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qfnol31
Well, I was born, and have been raised Catholic since conception. :P Anyways, I have been discerning a Vocation to the priesthood for about 13 years now (okay, that may seem a little excessive, but it's pretty accurate. :)) A few years ago, however, I became more active in my discernment. This actually became apparant to my parents, as I didn't really mention it to them. At first they (especially my mom) tried to convince me not to. My dad wanted me to date and everything, but I'm not really interested, plus I can't get a girlfriend if I wanted to. ;) Anyways, come to find out, the reason my parents didn't support it at first is because they didn't understand it very well. My dad told me one night that he has never felt called to the priesthood and so he has a hard time comprehending how anyone else could be, it's just a foreign feeling for him.

My point in all of this is that your parents will come around eventually (it took my dad about two years, and I definately haven't decided either way, it's all up to the Father. :)) Just pray for them, pray for yourself, and don't pressure them at all.

Lastly, remember that they don't decide your Vocation, God does. :)

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dlz7486
I told my dad of the possibility of me becoming a nun, and he flipped out... he told me I was "wasting my potential" - I had the mind to be a doctor and find the cure for cancer, and I'd waste it as a sister. I thought he was very wrong. But after that, he kind of left me alone about it. Just be honest with your family, there's nothing else to do. If your parents really love you, they'll support you in anything that you do. They may be shocked at first, but they'll warm up to the idea. They won't hate you forever simply because God has a different plan for your life than what they expected.

Most parents tend to have these preconcieved notions and expectations of what they want their kids to be. I lot of people I know want their children to have well-paying jobs, with large families and big houses - that's their idea of success. But we all know that success and true fulfillment comes in many different forms, and if your calling is to the priesthood, then that's where you'll be the most successful with the gifts that you have. I've always wanted to be a doctor, because that's the only way I thought I could help people and heal them, but recently I've been thinking about becoming a nun and practicing a different type of help and healing - the spiritual kind.

A good friend of mine, who is a priest, spent four years in college preparing to recieve his law degree, solely because his parents had this vision of him becoming a high-end successful lawyer. He loves his job now, and currently his parents are very supportive of all that he does.

Pray about it and be open and honest with your parents and family. Don't give up on what you truly feel your calling is just because you're worried about the reactions that your family will have. Don't worry - whatever God's plan is for you, it will happen, regardless of what you or other people think. He is stronger than you and your family anyway. ;)

Peace to you!

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voiciblanche
[quote name='dUSt' date='Jun 10 2004, 01:07 PM'] As a parent myself (and specifically, a dad), it would be a DREAM if my daughter decided to be a nun. haha... No boyfriends to worry about. [/quote]
dUSt, you sound like [i]my[/i] dad... except for the whole daughter-being-nun as a dream part... to my dad it's... weird.


[quote]I told my dad of the possibility of me becoming a nun, and he flipped out... he told me I was "wasting my potential"[/quote]

Dlz7486, I know what you mean. :( My mother is "Catholic" but she hates the idea of my possible vocation to the Sisterhood. She thinks the same thing about wasting of potential - especially when I say that if I thought my vocation was the Sisterhood, that I'd probably be a cloistered nun. She basically said that if I was a nun, she'd expect me to be doing something else, like being a teacher or a nurse, etc. To her, cloistered nuns are the women who are stupid and can do nothing but pray, and that's why they spend their life doing it. To her, they spend their life locked away with no one but other mean old ladies as companions... I thought of my dear St. Therese, so far from my mother's conception of cloistered nuns, and almost cried...

But, anyway... I agree with what's been said above... PRAY, PRAY, PRAY!

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VeraMaria
wow, good to know I'm not alone. The thought of religious vocation for me never crossed my mom's mind. to her nuns magically appear. she's almost never met one and doesn't know anyone who's entered religious life. so she would get a heart attack. my dad would never let me.

I still have a long time to pray about it :D

Jesus, confio en ti!!

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Philippe
isnt it sad how many parents arnt supportive... i think my parents would be incredibly shocked so im gonna give it time before tellin them im interested but i think they'd be supportive

i :wub: my parents Edited by lifeteener

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VeraMaria
so do i.

i :wub: my parents.

I just wish they'd be more supportive...isn't this supposed to go the other way around? :wacko:

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Colleen
My parents are very supportive of whatever vocation I am eventually called to (still not quite sure what it is yet), so I'm really grateful for that. ^_^ But as for my extended family, well, I know some of them would be ecstatic if I had a religious vocation, but others would probably make fun of me and try to discourage me. <_<

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FaustinaVianney
I told my father today that I am thinking about entering Rel Life. It was NOT well received. He said that they don't DO anything. hehe Apparently praying is doing nothing, but I want to enter a contemplative-apostolic so I will BE teaching. hehe I am the only Catholic in my family, so my father nor anyone else in the fam understand the vocation. Whether or not I have my parents approval doesn't matter, because I lean on God and if He wants me to do something than I shall...

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qfnol31
FV, I'm sorry to hear about that...I hope it goes well with them.

