What Ring Should I Get?

[OnlySunshine]

I like #2.  I would suggest if you haven't already considered this, that you wear it on a finger without marriage/engagement significance in your own culture.  But maybe I'm biased, considering that the only visible insignia consecrated virgins receive/wear daily is their wedding ring.  It takes a lot - and a public vocation in the Church to get to the ring point whether one is a engaged/married woman or religious.  I would also say that when I was traveling outside of my own culture, I did wear a silver band prior to my consecration but am not sure whether that really gave me any additional protection from unwanted attentions.

 

Most religious communities I know wear the band on the right hand ring finger like in Europe.  I'm not getting this ring to protect against unwanted attentions -- I haven't been experiencing that problem (thank God!).  It's for my own reasons of wanting to be reminded of my commitment.  :)

[OnlySunshine]

I took everyone's opinion into consideration and opted to purchase a ring I found on eBay that was the cheapest but most high quality ring I found so far in stainless steel.  Unfortunately, it's not in Hebrew, but the laser engraving is so clear and the ring is beautiful!  It was $8.99 with free shipping.  This is what I purchased:

 

5mm "I Am My Beloveds" ring in Stainless Steel (Size 8)

[Mary's Margaret]

Very nice choice, MM. 

[OnlySunshine]

Very nice choice, MM. 

 

Thanks, MM.  I can't wait to get it!  :)

[Winchester]

[OnlySunshine]

 

:rolleyes:

[abrideofChrist]

Most religious communities I know wear the band on the right hand ring finger like in Europe.  I'm not getting this ring to protect against unwanted attentions -- I haven't been experiencing that problem (thank God!).  It's for my own reasons of wanting to be reminded of my commitment.  :)

 

My apologies.  I did not feel it would be right to wear it on my right or left hand ring fingers except when traveling because it would convey the significance of  my being in a public vocation which I was not in.  I only made the exception for traveling and admitted that I am not sure it did any good anyway.  i will bow out of the conversation.  God bless you.

[OnlySunshine]

My apologies.  I did not feel it would be right to wear it on my right or left hand ring fingers except when traveling because it would convey the significance of  my being in a public vocation which I was not in.  I only made the exception for traveling and admitted that I am not sure it did any good anyway.  i will bow out of the conversation.  God bless you.

 

I hope you don't think I'm upset with you because I'm not.  I appreciate your take on it.  It's always interesting to hear what other people have done.  ;)

[Eowyn]

 

That must be the James Bond or Mcgyver model. :) :) :)

[OnlySunshine]

Well, I got my ring today!  I wasn't supposed to get it until tomorrow according to USPS but it came a day early!  I opened up the tiny package and gasped -- the ring is even more beautiful in person!  I was, however, a little worried about how it would fit on my finger since the outside is straight, but I need not have worried -- the inside, though it's hard to see, is rounded so it is very comfortable.  What a great deal for $8.99!  I am VERY happy!  :)

[Nunsense]

I hope you don't think I'm upset with you because I'm not.  I appreciate your take on it.  It's always interesting to hear what other people have done.  ;)

 

Mater - I wear my private vows ring on the middle finger of my left hand - but only because when I wear it on my ring finger, it tends to fall off as my knuckle on that finger is almost non-existent! Otherwise I would definitely wear it on my ring finger. I have grown used to it where it is and it is good because it doesn't seem to draw any attention at all, but you should wear yours wherever you want to. Mine is a plain silver wedding band with an inscription inside of Sponsa Christi and the date I made my private vows. I had it blessed by a priest and when I told him what it was for, he was delighted and did the blessing and then blessed me as well. I consider it a sacramental and never take it off. Even when I was in Carmel, I was allowed to wear it although Carmelites don't wear wedding rings. I might have to give it up when I am clothed but then I will have a habit instead, so I am comfortable with that.

