Didacus Posted July 12, 2010 Author Posted July 12, 2010 Thanks Cat. I'm realy trying to make the best of things. I realize my retirement is geting pushed back considerably if ever it gets here at all. My son is extremely difficult - I won't gt into details (my two youngest however are little angels by any standards!). I appreciate the encouragement. I kinda like the idea of having a new little one, but its my son who doesn't take care of himself and who certainly will need help and is being 'difficult' that will make things hard. We'll get through it of course. I insist on not getting angry. I refuse to have a new life, a gift from God, be the center of [i]any[/i] anger.
MithLuin Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 Yeah...don't let your son's errors damage your own marriage, either. I've seen [i]parents[/i] get divorced over how these situations were handled. As for 15 being young...it is. He'll have to grow up a lot faster than his peers, and figure out how to support his child. Knowing that you guys are there for him can make that a lot less scary. I realize that some parents have a reason for kicking kids out when the behavior just is too out of control, but they do need you. My cousin got his girlfriend pregnant when they were both 16. He dropped out of high school to support them, and she finished up and continued on for a certificate in the medical profession. When their son was 5 years old, they got married - he was best man at their wedding! Is that ideal? Of course not. But they're making a family out of it anyway.
princessgianna Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 [quote name='homeschoolmom' date='10 July 2010 - 09:50 PM' timestamp='1278816651' post='2141036'] At whatever age one has married, adult children? [/quote] Right on!
Sojourner Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 [quote name='Didacus' date='11 July 2010 - 09:13 PM' timestamp='1278904438' post='2141475'] Thanks Cat. I'm realy trying to make the best of things. I realize my retirement is geting pushed back considerably if ever it gets here at all. My son is extremely difficult - I won't gt into details (my two youngest however are little angels by any standards!). I appreciate the encouragement. I kinda like the idea of having a new little one, but its my son who doesn't take care of himself and who certainly will need help and is being 'difficult' that will make things hard. We'll get through it of course. I insist on not getting angry. I refuse to have a new life, a gift from God, be the center of [i]any[/i] anger. [/quote] I finally got more +1's. I think that is a commendable attitude to have.
Didacus Posted July 12, 2010 Author Posted July 12, 2010 Thanks pham, I knew I came to a good place to talk. God bless...
elizabeth09 Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 I think no yougher then 55, but it`s when one of the children get married and all.
Didacus Posted September 19, 2010 Author Posted September 19, 2010 I just wanted to note that my son's girlfriend lost the baby a little while back. She's doing ok, was a sad few days. We had started buying the baby stuff. A little teddy bear from grand-pa was all ready. Nothing is lost in this world, all find themselves in the Lord's hands. IT is in this end that all will be known and that we will see those things that we missed. In this we trust will all our hearts.
Fragments Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 I'm sorry, prayers for her. I would like to think this event would shape your son and his girlfriend's lives. They will have learnt so much about love, responsibilty and the strength of a bond between lovers, and the bond between parents and their children. It is God's will, and so we must not be angry, instead, try to see the benefits this short life has brought to the world, without ever having been born. Again, I am sorry for your loss.
little_miss_late Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 [quote name='Didacus' timestamp='1284862874' post='2174445'] I just wanted to note that my son's girlfriend lost the baby a little while back. She's doing ok, was a sad few days. We had started buying the baby stuff. A little teddy bear from grand-pa was all ready. Nothing is lost in this world, all find themselves in the Lord's hands. IT is in this end that all will be known and that we will see those things that we missed. In this we trust will all our hearts. [/quote] I'm very sorry for all involved.
Didacus Posted September 19, 2010 Author Posted September 19, 2010 Thanks Pham, for your thoughts and your prayers. I too believe that good does come of this, and that this life, short as it was, has impacted us for the better.
Norseman82 Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 I'm sorry to hear about the baby. [quote name='Didacus' timestamp='1278904438' post='2141475'] My son is extremely difficult - I won't gt into details (my two youngest however are little angels by any standards!). [/quote] You play hockey, right? Get the skates on and have a "conversation" with him (if you get what I mean) - that may get him to listen.
Didacus Posted July 27, 2011 Author Posted July 27, 2011 Well - long story short. Considering that the other baby was lost, I didn't repost. However, today, two grandchildren were born! (twins!) So I am now officially a grandfather. Whomp! (PS; I'm 37 years old, so is my wife). My son is still 16, not really ready to be a father himself, but he's getting a lot of help from the grandparents. Things will be difficult to say the least, but I'm certain everything will be fine. The mother is doing well after a blood transfusion and babies & al should be going home in the next couple of days. I'm very happy to have these little ones in my life, and so is my wife. We take them as they are; gifts of God, which we do not own but have been given to keep during the short time of our lives. We plan to make the most of it. T-shirts and cigars are in the mail for everyone. If you want chocolat cigars, now's the time to say so or you'll be getting the real thing. Smoke 'em if you want or keep them as souvenirs. I'm out of town for now, don't know their sex (nor their names) yet, 'cause my other little ones and I want to be surprised once we get back to town. Will keep you all posted, and maybe I'll try posting a pic or two (if I can figure out how to do that, I did it once, just need to relearn it).
Lil Red Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 [quote name='Didacus' timestamp='1311736827' post='2276611'] Well - long story short. Considering that the other baby was lost, I didn't repost. However, today, two grandchildren were born! (twins!) So I am now officially a grandfather. Whomp! (PS; I'm 37 years old, so is my wife). My son is still 16, not really ready to be a father himself, but he's getting a lot of help from the grandparents. Things will be difficult to say the least, but I'm certain everything will be fine. The mother is doing well after a blood transfusion and babies & al should be going home in the next couple of days. I'm very happy to have these little ones in my life, and so is my wife. We take them as they are; gifts of God, which we do not own but have been given to keep during the short time of our lives. We plan to make the most of it. T-shirts and cigars are in the mail for everyone. If you want chocolat cigars, now's the time to say so or you'll be getting the real thing. Smoke 'em if you want or keep them as souvenirs. I'm out of town for now, don't know their sex (nor their names) yet, 'cause my other little ones and I want to be surprised once we get back to town. Will keep you all posted, and maybe I'll try posting a pic or two (if I can figure out how to do that, I did it once, just need to relearn it). [/quote] praise God for healthy babies! God bless you & your whole family.
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