Age Differences In Relationships

[Sojourner]

[quote name='southern california guy' post='1877535' date='May 28 2009, 08:48 PM']But I think that it's perhaps experiences that divide more than age. Experiences like marriage, having kids, getting divorced. Even being in a sexually intimate relationship. I'm still a virgin so I can't relate to that either. And I can't relate any better to young divorcees than I can to ones close to my age.[/quote]
I think that's exactly right. My husband is 12 years older than I am, but when it comes to intimate relationships we have similar histories and experience levels (limited on both sides). Also, I think it's important that you have similar outlooks on life and goals, and that has little to do with age, I've found.

I think age is really only a factor if experience levels are vastly different, or if one of the parties is sensitive about it. I suppose it did help that my husband has siblings my age, and his family is close, so he had a wider experience dealing with people from different age groups than some guys might have.

[MissScripture]

Different things are important to different people. Some people might find it a problem for there to be a large age gap. Some people might not care about that, but be concerned about something else. It's sort of a personal preference, almost. For example, when my parents got married, there was a priest who didn't want to marry them, because my mom was going to be a nurse, and therefore make more money than my dad. That wasn't a big deal to my dad, but the priest was convinced it would be. I know another couple where the guy DOES have a big problem with his future-wife making more money than him. I also had a roommate who really liked a guy, but when she found out that he was seven years older than her, she wouldn't have anything to do with him. And, as numerous people here have attested to, other people don't mind age gaps. Might other people find it odd? Yes. But I also get a lot of weird looks and rude comments when people find out I met my fiance on a random Catholic website, called Phatmass...