MithLuin Posted May 15, 2009 Share Posted May 15, 2009 I would tend to agree, that avoiding degrading another person is important. I just think that communication about this could certainly be...complicated, and one person may feel as though he/she were being degraded without necessarily being able to pinpoint why. Plenty of family arguements are about something far removed from the real issue, and I imagine marriage is the same way. So, it might be safer to warn against activities that can be questionable, with the understanding that it is the couple's marriage, and they'll figure it out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slappo Posted May 15, 2009 Share Posted May 15, 2009 [quote name='Raphael' post='1867134' date='May 14 2009, 07:58 AM']By the way, just as an aside, I never find my wife more attractive than when either she or I (or both) is fresh from Confession. Everything is sort of put behind us and we can see each other clearly out of love as brother and sister in Christ, not stressed-out anxiety about our arguments or the things that have come between us.[/quote] So the first start to an amazingly, steamy, (insert adjectives here), date is 3-4pm confession, 4pm vigil mass, night out (movie, dinner, walk, whatever you like doing together), and then coming home for a romantic evening together... 3 sacraments all in one night! (Confession, Eucharist, Matrimony) *takes notes for marriage* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thy Geekdom Come Posted May 15, 2009 Share Posted May 15, 2009 [quote name='Slappo' post='1868062' date='May 15 2009, 03:32 PM']So the first start to an amazingly, steamy, (insert adjectives here), date is 3-4pm confession, 4pm vigil mass, night out (movie, dinner, walk, whatever you like doing together), and then coming home for a romantic evening together... 3 sacraments all in one night! (Confession, Eucharist, Matrimony) *takes notes for marriage*[/quote] ROFL Honestly, sounds like a great date. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slappo Posted May 15, 2009 Share Posted May 15, 2009 (edited) [quote name='Raphael' post='1868080' date='May 15 2009, 12:10 PM']ROFL Honestly, sounds like a great date.[/quote] I can plan them, now I just have to get to the point where they are applicable to my life... Edited May 15, 2009 by Slappo Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StColette Posted May 15, 2009 Share Posted May 15, 2009 [quote name='Slappo' post='1868062' date='May 15 2009, 03:32 PM']So the first start to an amazingly, steamy, (insert adjectives here), date is 3-4pm confession, 4pm vigil mass, night out (movie, dinner, walk, whatever you like doing together), and then coming home for a romantic evening together... 3 sacraments all in one night! (Confession, Eucharist, Matrimony) *takes notes for marriage*[/quote] lol Never interrupt a Franciscan student on their way to Mass. lol Micah will tell you about how he almost wasn't able to propose because I kept telling him I had to get ready for Mass. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thy Geekdom Come Posted May 15, 2009 Share Posted May 15, 2009 [quote name='Slappo' post='1868081' date='May 15 2009, 04:12 PM'] I can plan them, now I just have to get to the point where they are applicable to my life... [/quote] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
picchick Posted May 15, 2009 Share Posted May 15, 2009 You could fantasize that you both are saints... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Apotheoun Posted May 15, 2009 Share Posted May 15, 2009 [quote name='MithLuin' post='1867065' date='May 14 2009, 07:01 AM']Don't worry, [b]Apo[/b], I don't think anyone has forgotten your opinion on disgusting sexual practices which I will not utter here.[/quote] I'm glad. Don't worry I will not be posting anything of substance in this thread, because it has been made clear to me in private messages that the moderators support this kind of immoral nonsense. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
saintwannabe 777 Posted May 15, 2009 Share Posted May 15, 2009 [quote name='Apotheoun' post='1868096' date='May 15 2009, 04:35 PM']I'm glad. Don't worry I will not be posting anything of substance in this thread, because it has been made clear to me in private messages that the moderators support this kind of immoral nonsense.[/quote] That's harsh yo. Really harsh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatherineM Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 [quote name='picchick' post='1868092' date='May 15 2009, 03:27 PM'] You could fantasize that you both are saints...[/quote] My husband and I are more of the klingon type. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MithLuin Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 [quote name='saintwannabe 777' post='1868098' date='May 15 2009, 05:40 PM']That's harsh yo. Really harsh.[/quote] There was a history to that comment. A thread was recently locked. I seriously doubt the mods advocated inappropriate behavior, but they did want us to quit arguing with each other. He is politely refraining from restarting the discussion here, and is thus exercising charity, not being harsh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissyP89 Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 Oh, good gracious. Not this again...I'm willing to put money down that Soc is right. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmotherofpirl Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 [quote name='Raphael' post='1867127' date='May 14 2009, 11:51 AM']The "fantasy" suggestion in the article bothers me. I've never understood how it is respectful of one's spouse in the sexual act to pretend they are someone else (and I maintain that pretending they are, say, of a certain profession that they clearly aren't, is still pretending they are different from themselves). I think sex should be two spouses accepting one another as they are (albeit spouses should always want to improve one another in holiness).[/quote] Because married love is also play time. There is nothing wrong with your husband being the knight in shining armor sweeping you off your feet, or having a food fight etc. We are to delight in each other. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
picchick Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 [quote name='cmotherofpirl' post='1868308' date='May 15 2009, 10:29 PM']Because married love is also play time. There is nothing wrong with your husband being the knight in shining armor sweeping you off your feet, or [b]having a food fight [/b]etc. We are to delight in each other.[/quote] and in food!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Archaeology cat Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 [quote name='CatherineM' post='1868249' date='May 16 2009, 01:29 AM']My husband and I are more of the klingon type.[/quote] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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