Husband At Bachelor Party

[Thy Geekdom Come]

[quote name='CherieMadame' date='05 June 2010 - 09:19 PM' timestamp='1275787179' post='2124338']
And 80% of "Catholic" couples are contracepting, too.


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I'm pretty sure it's closer to 96% *terrified for the Second Coming* [not to imply that I contracept]

[Thy Geekdom Come]

[quote name='homeschoolmom' date='05 June 2010 - 09:22 PM' timestamp='1275787323' post='2124340']
and holily.
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Be wholly holy. Werd.

[homeschoolmom]

[quote name='Raphael' date='05 June 2010 - 09:23 PM' timestamp='1275787436' post='2124346']
Be wholly holy. Werd.
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But not holey... at least not toooo holey.

[Thy Geekdom Come]

[quote name='homeschoolmom' date='05 June 2010 - 09:25 PM' timestamp='1275787550' post='2124348']
But not holey... at least not toooo holey.
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Like Swiss coagulated milk.

[ThePenciledOne]

I wrote a blog post a while back concerning bachelor parties.

I dunno if it will help, but sometimes it can when you here another voice that can put into word your own feelings maybe.
[url="http://thepenciledone.wordpress.com/2009/11/03/the-party-is-over-now/"]
The Party is Over Now[/url]

Edited June 6, 2010 by ThePenciledOne

[Semper Catholic]

LOL you guys are really going off the deep end with this one.

I'm not in anyway shape or form advocating that it is ok to go to strip clubs. I feel like I'm on The O'Reilly Factor here.

With that said, I am arguing that this shouldn't be made out to be a bigger problem then it actually is.

You shouldn't get up an leave your husband if he looks at another woman walking down the street, he probably deserves a pretty good punch in the arm though.

Don't make mountains out of molehill's, pwning your husband on facebook I think is a much more fitting punishment, one that will get your point across and one that won't make him freakout by dragging him to a priest.

inb4 sarcastic replies

[zunshynn]

[quote name='Semper Catholic' date='05 June 2010 - 07:38 PM' timestamp='1275788286' post='2124359']
LOL you guys are really going off the deep end with this one.

I'm not in anyway shape or form advocating that it is ok to go to strip clubs. I feel like I'm on The O'Reilly Factor here.

With that said, I am arguing that this shouldn't be made out to be a bigger problem then it actually is.

You shouldn't get up an leave your husband if he looks at another woman walking down the street, he probably deserves a pretty good punch in the arm though.

Don't make mountains out of molehill's, pwning your husband on facebook I think is a much more fitting punishment, one that will get your point across and one that won't make him freakout by dragging him to a priest.

inb4 sarcastic replies
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a married man checking out a woman walking down the street is VASTLY different from a married man (or any man) going to see strippers at a bachelor's party. The first is accidental, the second is intentional. (Not to mention that occasion for arousal is much greater in the second instance than the first).

I don't think anyone here has suggested that someone should leave because of something like that, but it IS serious, and is NOT just something that should be accepted because society thinks its normal.

Edited June 6, 2010 by zunshynn

[Catholic Fox]

You were lied to, and are feeling hurt. I don't blame you.

I also don't see anything wrong with "dragging your husband to a priest" as "Semper Catholic" so disparagingly put it.

[Cherie]

[quote name='Semper Catholic' date='05 June 2010 - 09:38 PM' timestamp='1275788286' post='2124359']

Don't make mountains out of molehill's, pwning your husband on facebook I think is a much more fitting punishment, one that will get your point across and one that won't make him freakout by dragging him to a priest.

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Writing a false and embarrassing update on Facebook is a very childish reaction to a serious problem. I would not recommend any married couple resorting to such childishness when they need to discuss something seriously, no matter how tempting or funny it would be. We are supposed to be healthy adults who can honestly and responsibly talk about our needs and feelings.

And I don't think it's making a mountain out of a molehill. It is a serious problem, it can cause serious marital strife when a couple disagrees on something so fundamental. Going to a priest seems like a good idea, and it can be done very casually in an atmosphere that wouldn't "freak out" her husband -- and if need be, maybe seeing Father privately about the issue would be beneficial, as well.

rwri10, I will be praying for you and your husband! And honestly, I think a good patroness in your regard would be St. Monica. Pray for your husband, especially through her intercession -- prayer works wonders, even if you have to wait a long time to see the "results"!!

[Thy Geekdom Come]

[quote name='Semper Catholic' date='05 June 2010 - 09:38 PM' timestamp='1275788286' post='2124359']
LOL you guys are really going off the deep end with this one.

