20 Ways For Men To Be Real Men

[Lil Red]

http://onemoresoul.com/downloadable-pamphlets/20-ways-for-young-men-to-become-real-men-2.html
1. Tell cool, funny jokes, not the kind that would make a pure woman blush or be offended!

2. Find saints that you relate to and ask them to pray for you as you imitate their virtues. Some awesome real men include St. Joseph, St. Augustine, St. Maximilian Kolbe, Blessed Pier Giorgio Frassati, and St. Josemara Escriva.

3. Keep your standards high; only date women who have the qualities you want in a future wife and mother of your children. Pray for your bride, that she will have the love and strength to save the gift of sexual intimacy for you, and pray that youll have that strength, too!

4. Read the Bible. Be open to Gods Word. Let it convict you to courageously do the hard and holy things.

5. Respect women, even those who dont respect themselves and may throw themselves at you. Don't take advantage of them but help them to know their true worth. These women have a hole in their heart that they are looking to fill. Point them to the only One who can fill it, Jesus Christ.

6. Be a man of integrity. Do everything as if someone were watching, because God is watching. Prepare now to someday lead a family. Work hard to prepare yourself to provide for and protect them, not only financially and physically, but also spiritually, morally, and emotionally.

7. Be both strong and gentle. St. Francis de Sales said that there is nothing so strong as gentleness and nothing so gentle as real strength. And wrap your brain around this quote by contemporary Catholic psychotherapist Philip Mango: Whats a real man? Hes not a bully or a wimp. He transcends his own ego, his own fears, his own selfishness, and sacrifices himself as a gift to those hes called to protect.

8. Say a prayer when you see a woman dressed immodestly (for the sake of the woman). Pope John Paul II said, [God] has assigned as a duty to every man the dignity of every woman.

9. Say a prayer when you see a woman dressed immodestly (for your purity's sake). Use this moment, when Satan wants to pull you away from Jesus, to draw closer than ever to God.

10. Honor your mom and sisters. A smart woman knows that the way you treat your mother is the way you will someday treat her.

11. Find creative ways to express your (pure & chaste) feelings to the woman you like or are dating. Show her that you can love her without using her and that she is beautiful both inside and out.

12. Find good male role models to emulate; get relationship advice from Godly men.

13. Be open to the priesthood.

14. Show gentlemanly respect to all women, not just the woman youre dating. What does it mean if you hold the door for your girlfriend but let it close in the face of the woman walking in right behind her?

15. Trust in God's mercy. When you fall, go to confession. Receive strength from Christ truly present in the Eucharist. Blessed Pier Giorgio Frassati said, "With all the strength of my soul I urge you young people to approach the Communion table as often as you can." Feed on this bread of angels whence you will draw all the energy you need to fight inner battles. Because true happiness, dear friends, does not consist in the pleasures of the world or in earthly things, but in peace of conscience, which we have only if we are pure in heart and mind.

16. Don't settle for counterfeits such as pornography or masturbation (in fact, avoid them like the plagues they are) if you want to someday enjoy the utterly amazing gift of sex as God intended.

17. Guard your senses from temptation, and be always ready to choose Gods way, no matter what the cost. The mind is a dangerous battlefield, so Whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is gracious, if there is any excellence and if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things (Phil. 4:8).

18. Recognize Mary as your Mother and say a prayer to consecrate your heart to her. Her prayers for you will be very powerful in helping you draw near to her Son.

19. Lay down your life in the little things; practice making small sacrifices by putting someone elses wants or needs before your own.

20. Make Jesus Christ your best friend and greatest role model. J.R.R. Tolkien, in a letter to his son, wrote, "Out of the darkness of my life, so much frustrated, I put before you the one great thing to love on earth: the Blessed Sacrament. There you will find romance, glory, honor, fidelity, and the true way of all your loves upon earth which every man's heart desires."

[let_go_let_God]

That's amazing Red. Do you have one for women as well?

God bless-
LGLG

[CatherineM]

In a way, I think finding good male role models may be the hardest one on the list.

[laetitia crucis]

Thank you for posting this and that link, Lil Red! I think I'll definitely be printing off some pamphlets of this list and the "20 Ways for Women..." list to leave around various places.

