first date

[spiritualbeing]

so i have been taliking to this one girl we are starting to get to know each other and well it is time maybe we go out on a date.

so what did u do on your first date, i have never dated before so i am just curious what we should do.

thanks for your help.

--spiritual being

[Sojourner]

Man, I haven't been on a first date in a while ...

I'll just give general guidelines, since I don't know where you live and what's available to do. I'd choose to do something that allows you time to talk and get to know one another better, but still gives you something to talk about. For example, maybe an art opening at a gallery, or some sort of interactive event like a carnival or the circus or something.

Don't see a movie on your first date.

[heavenseeker]

i wish i could help but i have never been on a date before myself. the girls i would have liked to date have all had one of the 3 reasons why they couldn't.
1) already have a bf
2) have other plans
3) just don't want to

now the first two i can understand but the third one is just rude.

[avemaria40]

I don't think that girls who don't want to date are trying to be rude. I'm not really sure i want to date right now but that's not to hurt any poor guy's feelings, it's because i have a lot of school work, and i'm really busy, as well as the fact that i might have a vocation to religious life, in which i would marry Jesus so i don't want to date, but agian, i'm not trying to be mean, it's just the way things worked out.

I think a good first date might be to go to a local coffee house and have a good convo over some lattes, maybe go on an Open Mic night and hear ppl play music and read poetry, but that's just me, b/c i'm weird and think its romantic Or, u could go to see a movie in the afternon, then go out for dinner and talk about it, or go for a walk and just chat, or go to a dance if ur school is having one, or go iceskating or roller skating. or u could go volunteer some place together (i know not traditional, but it could be cool)

www.nomoho.com, www.abortionfacts.com, have good date ideas, (the second one has about 50 ideas, it has a section on teen chastity and fun dates)

[matt_in_ohio]

Let me first say that I have no idea how old you are, so I have no idea what would be appropriate for your age and/or what your means are – how much you can afford or how far you can drive, etc. I also have no idea where you are located, so I have no idea what’s located around you (any unique attractions, etc). But for someone new to “dating,” (and with all due respect to Sojourner), I see nothing wrong with the old standby of “dinner and a movie.” I would suggest letting her pick the movie, but be prepared with a few suggestions in case she doesn’t have any ideas. The advantages to this are that you get to find out what kind of moves she likes, and if you’re a nervous person, you don’t have to talk for the first two hours! Plus you have something to talk about when you have dinner afterwards. And I would try to schedule dinner after the movie (coming from a person who’s missed the start of a flick due to lousy service!!!)

However, if you’re looking for something different, I would suggest an activity that you could both participate in together. If there’s a science museum nearby, give that a shot. Hands-on activities can be a lot of fun between two people of compatible personalities – like if you’re trying to build something together, etc. Museums can be a good bet as well. And one of the most fun dates I’ve ever had involved racing a former girlfriend around a go-kart track! Run some ideas by this girl and see what she might be interested in.

Personally, I really enjoy dates where I can just sit back and talk to someone, and get to know them. I’ve been known to have conversations that have lasted until dawn the next morning!!!

So those are my ideas. The only other advice I can give is to not get too hung up on this being a “date.” It shouldn’t be all that much different than hanging out as “friends,” except that you know that you both like each other a little more now And it would probably be ok to end with a hug – only how well you know the girl will dictate if you should give her a kiss or not. And remember – dating is supposed to be FUN!!!

Hope this helps.

[shelly_freak]

[quote]It shouldn’t be all that much different than hanging out as “friends,” except that you know that you both like each other a little more now And it would probably be ok to end with a hug – only how well you know the girl will dictate if you should give her a kiss or not. And remember – dating is supposed to be FUN!!!
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Awww, that's so cute!

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[TrinityAddiction]

I agree- I don't know what the circumstances are here or anything at all, but I think the first date should always be easy-going and casual.

I know for my first "date" with my boyfriend, we just went to a mall and walked around and just talked for a while. It was simple, and even though the mall was sorta boring, the date itself was a lot of fun. (off topic, but that mall has the strangest carpet... its dizzying!)

[spiritualbeing]

i'm in wisconsin, 17, i drive, etc.

i don't know if she is catholic either because if she was we could go to a living rosary in green bay this sunday but i don't want to bring up religion.

i kinda like the dinner and a movie idea. also what day is a good day for a date?

[Jaime]

I have found in my vast experience that most women really like monster truck rallies!!

[spiritualbeing]

and a catholic church is having their fall fest maybe we could go to that.

[Jaime]

Are they having a Monster truck rally at the Fall Festival? Because that would rule!!

[sweetpea316]

[quote name='hot stuff' date='Sep 26 2005, 04:43 PM']Are they having a Monster truck rally at the Fall Festival?  Because that would rule!!
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That would be fun....

[Jaime]

[quote name='sweetpea316' date='Sep 26 2005, 04:44 PM']  That would be fun....
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SEE!?!?

And sweetpea's a GIRL!!

[heavenseeker]

[quote name='avemaria40' date='Sep 26 2005, 04:27 PM']  I'm not really sure i want to date right now but that's not to hurt any poor guy's feelings, it's because i have a lot of school work, and i'm really busy, as well as the fact that i might have a vocation to religious life, in which i would marry Jesus so i don't want to date, but agian, i'm not trying to be mean, it's just the way things worked out. 
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that kind of falls under haveing other plans

not wanting to is just that. dont wanna date someone because of who they are or something like that.

[shelly_freak]

Coffee and a movie, that or make her dinner and rent a movie, that's cute too. To tell ya the truth I've never actually been on a real date. Granted that will change this weekend seeing as my boyfriend asked me out just this past sunday. Funny thing is that we've been best friends for almost a year so when we actually decide to like go see a movie or something it won't be much diffrent from what we did before we started going out.

[God's Errand Girl]

If both of you have any friends in common, I'd suggest going out as a group. It takes away so much of the pressure to impress your date. In that kind of situation, you will stay true to who you are because you won't be so worried about impressing this girl. But then again, you said that you've been talking with this girl for a while, so maybe that first date pressure won't exist, or at least be very minimal.

Do something fun--bowling, lazer tag, go-karts.

Edited September 26, 2005 by God's Errand Girl

[curtins]

rofl

[FranciscanRocker25]

[quote name='hot stuff' date='Sep 26 2005, 05:39 PM']I have found in my vast experience that most women really like monster truck rallies!!
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this is actually true in a completely twisted and weird way.

[turelie]

My first date with my husband consisted of a movie and chinese food. It was a lot of fun.

[shelly_freak]

[quote name='God's Errand Girl' date='Sep 26 2005, 05:28 PM']Do something fun--bowling, lazer tag, go-karts.
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Oh my gosh! I wanna do lazer tag! That would be so much fun! Especially as a double date. Wow, what a great idea! I've gotta go call my friend now cause I wanna do this.