Wife refuses to convalidate marriage. Am I wrong

[Guest kepha]

8 years ago we were civilly married. Since that time, I have had a renewal of faith and have grown to want to follow Church teachings. We do not live together. In September, I will be taking a laymans “Foundations for Ministry” course run by the diocese.

My wife refuses to convalidate our marriage. She claims it violates her dignity and beliefs. She feels it is a bureaucratic rubber stamp and an insult to our original vows. She has a “Jesus, Bible and me” mentality, and doesn’t think a church is necessary to be a Christian.

I do not qualify for a radical sanation and I can’t remember why.

We have broken up over this more than once. I can’t take such a course in good conscience, and be involved in any ministry in the Church without a sacramental marriage. We had our convalidation ceremony booked in two weeks, and she has backed out. The course begins in September. She refuses to be taught or read anything about Catholic marriage or Catholic anything for that matter. I think 8 years of patience is enough.

I believe I am doing the right thing perusing a divorce. She is a road block to my walk and development. I love her very much and it is extremely painful for both of us. The counsel I have received from priests is “you will have to decide for yourself”. My question is “Am I religiously deluded?”

[cappie]

If there is no chance of reconciliation ,no chance of convalidation and no chance of sanation then you could end this marriage as the Church does not recognise that you have contracted a sacrament and therefore should you wish do do so some time in the future you would be free to marry in the Catholic Church.