Dr. Bombay Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 A priest once told us that we can kiss our girlfriend like we kiss our sister or grandmother. Nothing more until the wedding night. I know. A terrible disappointment but it is what it is.
TheLordsSouljah Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 Hehe, if you're from a mainly Mediterranean background like mine, it is custom to kiss both cheeks on greeting at least once!
Annie12 Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 (edited) This thread is on the debate table so, I'm not sure if I agree with this entirely. Abstaining from kissing because you are afraid of going too far like not eating because you don't want to gain weight? If you have set boundaries and you stick to them I don't know whats so bad about kissing. (I'm playing devils advocate here because I think its a legit question people have). Edited June 30, 2013 by Annie12
Maggyie Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 This thread is on the debate table so, I'm not sure if I agree with this entirely. Abstaining from kissing because you are afraid of going too far like not eating because you don't want to gain weight? If you have set boundaries and you stick to them I don't know whats so bad about kissing. (I'm playing devils advocate here because I think its a legit question people have). I agree with you Annie! Or with your "devil's advocating" :) Maybe in some situations, for some people who are more easily led down the primrose path, kissing before marriage isn't prudent... but for the vast majority of grownups it's not sinful or even an occasion of sin. It's just a way of showing affection.
Tufsoles Posted June 30, 2013 Posted June 30, 2013 I agree on the boundaries thing. I know some couples didn't kiss until thier wedding and several of them regret waiting and others didn't regret waiting. It is usually depends on the couple or indivdaul person.
Basilisa Marie Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 (edited) The "too far" line is somewhere between no kissing and too much kissing, but I'd argue that that line is different for different couples. Some people feel called to not kiss until marriage, and that's fine! As long as they still think sex and intimacy are good things to be celebrated and cherished. Other people have different boundaries. I mean, heck, I have some friends that are very touchy-feely, and others that will only give out a quick hug if you're sobbing next to them. For some people it's not weird to give their friends of the opposite sex a kiss on the cheek without it meaning anything but chaste affection, but for others that's only appropriate between people who are dating. It's about making sure you're not stirring up lust in yourself or your boyfriend/girlfriend. My theory is that most clergy/religious/instructors of Catholic sex ed generally tell people to abide by super strict lines because it's safer. The important thing is that both parties are communicating, that they're keeping God a part of their relationship, and trying to help each other stay chaste. As long as you're doing that, it doesn't really matter if you exchange a kiss before or after your wedding day. :) Edited July 1, 2013 by Basilisa Marie
Tab'le De'Bah-Rye Posted July 1, 2013 Posted July 1, 2013 St Paul "greet each other with a holy kiss."
add Posted July 4, 2013 Posted July 4, 2013 The kiss of Judas was more that a greeting, even though it was the custom of the day. This is the kiss of Judas, also known (especially in art) as the Betrayal of Christ, which occurs in the Garden of Gethsemane after the "Last Supper"
XIX Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 A priest once told us that we can kiss our girlfriend like we kiss our sister or grandmother. Nothing more until the wedding night. I know. A terrible disappointment but it is what it is. I guess i can't do this until marriage:
Dr. Bombay Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 I guess i can't do this until marriage: My advice would be never kiss a woman's hand even after marriage. You have no idea where they've been.
Nihil Obstat Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 A priest once told us that we can kiss our girlfriend like we kiss our sister or grandmother. Nothing more until the wedding night. I know. A terrible disappointment but it is what it is. Does that mean your sister, or our own sisters?
Dr. Bombay Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 Does that mean your sister, or our own sisters? My sisters are married. You can kiss your own sisters how ever you want. Q E D
PhuturePriest Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 I think this is the only poll that's ever been unanimous on Phatmass. At least we know that no matter how divided we are on other things, we all agree a little bit of holy kissing before marriage is great fun. :P
MarysLittleFlower Posted July 5, 2013 Posted July 5, 2013 I heard a sermon talking about how a Pope stated that it's not a venial sin to "kiss passionately" before marriage. Meaning that it's grave matter. The priest said, the only okay way to kiss before marriage is how you would kiss your grandma: just a small kiss on the cheek, etc. Not passionate kissing which would lead to more (even if in a particular case it doesn't, the purpose of inviting those feelings IS to lead to more - whether people intend to or not). I agree with that. I think - passionate kissing only for marriage yes.
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