chivalry?

[Extra ecclesiam nulla salus]

whenever i go out with a lady this scenario seems to happen:
Me: here i'll pick this up
girl: thanks
Me: oops i seem to have forgotten my wallet again! Can you get this for me?
Girl: sure
Me: thanks

[philothea]

Poor Sam.

When I was getting acquainted with my (future) husband we often wound up going out to restaurants with our group of mutual friends. Now, I never had any money, and all my friends knew I never had money. I just didn't order anything to eat -- I was happy to hang out and have company.

Future husband kept offering to pay for my meal. This was great! Everytime he showed up he did this. (And I already thought he was cute...)

Much later, out of the blue, he apologized. He'd thought I was a mooch and kept not ordering food to get him to buy it for me! Only after he saw where I lived did he realize I really was unable-to-buy-food poor.

I thought it was amusing. Now he buys me stuff all the time... and complains (not very seriously) about how expensive I am to maintain. Hee.

[Deeds]

I would feel uncomfortable about it. If it was me, I would try to invite them out somewhere as my treat or something like that (I just don't do cooking). I don't think that makes me a feminazi. It's always nice to reciprocate kindness.

[betinabean]

I look at it like this, if I gave my sister (I don't have a boyfriend so she's my example) a present and she refused to keep it, it would really make me sad. I think that sometimes the best gift you can give someone is the gift of receiving. Not to say that I'm doing guys a favor by letting them be chivalrous to me but that they are giving me a gift and I'm happy to receive it :

[jgirl]

When a guy displays chivalry, it's the coolest thing in the world. This one guy gave me a ride home after the Steubenville conference, and whenever we stopped, he made it a point to open my car door for me when we got back to it. I never experienced that before, and it made me feel like I was special. My college friends and I at Steubenville joked that we never had to open the doors because guys would do it for us, but that was nice, too.

Then again, for my senior prom, I asked my date and paid for his ticket, but that was because he didn't go to my school, so it wouldn't have been practical for him to ask me or pay for me. He bought the dinner, though.