That Goes, That Stays, That Stays, That Goes...

[franciscanheart]

Basically I asked what you do with things like the Divine Office when a community asks you to leave it behind.

[Totus Tuus]

I'm a little confused

[Guest Rick777]

As am I.

[franciscanheart]

I got to it before y'all did. : (It was a way longer post but I just got to the point when it cut out my message... AND I closed the box before I realized.)

[Totus Tuus]

Sorry Laura, I'm still a little confused.

Edited December 29, 2006 by Totus Tuus

[Guest Rick777]

I think I get it now. What do you do with things like your Breviary or Bible after you leave a community? I would think you just give them back since they are the ones who normally provide them for you.

[franciscanheart]

No no no.. when you ENTER a community... what do you do with things like your brievary or Bible if they ask you not to bring it with you?

[cmotherofpirl]

[quote name='hugheyforlife' post='1151083' date='Dec 28 2006, 08:58 PM']
No no no.. when you ENTER a community... what do you do with things like your brievary or Bible if they ask you not to bring it with you?
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Ask if someone on Phatmass needs one

[Guest Rick777]

[quote name='hugheyforlife' post='1151083' date='Dec 28 2006, 07:58 PM']
No no no.. when you ENTER a community... what do you do with things like your brievary or Bible if they ask you not to bring it with you?
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Oh. Give them to me of course.

[HisChild]

Either give them away, which is what I did. . .or be a little more prudent and have your family hold on to them for the length of say, your postulancy, and THEN give them away!

Pax Christi

[Totus Tuus]

Yeah. I "bequethed" all of my valuables to my immediate family when I entered, so now that I'm back we all just kind of share them.

[alicemary]

I find I must agree...time of novitiate is merely a time to come and see if this is the life for you. You don't go in with the mind set..'well I can always leave' but it would be wise to give special treasures to someone who would watch over them until vows.

[franciscanheart]

So all through candidacy, postulancy, and novitiate, I would ask someone to hang on to my brievary set? If you DON'T leave, which I would assume is more often than not, how do you determine who to give those things to? It's not like you can go back home just for a few days to distribute that stuff. I guess you just let it go, huh?

Or you could make a list before you enter..

[HisChild]

Some of my stuff I gave away and wish I hadn't. Other things, I gave to my family, I gave them with the intention that IF something were to happen and I didn't remain. . .I could have them back.


My family actually gave me many things back, which was beneficial, but, for the most part, there were so many things I didn't have when I returned. . . my 4 volume breviary was one of them. I couldn't afford to buy another. . .and went deeply into debt re-accumulating many necessities. I'd think carefully before giving away everything.

God bless you.

[franciscanheart]

[quote name='HisChild' post='1151142' date='Dec 28 2006, 10:10 PM']
Some of my stuff I gave away and wish I hadn't. Other things, I gave to my family, I gave them with the intention that IF something were to happen and I didn't remain. . .I could have them back.
My family actually gave me many things back, which was beneficial, but, for the most part, there were so many things I didn't have when I returned. . . my 4 volume breviary was one of them. I couldn't afford to buy another. . .and went deeply into debt re-accumulating many necessities. I'd think carefully before giving away everything.

God bless you.
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Do you have a complete set now? Or no?

[alicemary]

what I have found, and this is life experience in general ok, not necessarily just about religious life....what you think is something you just cant live without...something you believe is paramount in your life and you can't imagine leaving behind...is actually something,, IN TIME that is forgetable. Priorities change over time. That book you may think is your life line, in time is something you might forget you own. You will soon replace those things that have meaning in your life as you are living in the present. Things to treasure are things like pictures of your family, a necklace your Mom gave you when you turned 16, a grandparents possesion.
I say this from some the vantage point of someone who is much older. I have learned possessions are really not that important. I say that, and smile. My brievary is about 25 years old as is my bible! I touch their pages and I am a young woman again...the difference is, I can still recal those memories without aid of the books. What is important remains in your heart always.

[HisChild]

Yes, I finally got a set of the Liturgy of the Hours again. I know that it is only a possession, however. . .the prayer of the Church is something important to me, and it hurt to not be able to pray the hours.

As for things like necklaces and the like. . .Alice Mary? When I entered the religious life? I wasn't able to bring any of that. I could bring 'a couple' pictures, but beyond that. . .I entered with little. The books I did bring, were censored, and a few, for whatever reason, perhaps even just for obedience sake, were left in boxes.

And now? Yes, I do have some of those possessions again. ..but am hoping that I am not attached to any one thing. . .well, except perhaps my puppy.

[Laurentina1975]

[quote name='HisChild' post='1151142' date='Dec 28 2006, 10:10 PM']
Some of my stuff I gave away and wish I hadn't. Other things, I gave to my family, I gave them with the intention that IF something were to happen and I didn't remain. . .I could have them back.
My family actually gave me many things back, which was beneficial, but, for the most part, there were so many things I didn't have when I returned. . . my 4 volume breviary was one of them. I couldn't afford to buy another. . .and went deeply into debt re-accumulating many necessities. I'd think carefully before giving away everything.

God bless you.
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denise,
I still have the monstrance necklace you gave me. Ironically enough it was safely tucked away next to my jewelry box when my home was burglarized and they paid too much attention to stealing my jewelry box. It is the only piece of jewelry I had when burglarized besides my BVM necklace I had on. Also, your nun on the run mug is in my bathroom holding my toothbrushes so I can remember to pray for you each day.....
God Bless....
Lauren

[HisChild]

[quote name='Laurentina1975' post='1151339' date='Dec 28 2006, 10:04 PM']
denise,
I still have the monstrance necklace you gave me. Ironically enough it was safely tucked away next to my jewelry box when my home was burglarized and they paid too much attention to stealing my jewelry box. It is the only piece of jewelry I had when burglarized besides my BVM necklace I had on. Also, your nun on the run mug is in my bathroom holding my toothbrushes so I can remember to pray for you each day.....
God Bless....
Lauren
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That's cute! I'm glad that some things I gave away are being used. Thank you for sharing that. And thanks for the prayers. I remain open to whatever our Lord asks. Life is difficult right now, but in His time, He'll show me the path He wants of me.

Thank you again.

God bless you,
Denise

[Jennifer]

Follow Alice Mary's sound advice and get someone to hold on to your most important possessions until you complete your novitiate.You have had a lot of advice which I'm sure will be of help......... one of the benefits of being a PMer.!! God Bless