MissScripture Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 So, at my fiance's apt building there is a woman and a man who live here, and occasionally have a little boy (about four) with them. I'm not sure if he belongs to him or her. Anyway, numerous times I've heard them yelling and fighting (and these are thick walls --a baby lives directly below my fiance's apt and you NEVER head the baby crying, unless you are lying on the floor and even then it sounds distant, but by the way the baby is crying you can tell it is crying loudly, so this isn't just that you can hear through the walls). At any rate, I've heard the lady curse out the little boy (like literally swear at him) and twice today I've heard her going ballistic. Just a few minutes ago, I heard yelling, something shattering and then her cursing out the guy, and she slammed the door and ran out of the building, he followed, they both got into their cars and left. Anyway, aside from all of this being terribly disturbing, the fact that there is a child living there sometimes worries me. What, if anything should I do? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatherineM Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 [quote name='MissScripture' post='1872069' date='May 20 2009, 05:28 PM']So, at my fiance's apt building there is a woman and a man who live here, and occasionally have a little boy (about four) with them. I'm not sure if he belongs to him or her. Anyway, numerous times I've heard them yelling and fighting (and these are thick walls --a baby lives directly below my fiance's apt and you NEVER head the baby crying, unless you are lying on the floor and even then it sounds distant, but by the way the baby is crying you can tell it is crying loudly, so this isn't just that you can hear through the walls). At any rate, I've heard the lady curse out the little boy (like literally swear at him) and twice today I've heard her going ballistic. Just a few minutes ago, I heard yelling, something shattering and then her cursing out the guy, and she slammed the door and ran out of the building, he followed, they both got into their cars and left. Anyway, aside from all of this being terribly disturbing, the fact that there is a child living there sometimes worries me. What, if anything should I do?[/quote] I'd call the local family services, and tell them what you have seen and heard. They will know what can be done. Some jurisdictions look at emotional/verbal abuse as seriously as physical. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
homeschoolmom Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 [quote name='MissScripture' post='1872069' date='May 20 2009, 06:28 PM']So, at my fiance's apt building there is a woman and a man who live here, and occasionally have a little boy (about four) with them. I'm not sure if he belongs to him or her. Anyway, numerous times I've heard them yelling and fighting (and these are thick walls --a baby lives directly below my fiance's apt and you NEVER head the baby crying, unless you are lying on the floor and even then it sounds distant, but by the way the baby is crying you can tell it is crying loudly, so this isn't just that you can hear through the walls). At any rate, I've heard the lady curse out the little boy (like literally swear at him) and twice today I've heard her going ballistic. Just a few minutes ago, I heard yelling, something shattering and then her cursing out the guy, and she slammed the door and ran out of the building, he followed, they both got into their cars and left. Anyway, aside from all of this being terribly disturbing, the fact that there is a child living there sometimes worries me. What, if anything should I do?[/quote] You could call the police. You'll have to wait until the next blowout though. If you think there is abuse-- physical, verbal, sexual, neglect or whatever, you should call child protective services. When HSdad was my fiance', the neighbors in his building were similar (no kid though, I don't think). His bedroom wall was adjacent to their apt. and they would throw stuff and hit is wall. He called to police. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissScripture Posted May 21, 2009 Author Share Posted May 21, 2009 I'm not really sure who to call, so I'm going to talk to my professors, tomorrow. We've talked about screening for abuse, but it occurred to me, we've never been told what to do/who to call if it is suspected/revealed. But seeing as how they're all physical therapists, they would know who to contact. I'm fairly sure that the little boy wasn't there, today, thank God! This might sound like kind of a weird question, but if they do have a blowout and I call the police, what do I say? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatherineM Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 Just report it as a domestic violence incident. Cops deal with them almost more than anything else they do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissScripture Posted May 21, 2009 Author Share Posted May 21, 2009 [quote name='CatherineM' post='1872247' date='May 20 2009, 11:22 PM']Just report it as a domestic violence incident. Cops deal with them almost more than anything else they do.