lost_in_this_world Posted October 30, 2008 Author Share Posted October 30, 2008 it really doesnt work that way because he will barely let me hang out with her. i hung out with her for two days alone since September. i just really dont like it obviously and dont know how to act only because im kinda annoyed about some stuff but dont wanna say anything cuz i dont want to beat a dead horse. but i cant be mad at them and not tell them. arggg i will be happy when this ends. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Archaeology cat Posted October 30, 2008 Share Posted October 30, 2008 (edited) [quote name='lost_in_this_world' post='1688975' date='Oct 30 2008, 01:36 AM']it really doesnt work that way because he will barely let me hang out with her. i hung out with her for two days alone since September. i just really dont like it obviously and dont know how to act only because im kinda annoyed about some stuff but dont wanna say anything cuz i dont want to beat a dead horse. but i cant be mad at them and not tell them. arggg i will be happy when this ends.[/quote] What do you mean that he doesn't let you hang out with her alone? Can you clarify please? It is perfectly normal for them to want to do most things as a couple, and so hanging out with either of them one-on-one won't happen as much. I spend time alone with my brother sometimes, but pretty much only if he's here on a business trip without my sister-in-law. They do almost everything as a couple, and I understand that. My point was that you could try to have time alone once every so often, and it sounds like you have. I know only 2 times since September isn't much, but it is something (besides, it's only October). I know that isn't what you want to hear, but it's usually the way things work. I rarely see my best friend on her own (in fact, can't remember the last time I did), as she is usually with her husband. But then, I'm usually with my husband, too. We email all the time, though, and remain close that way. Again, try to pray for them. Every time you think of them, especially if those thoughts are accompanied by anger/annoyance, pray for them to be blessed in their relationship. Tell them you have trouble accepting this, but that you are praying for them in their relationship. Edited October 30, 2008 by Archaeology cat Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Jon Posted October 30, 2008 Share Posted October 30, 2008 [color="#000080"]My 2 cents, It's so hard to be young - I see you're 20. This is one of those great life lessons being tossed to you. In everything that is a stuggle emotionally - I close my eyes and picture my higher self -the self that I am going to one day be - the self that I am aspiring to be - the self that all these tests or struggles will eventually turn me into or reveal--- your future self if you will. ( I see myself as an angelic-type - wise, clear, all loving and compassionate - where nothing in this petty little world can bother me, above and in clarity ---does that sound like the "you" you're going to end up being?) What would that future "you" do? I'll bet it would be alot different than hanging around this emotional quagmire. All we can do is strive for our highest. I've been in alot of therapy with very wise people. This was a useful technique and put a smile on my face years ago. It's amazing how I am so close to being "that" person I pictured ---I thought it would take eons to reach that point. It helped me, hope it does you, Blessings, Jon[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lost_in_this_world Posted October 31, 2008 Author Share Posted October 31, 2008 i realize its real petty but it almost feels liek highschool all over again hahaha. it will be an interesting time to see how this pans out. it just a situation that i never thought i would be in but im not surprised cuz my bro has screwed me over in the past so i know that with him my feelings or anything like that doesnt matter. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Archaeology cat Posted October 31, 2008 Share Posted October 31, 2008 [quote name='lost_in_this_world' post='1689474' date='Oct 31 2008, 12:38 AM']i realize its real petty but it almost feels liek highschool all over again hahaha. it will be an interesting time to see how this pans out. it just a situation that i never thought i would be in but im not surprised cuz my bro has screwed me over in the past so i know that with him my feelings or anything like that doesnt matter.[/quote] I see, and I can imagine it's really hard (my brother is 12 years older, so haven't dealt with this exact situation). Maybe your brother will be positively influenced by your friend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 31, 2008 Share Posted October 31, 2008 set ur bro up with a friend thats hotter guys are sucker for hotter girls Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lost_in_this_world Posted October 31, 2008 Author Share Posted October 31, 2008 i doubt it. i dont have much faith if any in my brother anymore Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rachael Posted October 31, 2008 Share Posted October 31, 2008 why do you care so much? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 31, 2008 Share Posted October 31, 2008 (edited) that was a bad joke, i got alot of those. prayers though for sure. just tellem how much you love him and dont want to lose the relationship the two of you have. tell your bestfriend that to. mabey you can all come to a truce. Edited October 31, 2008 by Guest Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 31, 2008 Share Posted October 31, 2008 [quote name='rachael' post='1690028' date='Oct 31 2008, 02:54 PM']why do you care so much? [/quote] becuase she does rachael, duhhhh Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rachael Posted October 31, 2008 Share Posted October 31, 2008 [quote name='Delivery Boy' post='1690030' date='Oct 31 2008, 03:56 PM']becuase she does rachael, duhhhh [/quote] i'm not trying to be mean. i'm just wondering. i know it's hard and a bit awkward, but they are allowed to date who they want to, are they not? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 31, 2008 Share Posted October 31, 2008 nooooooo obama forbidds it he will find you a mate he will find your husband rachael and you will like it !! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rachael Posted October 31, 2008 Share Posted October 31, 2008 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 31, 2008 Share Posted October 31, 2008 lol ok im late for work sorry if i disturbed you its my medicine later Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lost_in_this_world Posted November 1, 2008 Author Share Posted November 1, 2008 i may be just picking up on things more now just cuz i dont like the relationship between them but i can already see my friend and i kinda distancing more now. i dont know if that made sense and everything that i notice is really minor liek we literally do not talk as much as we used to which might be stupid but it is what it is. we just dont seem to be as close and its sad. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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