Goodbye Creepy Aliens!

[Guest Rick777]

Yah, I'm gonna be off PM for awhile at least. I really am trying to cut back on my computer time because it just got way out of control. I feel I could make way better use of that time(homework,praying,etc.). I'm sorry to see Heavenseeker and BonnieLass go, and if Bonnie's mom is reading this it was just all in good fun. We never intended to go to each other's houses, not only is that a ridiculous joke but pretty hard to do since we live pretty far apart. I'm sorry if i ever offended you, I think your daughter is a great girl and you sound like a great Mother. Well Uriviel it' been fun! I'm kinda sad to go though . We had some good times, us Creepy Aliens. O course we were hands down the coolest peeps on Phatmass.lol. Well, Peace Out Pm!

[Proud2BCatholic139]

May the Lord bless you and keep you.

[uruviel]

aww rick I will certainly miss chatting with you, and the "4" on Creepy Aliens, was [i]truley[/i] a fun time! Anyways, I think that's great that your trying to find a better use of time, I should mosdef do the same. I think I'm going to cut back on PM. I will miss you but please remember your still in my prayers, (remember prayer partners?) God Bless you and Mary keep you!!
uruviel

[TXBluebonnet]

This is BonnieLass' mother. Forums can be fun, they can be addicting and take over your time. Good fun is never bad, excessive fun??????? I am sorry to have been the crimp in your fun. I just want to make PhatMass safer. Prayer and reflection are wonderful alternatives. Everyone here does appear well intentioned and hopefully I will help work toward improving security features so that people like yourselves can enjoy places like PhatMass, within guidelines, of course.

Just so you know, BonnieLass did not believe this was a joke; she was actually rather shocked to find out it was. This all came up because she asked my permission to have someone from this forum come to our home; I did not just stumble across your posts and assume the worst. Imagine what might have happened if the person was not good-hearted.

Pax

Edited May 27, 2006 by TXBluebonnet

[Luthien]

[quote name='TXBluebonnet' post='991406' date='May 27 2006, 11:21 AM']
This is BonnieLass' mother. Forums can be fun, they can be addicting and take over your time. Good fun is never bad, excessive fun??????? I am sorry to have been the crimp in your fun. I just want to make PhatMass safer. Prayer and reflection are wonderful alternatives. Everyone here does appear well intentioned and hopefully I will help work toward improving security features so that people like yourselves can enjoy places like PhatMass, within guidelines, of course.

Just so you know, BonnieLass did not believe this was a joke; she was actually rather shocked to find out it was. This all came up because she asked my permission to have someone from this forum come to our home; I did not just stumble across your posts and assume the worst. Imagine what might have happened if the person was not good-hearted.

Pax
[/quote]


I met my boyfriend on this forum.

[Christie_M]

[quote name='Luthien' post='991698' date='May 27 2006, 07:52 PM']
I met my boyfriend on this forum.
[/quote]

[color="blue"] Don't brag. jk ;-)



See you later Rick. God bless, and Mary Protect!!
God bless,
~Christie[/color]

[uruviel]

you met him on phatmass???

that's kind of scary

[ardillacid]

[quote name='TXBluebonnet' post='991406' date='May 27 2006, 09:21 AM']
This is BonnieLass' mother. Forums can be fun, they can be addicting and take over your time. Good fun is never bad, excessive fun??????? I am sorry to have been the crimp in your fun. I just want to make PhatMass safer. Prayer and reflection are wonderful alternatives. Everyone here does appear well intentioned and hopefully I will help work toward improving security features so that people like yourselves can enjoy places like PhatMass, within guidelines, of course.

Just so you know, BonnieLass did not believe this was a joke; she was actually rather shocked to find out it was. This all came up because she asked my permission to have someone from this forum come to our home; I did not just stumble across your posts and assume the worst. Imagine what might have happened if the person was not good-hearted.

Pax
[/quote]
Someone seems a little uptight I don't see the problem. firstly it seems unlikely to me that heavenseeker is a pervert . secondly, Bonnielass [i]asked[/i] you if heavenseeker could come to your [i]house[/i]. its not like she was going to meet some guy at the mall without even letting you know. The fact that you are tweaking out after being asked if he could come to your house, a safe environment, definetly makes you come off as a stereotypical inflexible parent

[missionseeker]

[quote name='notardillacid' post='992124' date='May 28 2006, 09:16 PM']
Someone seems a little uptight I don't see the problem. firstly it seems unlikely to me that heavenseeker is a pervert . secondly, Bonnielass [i]asked[/i] you if heavenseeker could come to your [i]house[/i]. its not like she was going to meet some guy at the mall without even letting you know. The fact that you are tweaking out after being asked if he could come to your house, a safe environment, definetly makes you come off as a stereotypical inflexible parent
[/quote]

I don't think so. Besides inflexible can be good. Unreasonable and inflexible aren't really interchangeable adjectives. You can be unreasonably inflexible OR inflexibly unreasonable but they aren't the same thing.