[/quote] Thank you. I get ridiculously nervous about making any phone call (minus calling my fiance, my parents, siblings or grandparents). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatherineM Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 [quote name='MissScripture' post='1872254' date='May 20 2009, 10:24 PM']Thank you. I get ridiculously nervous about making any phone call (minus calling my fiance, my parents, siblings or grandparents).[/quote] I'm the same way with phones. I will only answer it when it is my husband, or one of my close friends. My cell phone is for decoration basically. I use it for taking pictures of Johns' cars in the neighborhood mostly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissScripture Posted May 21, 2009 Author Share Posted May 21, 2009 [quote name='CatherineM' post='1872271' date='May 20 2009, 11:30 PM']I'm the same way with phones. I will only answer it when it is my husband, or one of my close friends. My cell phone is for decoration basically. I use it for taking pictures of Johns' cars in the neighborhood mostly.[/quote] And actually, I do get nervous about calling my brothers, so never mind that siblings exception...I like talking to my brothers, but I never know how to get back off the phone. lol. I usually have to plan something to happen (such as dinner), so I have an excuse to say that I'd better get going. lol! And consider yourself special if I actually answer the phone when you call! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
philothea Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 [quote name='MissScripture' post='1872301' date='May 20 2009, 11:38 PM']And actually, I do get nervous about calling my brothers, so never mind that siblings exception...I like talking to my brothers, but I never know how to get back off the phone. lol. I usually have to plan something to happen (such as dinner), so I have an excuse to say that I'd better get going. lol! And consider yourself special if I actually answer the phone when you call![/quote] Yeah, same here. I just gave a bunch of friends my cell number for an upcoming convention. I ought to have added the disclaimer that I probably wouldn't answer. Back on topic, be sure you know the actual address of your neighbors. The police will want that if you call. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissyP89 Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 Call the cops, or the landlord, or CPS...someone. Maybe ask James to call if you feel uncomfortable. Pray for them, too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Archaeology cat Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 I have been in this exact situation with a neighbour. They had an infant, though. Because I knew the landlord, I rang her first, and she took care of it. Though now I'm much quicker to just ring the police. [quote name='CatherineM' post='1872247' date='May 21 2009, 04:22 AM']Just report it as a domestic violence incident. Cops deal with them almost more than anything else they do.[/quote] That's what I did with a different neighbour (the ones I mentioned above had moved out, and a new couple moved in - was not a fun year). [quote name='MissScripture' post='1872254' date='May 21 2009, 04:24 AM']I get ridiculously nervous about making any phone call (minus calling my fiance, my parents, siblings or grandparents).[/quote] I'm getting much better about making phone calls, but I'm still not fond of them. I actually made DH phone the police about both the break-in and the domestic violence for our neighbours. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tinytherese Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 [quote name='MissScripture' post='1872209' date='May 20 2009, 11:05 PM']I'm not really sure who to call,[/quote] Ghostbusters! Oh, wait that wouldn't work in this situation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Roamin Catholic Posted May 23, 2009 Share Posted May 23, 2009 [quote name='MissScripture' post='1872301' date='May 20 2009, 08:38 PM']And consider yourself special if I actually answer the phone when you call![/quote] well then I must be pretty awesome.. [quote name='MissyP89' post='1872448' date='May 20 2009, 10:37 PM']Maybe ask James to call if you feel uncomfortable.[/quote] way to drag me into this..... geesh.. Anywho, this whole situation has me unsure, I want to do what is right, but want to make sure we go about it in the correct manner.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
InHisLove726 Posted May 23, 2009 Share Posted May 23, 2009 Call the police. If they deem it necessary, they'll call the Department of Children and Family Services. You have to help the kids who are unable to fend for themselves. I get really upset when I hear children are being put in these situations. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
InHisLove726 Posted May 23, 2009 Share Posted May 23, 2009 (edited) [quote name='MissScripture' post='1872301' date='May 20 2009, 11:38 PM']And consider yourself special if I actually answer the phone when you call![/quote] I'm the same way! Edited May 23, 2009 by InHisLove726 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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