I'm not in anyway shape or form advocating that it is ok to go to strip clubs. I feel like I'm on The O'Reilly Factor here.

With that said, I am arguing that this shouldn't be made out to be a bigger problem then it actually is.

You shouldn't get up an leave your husband if he looks at another woman walking down the street, he probably deserves a pretty good punch in the arm though.

Don't make mountains out of molehill's, pwning your husband on facebook I think is a much more fitting punishment, one that will get your point across and one that won't make him freakout by dragging him to a priest.

inb4 sarcastic replies
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You have a lot of growing up to do.

[Catholic Fox]

[quote name='Raphael' date='05 June 2010 - 09:00 PM' timestamp='1275789636' post='2124376']
You have a lot of growing up to do.
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Whoever gave this a -1 really needs to grow up.

[XIX]

[quote name='Semper Catholic' date='05 June 2010 - 10:05 PM' timestamp='1275786345' post='2124318']
Yes clearly going to a bachelor party is on the same level as getting an abortion or becoming an alcoholic.

I know this is a place for "hardcore" Catholics, but 99% of America and I'd say a majority of Catholics don't walk such a strict line.
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Soft porn is about as addictive as cocaine, and probably more destructive.

[Brother Adam]

Going to a strip club is a very serious sin - it is a violation of love in so many ways, and right before a wedding to someone you are committing your life to? It completely misuses another person as an object, instead of seeing them as a person. Then, if there is any interaction (physical touch all the way up to sex) with the dancer, it piles on the gravity of the sin. While a stripper is 'suppose' to be a staple of a bachelor party, I don't know anyone that has ever actually been to one with a stripper, and I have a lot of non-Christian family. What a terribly way to spend a night before your marriage. I can't think of anything more grievous.

[Semper Catholic]

[quote name='Raphael' date='05 June 2010 - 09:00 PM' timestamp='1275789636' post='2124376']
You have a lot of growing up to do.
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Dude give me a break, I've fought in a war, earned a college degree, have a solid job, and have had a beautiful caring relationship with my girlfriend for 5 years.

Just because I take more things lightly does not allow for you to question someone's maturity or other characteristics.

[Catholic Fox]

[quote name='Semper Catholic' date='05 June 2010 - 09:33 PM' timestamp='1275791637' post='2124400']
Dude give me a break, I've fought in a war, earned a college degree, have a solid job, and have had a beautiful caring relationship with my girlfriend for 5 years.

Just because I take more things lightly does not allow for you to question someone's maturity or other characteristics.
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I agree...you should be the next Pope!

[rwri10]

Thank you for your advice & prayers phatmassers. I don't plan on leaving my husband. This has just been a climax to many other things going on in our marriage is why I would like to seek help from a priest.. Just looking for Catholic viewpoints, as it is good for me to hear. As the priest said at our wedding, my duty now in this marriage is to get him to heaven as his is mine.

[Vincent Vega]

[quote name='Raphael' date='05 June 2010 - 10:00 PM' timestamp='1275789636' post='2124376']
You have a lot of growing up to do.
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You can't talk to him like that...he's a big boy! He's not still in high school!

(Ironically, I thought one was supposed to leave that attitude of omniscience behind after he [i]left [/i]high school, but he wear the grownup britches, not me. )

[KnightofChrist]

[quote name='rwri10' date='05 June 2010 - 10:36 PM' timestamp='1275791781' post='2124402']
Thank you for your advice & prayers phatmassers. I don't plan on leaving my husband. This has just been a climax to many other things going on in our marriage is why I would like to seek help from a priest.. Just looking for Catholic viewpoints, as it is good for me to hear. As the priest said at our wedding, my duty now in this marriage is to get him to heaven as his is mine.
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God bless, and sorry your thread was and continues to be hijacked.

[Apotheoun]

[quote name='rwri10' date='05 June 2010 - 08:36 PM' timestamp='1275791781' post='2124402']
Thank you for your advice & prayers phatmassers. I don't plan on leaving my husband. This has just been a climax to many other things going on in our marriage is why I would like to seek help from a priest.. Just looking for Catholic viewpoints, as it is good for me to hear. As the priest said at our wedding, my duty now in this marriage is to get him to heaven as his is mine.
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[Hassan]

[quote name='Semper Catholic' date='05 June 2010 - 10:33 PM' timestamp='1275791637' post='2124400']
Dude give me a break, I've fought in a war, earned a college degree, have a solid job, and have had a beautiful caring relationship with my girlfriend for 5 years.

Just because I take more things lightly does not allow for you to question someone's maturity or other characteristics.
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Win.