Sarah147 Posted December 16, 2011 Author Posted December 16, 2011 [quote name='MaterMisericordiae' timestamp='1324013443' post='2352047'] I totally agree! I once heard Mother Angelica say that if you have an aversion to marriage and family, you should not become a nun because the whole world becomes your spiritual children. On a different note, I truly believe that I am to stop discerning religious life because I have not been having any success and I've run out of options order-wise. I'm not attracted to any others. I'm completely fine with that. If the Holy Spirit wanted me to keep discerning, I'm sure He would give me another nudge, but it hasn't happened again, so I'm moving on to discerning other vocations. Hence the refocus on marriage. [/quote] Which could make it even harder to discern if attracted to RL AND marriage. Whew! That's a w esome you are discerning other vocations. It sounds like what the Lord is guiding... Consecrated virginity is beautiful, too, but I wonder how people discern that?
Cherie Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 [quote name='nunsense' timestamp='1324028549' post='2352120'] I wonder if other young girls used to write out Mrs and then put in some guys name that they thought would be great as their future husband???? Or am I the only one?? [/quote] I don't remember doing that so much, but boy my sister did! I found an old grade school notebook not too long ago with her name as "Mrs. Handful-of-different-guys" all over it! I asked her, "A little boy crazy back then, Laura?!" We had a good laugh! One thing I DID do a lot, though, was make lists of my future children's names. I LOVE names - I had an old name book my mom used to name my brothers, and I would PORE through it, so much so that it was all tattered and ripped from use. So I had names picked out for all 50 of my kids - which would change as I got older and my tastes changed. Some of them were tried and true, though
OnlySunshine Posted December 16, 2011 Posted December 16, 2011 [quote name='JoyfulLife' timestamp='1324047750' post='2352253'] Which could make it even harder to discern if attracted to RL AND marriage. Whew! That's a w esome you are discerning other vocations. It sounds like what the Lord is guiding... Consecrated virginity is beautiful, too, but I wonder how people discern that? [/quote] It's a vocation that is very new to me and I am still learning about it, but I believe the Bishop of your diocese has to approve it and you have to have a spiritual director (which is non-existent for me because there are none in my diocese). I'm not sure I'm called to it, either. It's a beautiful vocation, but I think I am more attracted to marriage than consecrated single life. But, I have a long time left to discern and I'm in no hurry.
Sarah147 Posted December 16, 2011 Author Posted December 16, 2011 (edited) I had bought a baby name book back in my teens; loved love songs; thought about what wedding songs I'd like; many crushes; a sucker for love stories... Either I'm great for religious life or destined for marriage, I think... I loooooooove the movie Fireproof and cry everytime! My friend thinks I am a romantic because I love that movie and movies like it. And love songs. Edited December 16, 2011 by JoyfulLife
Sarah147 Posted December 17, 2011 Author Posted December 17, 2011 When you meet men in daily life with qualities of a good Catholic, and automatically think, "that's something I'd like in a spouse"...
Totus Tuus Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 [quote name='MaterMisericordiae' timestamp='1324013443' post='2352047'] I totally agree! I once heard Mother Angelica say that if you have an aversion to marriage and family, you should not become a nun because the whole world becomes your spiritual children. On a different note, I truly believe that I am to stop discerning religious life because I have not been having any success and I've run out of options order-wise. I'm not attracted to any others. I'm completely fine with that. If the Holy Spirit wanted me to keep discerning, I'm sure He would give me another nudge, but it hasn't happened again, so I'm moving on to discerning other vocations. Hence the refocus on marriage. [/quote] I was in Mother Angelica's community for a year. I stopped discerning RL when I had the same experience - no other community was as attractive to me or felt like "home." Were they beautiful and did I enjoy visiting? Yes. Were they home? No. That's when I decided to start dating and see where that led.
Feankie Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 The Archdiocese of Milwaukee has several consecrated virgins. I don't know any personally, but the Archbishop celebrated a Mass for them at the seminary this past week. If you are called to CV, I think it's a beautiful vocation. The Arch here also has a consecrated program for widows as well. Perhaps going forward in the next few years we'll see an increase in CV's in the U.S.
Sarah147 Posted December 17, 2011 Author Posted December 17, 2011 Mother Angelica's order and shrine are BEAUTIFUL!!
MissyP89 Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 ...When you realize that you serve God more effectively with a man than you ever could alone. ...When you start thinking about godparents. ...When the thought of motherhood both thrills you and makes you feel like crying.
Sarah147 Posted December 17, 2011 Author Posted December 17, 2011 [quote name='MissyP89' timestamp='1324154200' post='2352873'] ...When you realize that you serve God more effectively with a man than you ever could alone. [/quote] When you see married couples that have been together for ages and are so happy and know eachother perfectly. And you dream of having that kind of marriage one day....
LinaSt.Cecilia2772 Posted December 17, 2011 Posted December 17, 2011 I have baby names picked out already too. I have more boy than girl names though. hahahahaha
Cherie Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 [quote name='LinaSt.Cecilia2772' timestamp='1324159958' post='2352892'] I have baby names picked out already too. I have more boy than girl names though. hahahahaha [/quote] That's funny! I'm the opposite; I have more girl names
Lil'Monster Posted December 18, 2011 Posted December 18, 2011 I have more boy names picked out than girl names
Totus Tuus Posted December 19, 2011 Posted December 19, 2011 [quote name='Lil'Monster' timestamp='1324175219' post='2353005'] I have more boy names picked out than girl names [/quote] Same. While girl names are beautiful, boy names just come to me much easier. I LOVE Old Testament boys' names (and girls' for that matter). Rebekah, Isaac, Jeremiah, Anna, Miriam, Corban, David, Isaiah, Jacob... I just LOVE them. Reading scripture was like reading a baby name book for me.
ireallylovejesus Posted December 20, 2011 Posted December 20, 2011 [quote name='Queen'sDaughter' timestamp='1324044995' post='2352226'] Nice bouquet. Looks a little intimidating though. But I love the dress! [/quote] Hihihi I love this. This is gonna be an option for me.
OnlySunshine Posted December 20, 2011 Posted December 20, 2011 When you see several holy men at a retreat and feel the desire to start dating and discerning marriage.
i<3franciscans Posted December 20, 2011 Posted December 20, 2011 I have loved reading your response to this thread and I want to add something, but honestly I can never think of a thing!
Sarah147 Posted December 26, 2011 Author Posted December 26, 2011 (edited) Maybe when you dream you are married and really in love with that person. Maybe when you've dreamed you give birth or have children. Maybe when you start to feel very drawn to the life you see very spiritual Catholic families living. Maybe not when you get excited at receiving vocation materials from an Order. I'm personally very drawn to religious life and marriage still, so I don't have a clear understanding of God's will for me yet. We'll see what these Orders think of my discernment and health issues. Edited December 26, 2011 by JoyfulLife
Feankie Posted December 26, 2011 Posted December 26, 2011 When you've finally got the ring on your finger!
Sarah147 Posted December 26, 2011 Author Posted December 26, 2011 (edited) RSM This seems fitting. ....Or I'll end up married! hehe! Nah, I won't rush into marriage... but I sure hope I get to talk with these two VD's pretty soon and get an idea of God's path for my life. I have come to feel that I will be okay if they don't see a vocation in me, because I also feel drawn to marriage. God is doing something to me! Edited December 26, 2011 by JoyfulLife
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