Relationship With My Dad

[tinytherese]

[quote name='Lil Red' date='28 October 2009 - 12:43 PM' timestamp='1256751825' post='1992800']
+J.M.J.+
May God bless you...we are all praying for you!
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Thank you!

[Nihil Obstat]

Do you have a restraining order against him? That way you wouldn't have to worry about being contacted or anything.

[tinytherese]

[quote name='Nihil Obstat' date='28 October 2009 - 07:47 PM' timestamp='1256777263' post='1992995']
Do you have a restraining order against him? That way you wouldn't have to worry about being contacted or anything.
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No,but I've thought about getting one. I can discuss it with my mom, but she'll probably say that it isn't necessary. She's trying to keep him in check.

[tinytherese]

Well dad is still living with his parents and his therapist managed to talk him out of contacting me. Mom is looking at my brother and I moving because of how attached dad is to our house and to her, its just loved ones sticking together that matters. Besides, it would do him good to move out of the house of his parents. He's a full grown man afterall, yet he refuses to move to an apartment or a residence inn. He feels secure in the house. He hasn't seen his therapist in weeks because she was busy what with the holidays and dad was busy with something too. Mom is going to talk to him to ask if he's going to continue going to therapy or not, which will definitely shape the direction of our family. A move could also be more convenient for us in other ways. It sure is taking longer than expected to figure out living arrangements.

Dad's side of the family seems confused about what is going on. It looks like dad still hasn't told them everything yet. Mom said if he didn't tell my big brother about what was going on that she would herself. Well he didn't and she told him. He doesn't know what to think about the matter. He just knows that he is here for me even though he doesn't think me talking to him would do him much good. He's preoccupied with finishing school anyway. He sure must feel conflicted since when he was a police officer he handled plenty of domestic calls and the fact that involved his sister and our dad...

Mom has been talking to me and informed me that dad is still thinking that soon this will blow over and we will all be a normal family all living together again. She says that she's trying to get him to understand that she is not "keeping me" from him, that I am the one who didn't want to contact him and said that there is no way that I would want to live under the same roof as him at this point. All that he has gotten is information from her and not me, so that is why he is wary, not to mention she is a lawyer who knows how to "manipulate" facts. This is one of his theories. The other is that I am just being a selfish brat. He still seriously doesn't know why I'm upset. I know that this sounds bad, but man do I have the temptation to say under my breath and in my head, "Jerk."

[Lil Red]

[quote name='tinytherese' date='15 January 2010 - 11:51 PM' timestamp='1263624679' post='2038316']
Mom has been talking to me and informed me that dad is still thinking that soon this will blow over and we will all be a normal family all living together again. She says that she's trying to get him to understand that she is not "keeping me" from him, that I am the one who didn't want to contact him and said that there is no way that I would want to live under the same roof as him at this point. All that he has gotten is information from her and not me, so that is why he is wary, not to mention she is a lawyer who knows how to "manipulate" facts. This is one of his theories. The other is that I am just being a selfish brat. He still seriously doesn't know why I'm upset. I know that this sounds bad, but man do I have the temptation to say under my breath and in my head, "Jerk."
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+JMJ+
you're in our prayers.

[Archaeology cat]

[quote name='Lil Red' date='16 January 2010 - 06:55 AM' timestamp='1263624910' post='2038322']
+JMJ+
you're in our prayers.
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[eagle_eye222001]

We always expect to live life blissfully as a great fun adventure. As some of us know otherwise, life, like war, doesn't pan out to be all glorious. It's filled with sin and destruction and sometimes gets very sad and depressing. Events happen that change our lives forever, and we realize the gravity of the situation that life sometimes brings us.

Just have to hang onto our faith. That there is something more. That someday, we will be with Him.

[MissyP89]

Hang in there, J. Stay with Him--He's taking care of you and will stay with you wherever this goes.

People fail us, I've found; sometimes that even includes our family. The consolation for me is that no matter how many times we are let down, hurt or failed, God in His perfection will never let us down. You're in good hands.

[Norseman82]

Hang in there, tinytherese. You're doing what you are supposed to be doing. Stay vigilant like you are doing and you should be fine.