rachael Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 [quote name='MIkolbe' post='1812089' date='Mar 20 2009, 01:12 AM']if you need to ask where they are, you'll never find them......[/quote] mikolbe knows. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ash Wednesday Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 Not sure what age you are, but really I think at any age it's better if guys and girls just stay in the friend zone unless they are in a situation and place where they can seriously consider pursuing a path to engagement and marriage. Otherwise I don't see the point in "dating" (outside of friendship.) I made the mistake of dating a guy (he was also Catholic) and having a lot of emotional involvement when neither of us were considering marriage for years down the road. It was a complete waste of time and emotional energy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seven77 Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 How about joining a local youth or young adult group? You need to become a St. Joseph wannabe. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StColette Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 [quote name='CatherineM' post='1811992' date='Mar 19 2009, 11:18 PM']Yeah, if my husband had spoken to me like a gangster, rapper, or wannabe, I wouldn't have given him the time of day. Women have this instinctual thing where they want the best mate to produce the brightest, the most beautiful and talented babies. It's subconscious, primal even, but very real.[/quote] I agree Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HisChildForever Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 We're hiding under rocks that only men of faith can lift. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missionseeker Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 [quote name='StColette' post='1812237' date='Mar 20 2009, 11:10 AM']I agree [/quote] Me too! 'cept he's not my husband (yet lol) but that post did lead to a funny conversation between us. Along the lines of "I have never seen you mix up their, there, they're, you're, and your. That makes me happy" and that I probably would have been unable to develop feelings for him if he had. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CrossCuT Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 [quote name='HisChildForever' post='1812241' date='Mar 20 2009, 12:12 PM']We're hiding under rocks that only men of faith can lift.[/quote] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
saintwannabe 777 Posted March 21, 2009 Author Share Posted March 21, 2009 (edited) [quote name='Sacred Music Man' post='1812049' date='Mar 20 2009, 12:30 AM']Maybe you need patience, or have girls actually denied you?[/quote Girls have denied me because they say they like me better as a friend. Over time, I realized that the Lord is preparing me for the moment when I will be ready for my future wife. I just want to know what it feels like to have a girl like you, even if you don't want to pursue a relationship and want to remain friends. Edited March 21, 2009 by saintwannabe 777 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
saintwannabe 777 Posted March 21, 2009 Author Share Posted March 21, 2009 [quote name='Ash Wednesday' post='1812174' date='Mar 20 2009, 07:48 AM']Not sure what age you are, but really I think at any age it's better if guys and girls just stay in the friend zone unless they are in a situation and place where they can seriously consider pursuing a path to engagement and marriage. Otherwise I don't see the point in "dating" (outside of friendship.) I made the mistake of dating a guy (he was also Catholic) and having a lot of emotional involvement when neither of us were considering marriage for years down the road. It was a complete waste of time and emotional energy.[/quote] Thanks for the advice Ash. (feel like im in one of my pokemon dreams from when I was ten years old lol) But like I said, I don't want a relationship but I just want to know what it feels like to have a girl like you. Its getting kinda lonely. I know I'm a little young but ever since my Older Bro Jesus promised me that he had my future wife for me, I just want to know her, I want to see her, I love her already. I pray for her, pray to her guardian angel, and I pray for patient, but I just want to see the girl that my Bro prepared for me since the foundation of the world. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
saintwannabe 777 Posted March 21, 2009 Author Share Posted March 21, 2009 [quote name='Seven77' post='1812230' date='Mar 20 2009, 12:01 PM']How about joining a local youth or young adult group? You need to become a St. Joseph wannabe.[/quote] St. Joe is my dude and I'm already in my Church's youth group, I go to retreats all the time and I've met so many devout and beautiful Sistas in Christ, but I all of them look up to me as an older bro type dude. It's kind of frustrating, I mean I like giving advice but still... I don't want you guys to think I'm selfish because I pray for my friends that are girls all the time, or maybe I am selfish a little, I don't know. I just want my future wife to know I love her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rose wrought of iron Posted March 21, 2009 Share Posted March 21, 2009 (edited) Yeah, I have that same problem from the girl's end. Friend to quite a few guys, but simply that; friend. I was/am the confidant, day planner, I gave advice, and that was pretty much it. I can't tell you how many times I would get to feel really close to my friends, want something more, and then they show up with their girlfriends, thanking me for being such a good friend. You know, probably the best choice I made with that was to give it up and give it to God. He's taking care of it for me now. Edited March 21, 2009 by rose wrought of iron Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
