind of stupid for going off like that, I was really stressed out about the taxes but it will get worked out. I also realized that my mom's birthday would have been this week so that was probably also why I was freaking out. [/quote] I agree with C'Mom. Anniversaries will do that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatherineM Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 [quote name='Ash Wednesday' post='1812175' date='Mar 20 2009, 06:55 AM']Now I feel kind of stupid for going off like that, I was really stressed out about the taxes but it will get worked out. I also realized that my mom's birthday would have been this week so that was probably also why I was freaking out. [/quote] The official term for what I get around the anniversary of my father's death is Hinky. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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