Spiritual_Arsonist Posted October 17, 2003 Posted October 17, 2003 Hey PHHATMASS PHAMILY: I need your adivce. Should young guys that think God is calling them to become priests date? Be honest. Give pros and cons. Thanks.
PedroX Posted October 17, 2003 Posted October 17, 2003 Spirtual Arsonist, There are at least two schools of thought 1) No datiing 2) date so you know that you aren't called to the vocation of marriage. I think its safer to follow 1, until you know if you have a vocation or not. In the old days, this was certainly the rule. peace...
cmotherofpirl Posted October 17, 2003 Posted October 17, 2003 Dating as in group dates or serious dating?
hyperdulia again Posted October 17, 2003 Posted October 17, 2003 serious one on one dating is mean to the girl, what if she falls in love with you and you discern that you have a vocation?
vianney Posted October 17, 2003 Posted October 17, 2003 DONT DATE I did that and it was a horrible mistake. You hurt both parties when you leave for seminary.
cmotherofpirl Posted October 17, 2003 Posted October 17, 2003 Its really unfair to the girl to "test" your vocation on her. What if she falls in love with you? What if you fall into temptation and have sex with her? Even if you confess it could you still go on and become a priest? And could you look her in the eye if you did? Guard your vocation like the treasure that it is. Don't start something that is unfair to both.
goldenchild17 Posted October 17, 2003 Posted October 17, 2003 Well, I'm still not sure what to think. I am seriously trying to decide if I am called to the Priesthood, yet I am also seriously considering the married life. I have a girlfriend. She knows my issues and is supporting me completely in whatever decision I make.
cmotherofpirl Posted October 17, 2003 Posted October 17, 2003 Good Luck. You can always be third order or a deacon, as well as a priest.
Mary's Knight, La Posted October 17, 2003 Posted October 17, 2003 Seriously don't date, I had a friend who was trying to discern the priesthood who decided to "try" dating when he took a yr off and then he decided to "try" for an extra yr and he kept pushing the deadline back and he wasn't really discerning anything and also during that time the intense spiritual life that he had built up started to suffer to the point of almost non-existance.
jmjtina Posted October 17, 2003 Posted October 17, 2003 As a seminarian, they are SERIOUSLY discerning the priesthood. Ladies should stay away from them (don't date em romantically, etc) and seminarians shouldn't try to see if thier called to "marriage" during the seminary. Once there, give it your all to see if it works. If your discerning marriage or the seminary, one should put in %110 in discerning if thats your vocation. B) We love our priests and future priests!!!!! :wub: :wub: I LOVE going to Ordinations!!!! That is like the most AWESOMEST thing I love going to!!!!! Even ordinations of deacons, etc!!!! It's sooooooooo cool seeing all those priests there. Since I work in the Youth Ministry, I know almost all the priests in the diocese. So it's fun and SOOOOO amesome!!!!!!! There was a priest that was ordained last year, and he had a dance/dinner just like a wedding!!!! Well, it was a WEDDING to the Church, but I had NEVER seen that BEFORE!!!!! very cool!!!! ok, off the topic I know, but i just had to share that............... :wub: :wub:
jmjtina Posted October 17, 2003 Posted October 17, 2003 (edited) Check out the Clergy Compositions Archives. Read the article by Fr Pontifex: Do You Hear the Calling? Short and sweet. good stuff. B) Edited October 17, 2003 by jmjtina
vianney Posted October 17, 2003 Posted October 17, 2003 Being a seminarian and i jsut went through that situation. It is horrible. I dated a girl for three years while in high school and I knew i wanted ot be apriest. We feel into a lil sexual sin and lust. Then it hurt both of us severley when i left for the seminary. It turned her AWAY from God and somehow she is mad at god for not letting me date her. Dont do it i am telling you man.
Dave Posted October 17, 2003 Posted October 17, 2003 Being a seminarian and i jsut went through that situation. It is horrible. I dated a girl for three years while in high school and I knew i wanted ot be apriest. We feel into a lil sexual sin and lust. Then it hurt both of us severley when i left for the seminary. It turned her AWAY from God and somehow she is mad at god for not letting me date her. Dont do it i am telling you man. Hey vianney, I'm really sorry to hear what you went through. And I'm sorry to hear about your ex-girlfriend. It's really sad.
willguy Posted October 17, 2003 Posted October 17, 2003 In discerning my vocations, I've talked many seminarians, and they all say don't date, because those that were dating had to break it off when they entered the seminary, and they all agreed that it was the worst things they've ever had to do. That's why i don't date.
VeraMaria Posted October 17, 2003 Posted October 17, 2003 What girl would want to compete with God? They wouldn't have a chance, would they? :D
VeraMaria Posted October 17, 2003 Posted October 17, 2003 Spiritual_Arsonist, we'll all pray for your vocation, whatever it may be! But if you fel called to the priesthood, don't run away! Being a priest is one of the coolest vocations ever! B)
jmjtina Posted October 17, 2003 Posted October 17, 2003 They wouldn't have a chance, would they? :D i know, that's crazy. :ph34r:
traichuoi Posted October 17, 2003 Posted October 17, 2003 (edited) i never knew the process of entering the seminary before until my brother went through it but it is a loooong and difficult process. it consists of interviews by a panel of ordained, lay, diocesan officials, vocation director, etc., an evaluation by a psychologist, interview with the bishop, piles of papers to be filled out, among other things. when my brother went through this process i asked him if dating was a good idea if he was considering the seminary. he told me that the vocation director wants men who have dated. dating is a form of discernment. i would NOT advise dating if you are in the seminary but it is a healthy form of discernment if you are considering entering into the seminary (which doesn't mean dating anybody, but dating someone God may set in your path for that reason). i think we are in constant discernement and should be open to the religious life until we are married. also, we should be open to married life until you are ordained. you need to be open to what God calls of you up to the altar (whether it is for marriage or ordination). obviously there would have been alot of truthful discernment up until the altar but there's always the possibility that God would call you to a different path and you should be open to following His call even if it meant you were standing at the altar about to get married or ordained. the last thing we need is people in marriages or ordained priests who did not FULLY discern their vocation. hope that made sense Edited October 17, 2003 by traichuoi
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