Brother Adam Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 Is there anything that would prohibit me from being the best man at a friends wedding? He is a Baptist and it will be a Baptist wedding. he was the best man at my wedding...
Birgitta Noel Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 Not that I'm aware of off the top of my head. It is still a Christian marriage and he's not an ex-Catholic.... No prior marriages I'm assuming?
Theoketos Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 (edited) So long as you are not condoning his protestantism...showing him such love would move everyone closer to the truth. Edited November 21, 2005 by Theoketos
cmotherofpirl Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 Run this by one of the experts, I think its an"iffy" call.
Thy Geekdom Come Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 [quote name='cmotherofpirl' date='Nov 21 2005, 11:37 AM']Run this by one of the experts, I think its an"iffy" call. [right][snapback]796651[/snapback][/right] [/quote] I agree. While we all have our inclinations, it's not our place to answer this kind of question.
Brother Adam Posted November 21, 2005 Author Posted November 21, 2005 I think to not be able to would severely damage our friendship and his view of the Catholic Church (which he has been slowly learning more about). But as wierd as this sounds, I am all for being humbly obedient to the will of the Church.
Thy Geekdom Come Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 [quote name='Brother Adam' date='Nov 21 2005, 12:14 PM']But as wierd as this sounds, I am all for being humbly obedient to the will of the Church. [right][snapback]796668[/snapback][/right] [/quote] That's a move in favor of holiness.
Brother Adam Posted November 21, 2005 Author Posted November 21, 2005 (edited) One so many 'catholics' don't seem to be for these days. i'm going to go run it by Fr. Dominic. (advantages of being on the rcia team - instant access to several of the friars Edited November 21, 2005 by Brother Adam
tojo Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 Protestant weddings almost never include communion, I can't imagine Baptists having it especially at their weddings. Furthermore, Baptists almost universally (and I say almost only because with Baptists theirs always a few oddball exceptions somewhere) do not consider marriage to be a sacrament. Do we consider their marriages sacramental? Anyways, I don't think any sacraments are involved, so I don't see how being his best man is going to in anyway offend your Catholic faith.
Thy Geekdom Come Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 [quote name='tomasio127' date='Nov 21 2005, 12:30 PM']Protestant weddings almost never include communion, I can't imagine Baptists having it especially at their weddings. Furthermore, Baptists almost universally (and I say almost only because with Baptists theirs always a few oddball exceptions somewhere) do not consider marriage to be a sacrament. Do we consider their marriages sacramental? Anyways, I don't think any sacraments are involved, so I don't see how being his best man is going to in anyway offend your Catholic faith. [right][snapback]796689[/snapback][/right] [/quote] Non-Catholic weddings can be sacramental because it's the couple that bestows the sacrament on one another with the priest as the witness for the Church...but I don't know if that means that they're all sacramental, since they could think different things.
inDEED Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 [quote name='Brother Adam' date='Nov 21 2005, 09:19 AM']i'm going to go run it by Fr. Dominic.[right][snapback]796677[/snapback][/right] [/quote] Consulting your Priest will always be better than asking on a message board! :
Dave Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 Adam, trust me -- it's perfectly ok for a Catholic to be a best man at a Protestant wedding, just as it's ok for a Protestant to be a best man at a Catholic wedding. I've done my reading, so I should know this.
Theoketos Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 (edited) One of my friends, truly some one who saved my life and soul at one point in the past, asked me to be a groomsman. I said yes. Then he said he was not getting married in the Catholic Church. So then I said no, because I would be condoning apostacy. When my father decided to have an infant baptism of his two sons (my half brothers from another mother) in some sort of Methodist Church, I went with great joy and on mission. It depends largely on the object of intention and the perception of that object by others. Edited November 21, 2005 by Theoketos
tojo Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 [quote name='Theoketos' date='Nov 21 2005, 12:47 PM']One of my friends, truly some one who saved my life and soul at one point in the past, asked me to be a groomsman. I said yes. Then he said he was not getting married in the Catholic Church. So then I said no, because I would be condoning apostacy. When my father decided to have an infant baptism of his two sons (my half brothers from another mother) in some sort of Methodist Church, I went with great joy and on mission. It depends largely on the object of intention and the perception of that object by others. [right][snapback]796741[/snapback][/right] [/quote] Had he been Catholic?
Theoketos Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 In the first case yes both formally and materially. In the case of my father, only materially...and some day he might be formally soon.
Brother Adam Posted November 21, 2005 Author Posted November 21, 2005 Perhaps I shall be his best man and wear a crucifix to show that I certianly don't condone apostasy but fully support his decision to marry. I haven't had time to talk to Fr. yet though.
tojo Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 (edited) [quote name='Brother Adam' date='Nov 21 2005, 04:20 PM']Perhaps I shall be his best man and wear a crucifix to show that I certianly don't condone apostasy but fully support his decision to marry. I haven't had time to talk to Fr. yet though. [right][snapback]796940[/snapback][/right] [/quote] Lol, I went with a Catholic friend to the wedding of a mutual Protestant friend, and we both wore crucifixes in place of ties, lol, not ostentatious ones though..... However, if your friend wasn't ever Catholic, he's not an apostate, he hasn't left the truth, and it's fine for a Protestant to have a Protestant wedding, so you're apostasy comments concern me, especially since I thought you're a convert, you should know better..... [quote]Apostasy (αποστασις, in classical Greek a defection or revolt from a military commander, from απο, apo, "away, apart", στασις, stasis, "standing") is a term generally employed to describe the formal renunciation of one's religion, especially if the motive be unworthy.[/quote] Edited November 21, 2005 by tomasio127
cmotherofpirl Posted November 21, 2005 Posted November 21, 2005 [quote name='Brother Adam' date='Nov 21 2005, 05:20 PM']Perhaps I shall be his best man and wear a crucifix to show that I certianly don't condone apostasy but fully support his decision to marry. I haven't had time to talk to Fr. yet though. [right][snapback]796940[/snapback][/right] [/quote] Has the couple always been Baptist?
Brother Adam Posted November 21, 2005 Author Posted November 21, 2005 [quote name='cmotherofpirl' date='Nov 21 2005, 06:14 PM']Has the couple always been Baptist? [right][snapback]796998[/snapback][/right] [/quote] I believe they both have. Wouldn't much matter though - they both definitely are now. Neither of them are bound by canon law.
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