Medical Fertility Question

[argent_paladin]

I think the couple should contact the Tepeyac Family Center:
[url="http://www.tepeyacfamilycenter.org/contactus.asp"]http://www.tepeyacfamilycenter.org/contactus.asp[/url]
Check it out.
There's a lot of stuff here:
[url="http://www.molloy.edu/academic/philosophy/sophia/ethics/medical_ethics.htm"]http://www.molloy.edu/academic/philosophy/...ical_ethics.htm[/url]

[toledo_jesus]

[quote name='Colleen' date='Dec 8 2005, 01:17 PM']If they don't want kids right away, then maybe they should wait to get married.
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Colleen is awesome.

[DancesforLove]

But they aren't married yet, she didn't say if they would still be on the medicine when they got married. Maybe they are planning to stay on it while they are engaged.....
[quote name='thessalonian' date='Dec 8 2005, 01:09 PM']This is being open to life because she is protecting her fertility that is so far in tact.!
Excellent point.  The mentality becomes contraceptive and therefore not open to life in the marriage.  This cannot be moral.  Your point is well taken that the couple must always be open to life and have serious reason even when using NFP to delay preganancy.
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[Colleen]

[quote name='DancesforLove' date='Dec 9 2005, 08:40 PM']But they aren't married yet, she didn't say if they would still be on the medicine when they got married. Maybe they are planning to stay on it while they are engaged.....
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Actually, from what he said, it seems that she would intend to stay on the medicine when they were married:

[quote]This medication has the effect of making her infertile. However, if she gets off the medication she'll be fertile again (after a while). [b]Sheila and Robert (also not his real name) want kids eventually, but not right away.[/b] The doctors say that she has a fertility window of roughly 15 years once she's off the medication. After that, the scarring and other complications will cause infertility. However, the longer she's on[b] the medication that makes her temporarily infertile[/b], the longer she pushes back the window. [b]They don't want children immediately, so she plans on staying on the medication for a few years.[/b] [/quote]
If she stays on it while she is not married, there is no problem. But if she does not want to have children right away when she gets married, and partly because of this, she intends to stay on the medication for a few years (while married), then I think there is an issue there.

My issue isn't so much with the medication; my issue is with the mentality that they seem to be taking in regards to having children. It would seem that in this case, the medication could be used as a form of contraception. I don't think that people should marry if they plan on not having children for a few years. If it is best for her to continue taking the medication for a few years, then maybe the wedding should be postponed as well.

Edited December 10, 2005 by Colleen