[Proud2BCatholic139]

[quote name='uruviel' post='991836' date='May 28 2006, 11:46 AM']
you met him on phatmass???

that's kind of scary
[/quote]

Honestly, why is that scary? I read in this one book, I bought from Lieflet, that for Catholic Women, one line dating is OK. Just have a parent involved. It's ok to have friends on here, and so forth. There is nothing wrong with that. (At least not in my point of view.) Just as long as you keep open with your parents about it, (If you live with them) then it's ok.

[TridentineMotoX]

[quote name='Proud2BCatholic139' post='992135' date='May 28 2006, 08:23 PM']
Honestly, why is that scary? I read in this one book, I bought from Lieflet, that for Catholic Women, one line dating is OK. Just have a parent involved. It's ok to have friends on here, and so forth. There is nothing wrong with that. (At least not in my point of view.) Just as long as you keep open with your parents about it, (If you live with them) then it's ok.
[/quote]

Was this book making the statement for teens and adults, or just adults?

Pax,
Mother of BonnieLass

Junior, remember the wise logout comment you made!

Edited May 29, 2006 by TridentineMotoX

[lightofelendil]

I know many ppl. who have done online dating, and one very close friend of mine is now engaged with someone she met online. I think online dating can be very ok when done the right way.
People should not automatically think becuase its online, its unsafe. There are many ways to be safe online. Of coarse you should always be extremely cautious, there is no eason to be paranoid.

[TridentineMotoX]

[quote name='notardillacid' post='992124' date='May 28 2006, 08:16 PM']
Someone seems a little uptight I don't see the problem. firstly it seems unlikely to me that heavenseeker is a pervert . secondly, Bonnielass [i]asked[/i] you if heavenseeker could come to your [i]house[/i]. its not like she was going to meet some guy at the mall without even letting you know. The fact that you are tweaking out after being asked if he could come to your house, a safe environment, definetly makes you come off as a stereotypical inflexible parent
[/quote]


No offence to HS but how do you know he's not a pervert. If he was, do you think he'd say it. I doubt it. If he was, you would never know it. He'd be just like the rest of us, acting inoccent.

I also think online dating is stupid. (I've never done it, but I know exactly how it can be missleading) If that's not a waste of time, I don't know what is.

[uruviel]

I know seriously I would never want to have an online relationship. Fine if someone else wants to, your right there are ways to have a safe relationship but not on Phatmass. Maybe on a dating website, which are weird too, but still I would bet their safer. Anyways, phatmass should not be the place where you come to find a date... please not here!

[TXBluebonnet]

Catholic online dating forums (Christian or secular ones for that matter) are for those 18 and older. The terms of enrollment are far different than those one has to agree to to join PhatMass. One Catholic forum in particular has this explanation of their service:

"is NOT a dating service and not like other sites. Thus, we are not for every single Catholic. In fact, our service is only for those "rare" single Catholics who do NOT believe in Catholic dating and who DO believe in courtship and find it hard to meet committed, 100% practicing Catholic singles. The person you are seeking is among a very rare group of hard-to-find individuals."

PhatMass is a public Catholic forum, whose membership is not entirely Catholic, and is open to minors.

Edited May 29, 2006 by TXBluebonnet

[Proud2BCatholic139]

We all learned from our mistakes. Can we please drop the subject?

[quote name='lightofelendil' post='992316' date='May 29 2006, 09:31 AM']
I know many ppl. who have done online dating, and one very close friend of mine is now engaged with someone she met online. I think online dating can be very ok when done the right way.
People should not automatically think becuase its online, its unsafe. There are many ways to be safe online. Of coarse you should always be extremely cautious, there is no eason to be paranoid.
[/quote]

I agree. I read this book I bought this book from Lieflet Missel, and it says that online dating is ok, when done the right way. Just as long if you keep informing your parents and especially have your dad involved, I don't see a problem with that. Just don't get too personal on there and also, don't put immodest, grotesque pictures of yourself on there. I think online dating is ok.

[quote name='TridentineMotoX' post='992305' date='May 29 2006, 08:52 AM']
Was this book making the statement for teens and adults, or just adults?

Pax,
Mother of BonnieLass

Junior, remember the wise logout comment you made!
[/quote]

Why would anyone let their 13 year old date? It was aimed for young adults 16 and up.

[heavenseeker]

ok everyone quit talking about me be it be in my defence or whatever the motive is. it seems that my desision to leave was a bad choice and opened the field for un-needed post on a topic i thought was closed.

[Birgitta Noel]

Just to jump in and mention that I met my husband online through a site for Catholic Singles.

If not for the internet we would never have met. I was in London at the time and he was in IL!

Prudence and caution are required. It's not for everyone and definitely not for teenagers!

[heavenseeker]

ok everyone gets that point by now so quit bringing it up. even though nothing was met by that thread and it was a hipothetical(sp?) question everyone seems to be making a much bigger issue out of it than what is needed.

[uruviel]

no HS we're not referring to you, now we're just disgussing if online dating is ok, I didn't think it was a bad idea for you to not spend so much time on creepy aliens. Atleast I don't think all of this subject has to do with you anymore. from my perspective.