did i do something wrong?

[avemaria40]

Ok, at a dance a couple weeks ago, I danced w/one of my guy friends, and we slow danced, and i feel we got a little close, we weren't freaking or anything, i would never allow that, but I let him put his arms all the way around me and hold me really close, and even though he knows I don't want a boyfriend, i feel i lead him on in some way, and i'm really uncomfortable when i think about it. Did i do something wrong? did i sin in any way at all?

[RC_]

He [i]knows[/i] you don't want a boyfriend. You didn't lead him on.

[onathing1]

You didn't lead him on in anyway...He knew you didn't want him as your boyfriend, and just dancing as friends isn't wrong. I dance with alot of my guy friends and they know that nothing will happen between us.

Edited November 4, 2005 by onathing1

[toledo_jesus]

If you want to call hugging and lifting up your feet dancing, cool.

Next time, insist upon a formal ballroom pose, then lift up your feet and rotate around slowly. This will also help with the closeness issue.


oh yeah, I would suggest talking to a priest in confession since it is obviously bothering you.

[philothea]

Only if, at the time, you thought you were doing something wrong and you did it anyway.

[Extra ecclesiam nulla salus]

leave some space for the holy ghost.

Edited November 4, 2005 by Extra ecclesiam nulla salus

[toledo_jesus]

[quote name='Extra ecclesiam nulla salus' date='Nov 3 2005, 10:14 PM']leave some space for the holy ghost. b
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hahaha, I love that one.

[ofpheritup]

[quote name='onathing1' date='Nov 3 2005, 08:48 PM']You didn't lead him on in anyway...He knew you didn't want him as your boyfriend, and just dancing as friends isn't wrong. I dance with alot of my guy friends and they know that nothing will happen between us.
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YUP, THIS ONE.

RELAX. BREATHE. NO YOU DID NOT DO ANYTHING WRONG.
If you can't "hug and move with a friend" then there is something seriously wrong with the world.

I would rather dance with a friend then someone who asked me that I didn't know. A little thing called TRUST.

[Extra ecclesiam nulla salus]

dancing is conmended by the methodists.

[toledo_jesus]

[quote name='Extra ecclesiam nulla salus' date='Nov 3 2005, 10:22 PM']dancing is conmended by the methodists.
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thank goodness we're catholic...


Of course, dancing is a relative term nowadays. If you move around next to each other I suppose that's dancing.

[Thy Geekdom Come]

[quote name='toledo_jesus' date='Nov 3 2005, 10:29 PM']thank goodness we're catholic...
Of course, dancing is a relative term nowadays.  If you move around next to each other I suppose that's dancing.
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There's an even looser sense...Jen and I *dance* occasionally...

[toledo_jesus]

[quote name='Raphael' date='Nov 3 2005, 10:31 PM']There's an even looser sense...Jen and I *dance* occasionally...
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what is this *dance*? does it involve footnotes?

[Thy Geekdom Come]

[quote name='toledo_jesus' date='Nov 3 2005, 10:43 PM']what is this *dance*?  does it involve footnotes?
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No.

[photosynthesis]

I wouldn't see holding one another and dancing as a sin...

however, depending on who you are and the degree of passion, it could be a near occasion of sin.

[tojo]

[quote name='Extra ecclesiam nulla salus' date='Nov 3 2005, 09:22 PM']dancing is conmended by the methodists.
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Not anymore. My Methodist roomate loves to dance. Anyways, Methodists are no longer the hot seat of the Holiness movement. They passed it onto the Nazarenes and the Pentecostals, many of whom are cooling on those issues now also...

Edited November 4, 2005 by tomasio127

[Philippe]

no sins here people, move along

[jiyoung]

You're worried about whether it sent the wrong message...sending the wrong message wouldn't be a sin. If you're generally an affectionate person, it probably wouldn't send any sort of message. My culture, on the other hand, dictates not having much, if any, physical affection, and so even hand-holding is something serious. If he understood how you felt, though, then you should have no worries about it.

[toledo_jesus]

[quote name='photosynthesis' date='Nov 3 2005, 10:50 PM']I wouldn't see holding one another and dancing as a sin...

however, depending on who you are and the degree of passion, it could be a near occasion of sin.
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the question is if that action even constitutes dancing. I posit that it does not. It's simply hugging and swaying to music. That isn't dancing...

[photosynthesis]

[quote name='toledo_jesus' date='Nov 4 2005, 09:36 AM']the question is if that action even constitutes dancing.  I posit that it does not.  It's simply hugging and swaying to music.  That isn't dancing...
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I don't think that's the question avemaria was trying to ask. but I do see your point...

as far as dancing goes, I don't dance. ever. no exceptions. I think dancing does something to your brain that makes you flighty, narcissistic and anorexic. that's how all the dancers are at my college not to be mean or anything but I don't want to be like that.

[philothea]

[quote name='photosynthesis' date='Nov 4 2005, 09:51 AM']as far as dancing goes, I don't dance.  ever.  no exceptions.  I think dancing does something to your brain that makes you flighty, narcissistic and anorexic.  that's how all the dancers are at my college   not to be mean or anything but I don't want to be like that.
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Aha! Maybe I need to start dancing again.