 

Every time I look at my ring I feel comforted and reminded that I belong to Jesus and always will. Sacramentals are a beautiful expression of love and devotion to God, so I encourage you to get your ring blessed by a priest and to wear it on whatever finger you want! :)

[OnlySunshine]

Mater - I wear my private vows ring on the middle finger of my left hand - but only because when I wear it on my ring finger, it tends to fall off as my knuckle on that finger is almost non-existent! Otherwise I would definitely wear it on my ring finger. I have grown used to it where it is and it is good because it doesn't seem to draw any attention at all, but you should wear yours wherever you want to. Mine is a plain silver wedding band with an inscription inside of Sponsa Christi and the date I made my private vows. I had it blessed by a priest and when I told him what it was for, he was delighted and did the blessing and then blessed me as well. I consider it a sacramental and never take it off. Even when I was in Carmel, I was allowed to wear it although Carmelites don't wear wedding rings. I might have to give it up when I am clothed but then I will have a habit instead, so I am comfortable with that.

 

Every time I look at my ring I feel comforted and reminded that I belong to Jesus and always will. Sacramentals are a beautiful expression of love and devotion to God, so I encourage you to get your ring blessed by a priest and to wear it on whatever finger you want! :)

 

Wow!  That's beautiful, nunsense!  I definitely plan to have my ring blessed as soon as I can.  I love it so much already.  :)

[Catholicterp7]

I also wear mine on my left ring finger for pretty much the same reasons as Nunsense. Although I had mine long before I made my private vows it has always had that meaning for me. I also had mine blessed by a priest and touched it to the tomb of Solanus Casey while I was there a few years ago. 

I once had a friend explain the Claddagh to me as Christ is King of my heart and holds my life in His hands so when I look at my ring I not only think of Solanus Casey and all he has done for my discernment but I also thing of that meaning as well. 

JMJ+ :heart: 

[OnlySunshine]

I still have not had the opportunity to have my ring blessed, but I will tomorrow night when my parish has their Penance service.  The ring has become very much a part of me already and my finger feels "naked" when I don't have it on.  I love it.  :)

[nikita92]

I think you made a wonderful choice Mater! Glad to hear you are happy with it! (I have a wooden rosary bracelet made by a religious community and had it blessed as well)

[VeniJesuAmorMi]

Just a question for anyone that knows. (I hope this is alright to ask in this thread; as I noticed its about rings.) :)

 

Is there a certain blessing for a ring that is worn for either private vows or a promise ring?

[OnlySunshine]

Just a question for anyone that knows. (I hope this is alright to ask in this thread; as I noticed its about rings.) :)

 

Is there a certain blessing for a ring that is worn for either private vows or a promise ring?

 

I don't know if there is one for that specific purpose, but there are blessings of the ring for profession of religious.  One goes like this:

 

Receive this ring, symbol of the love that binds you to Jesus Christ, sign of your desire to live in union and conformity with His Heart.

 

In the Rite of Consecration to a Life of a Virginity, the newly consecrated virgin receives a ring upon her finger which is placed there by the Bishop as a symbol of the virgin's fidelity to a life lived for Jesus alone.

 

Receive the ring that marks you as a bride of Christ.
Keep unstained your fidelity to your Bridegroom,
that you may one day be admitted to the wedding feast of everlasting joy.

[Catholicterp7]

Just a question for anyone that knows. (I hope this is alright to ask in this thread; as I noticed its about rings.) :)

 

Is there a certain blessing for a ring that is worn for either private vows or a promise ring?

 I don't think there's a particular one for private vows/promise ring. I just asked my priest to bless my ring and explained to him why I wear it. 

JMJ+ :heart: 

[DameAgnes]

Mater, how is your discernment going? Did you ever hear back from that community?

[OnlySunshine]

Mater, how is your discernment going? Did you ever hear back from that community?

 

http://www.phatmass.com/phorum/topic/126269-prayers-for-discernment/#entry2529175

 

;)