Nihil Obstat Posted April 27, 2009 Share Posted April 27, 2009 [quote name='Resurrexi' post='1849390' date='Apr 26 2009, 09:08 PM']Is a cemetery really the most appropriate place for a proposal?[/quote] Way to rain on the parade. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sojourner Posted April 27, 2009 Share Posted April 27, 2009 I have heard some really creative proposals over the years. I think the best proposals reflect the personalities of the couple involved. Cutesy, elegant, cheesy, whatever. What is special for one person will not be for another, so really you just have to know your woman and what she will treasure. We had started planning our wedding months before we got engaged. My husband had wanted to do something really special but last fall a bunch of stuff happened with his business and other things that prevented us being able to take a weekend off. My husband ended up proposing to me in a grotto behind a chapel near where I was living at the time. He started out by quoting Sam from the TV series Cheers: "Abby, you're neat." We both laughed and he went on to ask me to marry him, and of course I said yes. It was really late at night so we had the place to ourselves. It was very sweet, and holy, all at once. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slappo Posted April 27, 2009 Author Share Posted April 27, 2009 [quote name='Resurrexi' post='1849390' date='Apr 26 2009, 06:08 PM']Is a cemetery really the most appropriate place for a proposal?[/quote] As nihil obstat said, until death do us part. It is also a reminder that while marriage is a sacrament, we still must remember we are dust. It also isn't a traditional cemetary and doesn't have the eeriness of one. It is a columbarium. There are no graves or gravestones per se rather large marble walls that the ashes of a cremated person can be buried (none of them are for bodies, only ashes). It is often that a proper Christian burial can not be given for a body in a casket in Alaska since the ground is frozen for a good portion of the time. It may be that I walk her over to the columbarium and then walk out to the chapel and propose behind the chapel looking across the channel at the mountain range. For pictures of what the place looks like just google "Shrine of St. Therese Juneau, Alaska" and they should have a website. I have my search engines filtered and can't pull up the site to post them for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Resurrexi Posted April 27, 2009 Share Posted April 27, 2009 [quote name='Slappo' post='1849423' date='Apr 26 2009, 10:37 PM']It may be that I walk her over to the columbarium and then walk out to the chapel and propose behind the chapel looking across the channel at the mountain range.[/quote] I'd recommend doing that Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nihil Obstat Posted April 27, 2009 Share Posted April 27, 2009 [quote name='Slappo' post='1849423' date='Apr 26 2009, 09:37 PM'][b]As nihil obstat said[/b], until death do us part. It is also a reminder that while marriage is a sacrament, we still must remember we are dust.[/quote] That wasn't me. I'm the boring one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slappo Posted April 27, 2009 Author Share Posted April 27, 2009 [quote name='Resurrexi' post='1849428' date='Apr 26 2009, 06:41 PM']I'd recommend doing that [/quote] You should really check out the pictures of the shrine if you can find them and have time. Thanks for the recommendation. I still haven't fully decided, but I do know that I want it to be out at the Shrine during the sunset and at some point beforehand to visit where the ashes of my grandma and grandpa are buried. Current plan is to do it at the end of July/beginning of August, but we'll see. Still a lot of time for discernment . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moosey Posted April 27, 2009 Share Posted April 27, 2009 My dad asked my mom on a grassy knoll and he said, "So I was wondering if you wanted to marry me." My mom didn't say yes but she emphatically nodded her head. She was speechless Well, I think it was romantic. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Resurrexi Posted April 27, 2009 Share Posted April 27, 2009 (edited) [quote name='Slappo' post='1849442' date='Apr 26 2009, 10:50 PM']You should really check out the pictures of the shrine if you can find them and have time. Thanks for the recommendation. I still haven't fully decided, but I do know that I want it to be out at the Shrine during the sunset and at some point beforehand to visit where the ashes of my grandma and grandpa are buried. Current plan is to do it at the end of July/beginning of August, but we'll see. Still a lot of time for discernment .[/quote] Oh I didn't know your grandparents were buried there. That'd make more sense. Edited April 27, 2009 by Resurrexi Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slappo Posted April 27, 2009 Author Share Posted April 27, 2009 Ok, I'm a dork. Now that the topic is on my mind I keep thinking of all these cool things. I have a tripod and a really nice SLR camera that I use for photography, so I can be like, "Hey lets get a picture of the two of us with the sunset behind us." and I can set up the camera with a 10 second timer to do continuous shooting and after I set the camera, go walk over to her and propose. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nihil Obstat Posted April 27, 2009 Share Posted April 27, 2009 [quote name='Slappo' post='1849471' date='Apr 26 2009, 09:58 PM']Ok, I'm a dork. Now that the topic is on my mind I keep thinking of all these cool things. I have a tripod and a really nice SLR camera that I use for photography, so I can be like, "Hey lets get a picture of the two of us with the sunset behind us." and I can set up the camera with a 10 second timer to do continuous shooting and after I set the camera, go walk over to her and propose.[/quote] DO IT. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slappo Posted April 27, 2009 Author Share Posted April 27, 2009 [quote name='Resurrexi' post='1849456' date='Apr 26 2009, 06:53 PM']Oh I didn't know your grandparents were buried there. That'd make more sense.[/quote] Yeah, its the whole using their wedding rings thing and proposing where their remains rest. Almost like a "where their marriage ended ours begins" type thing, Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missionseeker Posted April 27, 2009 Share Posted April 27, 2009 [quote name='Nihil Obstat' post='1849474' date='Apr 26 2009, 10:00 PM']DO IT.[/quote] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatherineM Posted April 27, 2009 Share Posted April 27, 2009 The worst one was a friend who expected her fiance to do something so over the top, that he almost didn't get around to proposing before the wedding was scheduled. I'm serious, they had done the pre-cana classes, bought the rings, the gown, scheduled the priest and the basilica, but they weren't "officially" engaged until about a month before. My husband just asked sitting next to me on a sofa. I told him I was a proper Southern woman, and if he didn't get on his knee and do it right, I was going to make him call my red-neck brother to ask his permission for my hand. He got on his knee surprisingly fast for such a big guy. Understandable since that brother had already threatened to take my grandfather's shotgun to him. The second thing I told him was not to buy me a diamond. He didn't object to that for some reason. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missionseeker Posted April 27, 2009 Share Posted April 27, 2009 (edited) what did he finally do? Edited April 27, 2009 by missionseeker Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TotusTuusMaria Posted April 27, 2009 Share Posted April 27, 2009 Proposing in front of Jesus inside a church or in a grotto... some place "holy" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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