saintwannabe 777 Posted March 21, 2009 Author Share Posted March 21, 2009 [quote name='rose wrought of iron' post='1812694' date='Mar 20 2009, 11:15 PM']Yeah, I have that same problem from the girl's end. Friend to quite a few guys, but simply that; friend. I was/am the confidant, day planner, I gave advice, and that was pretty much it. I can't tell you how many times I would get to feel really close to my friends, want something more, and then they show up with their girlfriends, thanking me for being such a good friend. You know, probably the best choice I made with that was to give it up and give it to God. He's taking care of it for me now. [/quote] Thanks so much, it's so nice to see that people are going through the same things I'm going through. I guess its because when people see Christ in our souls, they fly to us. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rose wrought of iron Posted March 21, 2009 Share Posted March 21, 2009 (edited) [quote name='saintwannabe 777' post='1812699' date='Mar 20 2009, 11:16 PM']Thanks so much, it's so nice to see that people are going through the same things I'm going through. I guess its because when people see Christ in our souls, they fly to us.[/quote] I really hope it's made me a stronger person though, because I went through some really rough times cause of that. It wasn't fun at all - painful, actually. I mean, I want to say that it's made me better, more cautious, experienced, but so far it's left me feeling jaded and occasionally mistrusting of others' intentions. And then I talk to those friends, see them feeling better about themselves, and it makes it worth it again. Life is funny, huh. Edited March 21, 2009 by rose wrought of iron Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
saintwannabe 777 Posted March 21, 2009 Author Share Posted March 21, 2009 [quote name='rose wrought of iron' post='1812707' date='Mar 20 2009, 11:21 PM']I really hope it's made me a stronger person though, because I went through some really rough times cause of that. It wasn't fun at all - painful, actually. I mean, I want to say that it's made me better, more cautious, experienced, but so far it's left me feeling jaded and occasionally mistrusting of others' intentions. And then I talk to those friends, see them feeling better about themselves, and it makes it worth it again. Life is funny, huh. [/quote] Sure is. Sure is. If you read my story in Transmudane Lane, you'll understand where the desire to have a holy girlfriend that understands you comes from. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Archaeology cat Posted March 21, 2009 Share Posted March 21, 2009 [quote name='saintwannabe 777' post='1812688' date='Mar 21 2009, 03:10 AM']Thanks for the advice Ash. (feel like im in one of my pokemon dreams from when I was ten years old lol) But like I said, I don't want a relationship but I just want to know what it feels like to have a girl like you. Its getting kinda lonely. I know I'm a little young but ever since my Older Bro Jesus promised me that he had my future wife for me, I just want to know her, I want to see her, I love her already. I pray for her, pray to her guardian angel, and I pray for patient, but I just want to see the girl that my Bro prepared for me since the foundation of the world.[/quote] Been there (on the girl's end of things). Not always fun, to be sure, but I've gained some incredible guy friends who always have my back. And when I finally let go and gave it to God, everything started falling into place. One of those guys I hung out with all the time is now my husband. But it happened after I finally stopped being obsessed/worried about finding a boyfriend and just focused on enjoying the time with my friends and letting things develop as they would (with lots of prayer in there, too). [quote name='rose wrought of iron' post='1812694' date='Mar 21 2009, 03:15 AM']Yeah, I have that same problem from the girl's end. Friend to quite a few guys, but simply that; friend. I was/am the confidant, day planner, I gave advice, and that was pretty much it. I can't tell you how many times I would get to feel really close to my friends, want something more, and then they show up with their girlfriends, thanking me for being such a good friend. You know, probably the best choice I made with that was to give it up and give it to God. He's taking care of it for me now. [/quote] Yep. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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