Catcalling?

[Not A Real Name]

28 minutes ago, LittleWaySoul said:

I've got pepper spray (which is actually supposed to be more effective from what I've heard).

Trying to look at you?

I've never met a person with a tolerance to a taser. Can't say the same for pepper spray. 

[LittleWaySoul]

14 minutes ago, Not A Real Name said:

I've never met a person with a tolerance to a taser. Can't say the same for pepper spray. 

People have a tolerance for pepper spray?

[Peace]

Why are we tasing and pepper spraying people exactly?

2 hours ago, <3 PopeFrancis said:

Some guy fell off a ladder trying to look.  I was mad.  I was flattered.  I was glad he fell.

What were you wearing?

It's actually your fault, really. J/K

[PhuturePriest]

It takes a serious amount of depravity to actively build an immunity to pepper spray.

[Not A Real Name]

2 hours ago, LittleWaySoul said:

People have a tolerance for pepper spray?

Yep.  You can build up a tolerance. 

Edited September 8, 2016 by Not A Real Name

[LittleWaySoul]

1 hour ago, Peace said:

Why are we tasing and pepper spraying people exactly?

I desperately hope no one will be pepper sprayed. I doubt it'll ever come to that. Therefore, "why" someone is getting pepper sprayed will hopefully not be answered by myself.

As to why I have pepper spray, on the other hand...

I have a friend who has lived in a smaller city than I do and has used her pepper spray merely to dissuade a couple creeps from continuing to follow/harass her. She has never actually sprayed it, but only showed them that she had it and told them to leave her alone. It worked.

My mom heard her story and got me a thing of pepper spray. I'll admit, I do feel a bit safer when it's within reach. Not because I think I'll use it, but because if I did need to use it, it'd be there. 

Why else would someone carry something like that, if not for legitimate self defense? jw

[Not A Real Name]

I don't know why they call it catcalling.  Cats don't listen at all. 

1 hour ago, Peace said:

Why are we tasing and pepper spraying people exactly?

Self defence, unless you believe allowing perpetrators to have their way with innocent people is the saintly thing to do? 

[Seven77]

Dang... It's sad that this happens. People have lost the ability to respect others. I think that this is symptomatic of how depraved much of our society is--- these kinds of behavior are ingrained in some guys because they have killed their conscience. They've built  habits of thinking of women as objects to the point that they will just say things like that or worse. The way to fight against these kinds of things is to make these perpetrators, for lack of a better word, begin to realize to what level they have fallen. Ignoring is probably best in these situations… but saying something to shock some sense into people could be necessary sometimes---provided it befits us as Christians and if it's safe to do so.

 This is what catcalling should look like:

 

Edited September 8, 2016 by Seven77

[EmilyAnn]

11 hours ago, Peace said:

That's cool. I did not mean to suggest that there is an equivalence, FWIW. But still, I dunno if I can see M. Teresa or any of our other saints responding in that manner. Seems like there should be a better way, although I can't say exactly what it would be.

I respect your opinion though. I haven't been in your shoes.

St. Nicholas punched Arius in the face. Just saying.

[Seven77]

8 hours ago, EmilyAnn said:

St. Nicholas punched Arius in the face. 

For which he became a Saint.

[<3 PopeFrancis]

It wasn't my fault. I do not dress that way.   I didn't stretch the guy's neck to make him look.  

 

4 hours ago, Seven77 said:

For which he became a Saint.

My favorite story of St. Nicholas.  Watch out Council members for Fr. Ripperger.  

 

To @Peace

This is what catcalling should look like:

 

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[StMichael]

On September 6, 2016 at 5:29 PM, LittleWaySoul said:

Since living in a city for about two weeks now, I've had my first experience being "catcalled." I never expected it to make me feel so crummy. You'd think a random "compliment" would make you feel good, but when it's said in a certain tone of voice and the guy is with a couple of other guys and you're alone, it feels a lot more like some sort of veiled threat.

Anyways, I just wanted to know: does anyone know how is best to respond to stuff like this? Ignore it completely? Say thank you and move on? Tell them off? I was sort of taken aback when it happened; I was walking past these guys close by on the sidewalk, so I sort of just mumbled "thank you" and kept walking briskly. I imagine a lot of this depends on the situation, but I thought it'd be interesting to hear people's thoughts on it regardless.

Ignore it. 

They want your attention. They want interaction. They want to be able to tell their buddies they got you, one way or the other (either they ended up charming you or they ended up burning you).

[Ice_nine]

On 9/7/2016 at 8:37 PM, Not A Real Name said:

Yep.  You can build up a tolerance. 

Are you sure? I've read that mace is not always effective on true psychopaths for some neurophysiological reason. But mace and pepper spray are different. The latter is inflammatory and the former is an irritant so it affects people differently. 

A stun gun seems like you have to get up close and personal tho? I've been considering getting a license to carry a gun but I've never touched a gun and don't really know where to start. I live in MA so its kind of a pain. You also need a license to carry pepper spray which is insane. I think most people who live here don't even know that

[PhuturePriest]

12 hours ago, Seven77 said:

For which he became a Saint.

Not quite. He was kicked out of the Council briefly for punching Arius, and later went on the record saying he regretted his actions.

Saint Padre Pio, however, was repeatedly physically forceful with his lessons, and he for one gave zero apologies.

[LittleWaySoul]

15 hours ago, <3 PopeFrancis said:

It wasn't my fault. I do not dress that way. I didn't stretch the guy's neck to make him look.

 

Never said it was; just wanted clarification because I wasn't sure I understood correctly. 

Besides, it wouldn't have been your fault anyway. 

[<3 PopeFrancis]

17 hours ago, <3 PopeFrancis said:

It wasn't my fault. I do not dress that way. I didn't stretch the guy's neck to make him look.

 

Never said it was; just wanted clarification because I wasn't sure I understood correctly. 

Besides, it wouldn't have been your fault anyway. 

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17 hours ago, <3 PopeFrancis said:

It wasn't my fault. I do not dress that way.   I didn't stretch the guy's neck to make him look.  

 

My favorite story of St. Nicholas.  Watch out Council members for Fr. Ripperger.  

 

To @Peace

This is what catcalling should look like:

 

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[Seven77]

11 hours ago, PhuturePriest said:

Not quite. He was kicked out of the Council briefly for punching Arius, and later went on the record saying he regretted his actions.

Saint Padre Pio, however, was repeatedly physically forceful with his lessons, and he for one gave zero apologies.

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 Yeah... exactly. I was being sarcastic with that remark. It seems that people keep saying that St. Nicholas punched Arius like it was something so great. You're right in pointing out that he regretted the action. So, why do we keep praising it? Should we? I'm asking myself this too.

 St. Pio had plenty of purgatory moment here on earth with which to expiate his temper…lol.

[HisChildForever]

I lectured a gas station attendant who was  talking about me to himself, clearly intending for me to hear. I saw that he had a wedding ring on and I told him that he should be ashamed of himself. He was take aback and apologized. It was probably dumb of me because I was the only customer there and it was night. But these things get under my skin that I just speak on impulse and I am hardly pleasant about it.