I don't know how my extended family feels about all this, but I know that my mom doesn't think I'm good enough with people to do it (well, that's the impression I get from her). Oh well, I don't worry about it. :) She's not the only mommy I listen to..... ;) :rolleyes:






Now my parents think that I want to join some really active order (such as CFR...) but truth be told, I could just as easily join an order much like Thérèse's. :) I love their lifestyle! Oh well, watch me meet some awesome girl next year and God laugh at me. :) Edited by qfnol31

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voiciblanche
[quote name='Colleen' date='Jun 20 2004, 05:22 PM'] But as for my extended family, well, I know some of them would be ecstatic if I had a religious vocation, but others would probably make fun of me and try to discourage me. <_< [/quote]
My dad's family is a long line of Catholics. Good ones, for the most part. My great uncle is a priest, and he'd love it if I was a nun. My grandparents, too. The rest of the family would probably be like, "Hmm. That is very nice, Amber." Lol.

My mum's family, though... none of them are Catholic. Most of them are agnostic, I guess, or are "Baptist" or "Methodist" but have never been to a church in years. And I've mentioned a possible vocation as a cloistered nun to my aunt, and she was... disappointed. -_-

Zach-

How are you not good with people? :huh:

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qfnol31
[quote name='voiciblanche' date='Jun 21 2004, 02:44 PM'] Zach-

How are you not good with people? :huh: [/quote]
LoL, I dunno...:)

She's just my mommy, and yes, I love her. But she's weird sometimes. :)

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zwergel88
So my mom has know for a couple weeks that I would someday like to enter religious life. I already posted about her comments about nuns, but yesterday she was like " You are forbidden to watch EWTN, it is brainwashing you" I was like "What are you talking about?" but she wouldn't really say anything else. I think that when the time finally comes and I leave home to enter religious life my mom will probably lock me in my room.

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Andrea348
I'm so glad that I'm not the only one battling with the parents. Well, I'm not exactly battling... we just avoid the subject. I told them over the phone that I wanted to enter religious life after secretly flying out to Ann Arbor for a vocations retreat with the Sisters of Mary, Mother of the Eucharist. All they knew was that is was a retreat. When I told them, I proposed I drop out of school so that I could get a job to pay off my debts and enter in August. They didn't like that idea so much. My mom basically said she really wants me to finish school, so that's what I'm doing to keep her happy and feel like she didn't waste all the money to get an education. I can't really blame her since I only have one year of college left. Anyway...I guess we've all got to keep praying...

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VeraMaria
[quote name='zwergel88' date='Jun 21 2004, 08:56 PM'] So my mom has know for a couple weeks that I would someday like to enter religious life. I already posted about her comments about nuns, but yesterday she was like " You are forbidden to watch EWTN, it is brainwashing you" I was like "What are you talking about?" but she wouldn't really say anything else. I think that when the time finally comes and I leave home to enter religious life my mom will probably lock me in my room. [/quote]
sounds VERY familiar!!! EXTREMELY familiar!!

My mom wants me to stop going to Youth Group etc because she says I'm being brainwashed :wacko:

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FaustinaVianney
Andrea~ I was in the same boat...I, too, wanted to drop everything, get a job to pay my loans, and enter the convent (Nashville Dominicans), but deep down I knew God wanted me to finish school. Dominicans are teachers so a degree would be helpful no matter what in and in order to a get a good job a degree would be beneficial. I also found other little things such as my oppotunity to evangelize to college students who DESPERATELY need it. Don't worry about your parents just pray for them. I have a friend in the convent whose parents are agnostic and atheist. God shall give you the strength to get through it all, you just have to ask for the strength. On another note..Sista2b went on a retreat there Feb and plans on entering in Aug...She is in Rome right now and then pre-postulancy week, so it may be a while before she posts again...God Bless!!!

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zwergel88
[quote] My mom wants me to stop going to Youth Group etc because she says I'm being brainwashed[/quote]

Yeah, that sounds familiar to me too. My mom like gets all angry if I go to Mass on a weekday, and she is starting to get mad at me just for going on Sunday. It's totally weird.

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dlz7486
[quote name='FaustinaVianney' date='Jun 20 2004, 08:52 PM'] I told my father today that I am thinking about entering Rel Life. It was NOT well received. He said that they don't DO anything. [/quote]
It's official. Both of my parents have threatened to disown me if I enter religious life. They said that priests, brothers, nuns, etc. don't do anything, too. They want to stop me from going to mass every week and to my youth group, and they're against anything I read that has to do with Catholicism or even God in general. They're afraid I'm being "sucked in" and they want to prevent it. They're even against me taking a full year of theology in college next year.

They're afraid that once I move out of their house in August, I'm going to drop everything and enter the convent. Probably wouldn't happen, but we'll see...

I don't care what my parents say. My vocation is what God wants for me, not what they want for me. And I'd choose God over my parents any day.

Just keep praying...

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sista2b
ok so i just got back from pre-postulant week and i'd say about half if not more are having problems with the parents. some of them are even devout Catholics but just don't wanna let thier baby go. its mostly moms. My dad is supportive for the most part, but mom keeps letting me know she hates it.
pray for her please!

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pax
This is amazing....

Last night my mom told me that she wants me to be happy and if I wanted to be a priest my dad and her would both be okay with it. I hinted strongly after that, but she didn't quite pick up on what I was saying. It'll make telling them a lot easier, though. Thank you Jesus!

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