[SaintOfVirtue]

[quote name='CatherineM' date='19 July 2010 - 10:10 AM' timestamp='1279559408' post='2144894']
In a way, I think finding good male role models may be the hardest one on the list.
[/quote]

Naw, [i]He[/i] ain't that hard to find.

[BG45]

[quote name='CatherineM' date='19 July 2010 - 01:10 PM' timestamp='1279559408' post='2144894']
In a way, I think finding good male role models may be the hardest one on the list.
[/quote]

I think it is/for me it is.

Honestly, aside from priests, some of the best men I know morally are non-Christians/non-Catholics.

[ardillacid]

Eat nails for breakfast

Smoke a pipe

Drink whiskey

[jeffpugh]

[quote name='notardillacid' date='19 July 2010 - 04:47 PM' timestamp='1279572423' post='2145075']
...
Drink whiskey


[/quote]
This.

[kafka]

list is o.k. Here is mine.

1. Read Sacred Scripture especially the Wisdom Books.

2. Model yourself on all the great men in Sacred Scripture Abraham, Joseph, David, Josias, Tobit, Isaiah, Samuel, Sirach, Judas Maccabeus etc. and most of all Jesus

2. Do not be petty ever.

3. Do not complain or get angry at anything other than serious and intrinsic moral evils. Overlook imperfections, venial sins, eccentricities, shortcomings of others, etc. but do not overlook serious, intrinsic evils. Fight against them.

4. Dont be selfish.

5. Shake your head at the immodesty of women at least interiorly and turn your face from it. And I like the one above to pray that the disorder be corrected in a particular woman or in general.

6. Never let your body (or soul) be ruled by a woman.

7. Be firm in your convictions.

8. Marshal your soul and all your acts both interior and exterior, your work, your home, your possessions like a noble king. For the baptized men are anointed kings in this sense:

Saint Gregory of Nyssa "The soul shows its royal and exalted character... in that it is free and self-governed, swayed autonomously by its own will. Of whom else can this be said, save a king?... Thus human nature, created to rule other creatures, was by its likeness to the King of the universe made as it were a living image, partaking with the Archetype both in dignity and in name"

9. Give your total respect to no one but God.

10. Listen to Tom Petty's Wont Back Down:
[media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nUTXb-ga1fo[/media]

just kidding

10. Know you are limited and place all hope and trust in the Lord for the fullness of success and good days forever:
{30:25} Act manfully, and let your heart be strengthened, all you who hope in the Lord.

Edited July 19, 2010 by kafka

[kafka]

One more:

11. Instead of morally enjoying the beauty of a woman, cooperate with grace and see her for what she really is: A child of God.

[KnightofChrist]

[quote name='kafka' date='19 July 2010 - 07:01 PM' timestamp='1279580464' post='2145151']
6. Never let your body (or soul) be ruled by a woman.
[/quote]

What do you mean? Nether man nor woman should rule the other. Do you mean by means of lust?

[kafka]

[quote name='KnightofChrist' date='19 July 2010 - 08:08 PM' timestamp='1279584532' post='2145171']
What do you mean? Nether man nor woman should rule the other. Do you mean by means of lust?
[/quote]
yes as in Sirach's lament of Solomon's downfall:

{47:21} But you bent your thigh to women, and you were held by the power of your body.

and also a man should not relinquish his role of leadership, authority, headship in the order of God's creation to a woman. God gave man and woman different roles:

{9:2} You should not give authority over your soul to a woman, lest she obtain your strength, and then you would be confounded.

[KnightofChrist]

These particular passages speak more of Solomon worshiping a particular woman as a god, and using her to replace God. Ie do not give authority over your soul to a woman. The same would be true for both man and woman.

[Socrates]

[quote name='kafka' date='19 July 2010 - 07:08 PM' timestamp='1279580909' post='2145156']
One more:

11. Instead of morally enjoying the beauty of a woman, cooperate with grace and see her for what she really is: A child of God.
[/quote]
What's wrong with morally enjoying the beauty of a woman?

[Slappo]

[quote name='let_go_let_God' date='19 July 2010 - 08:55 AM' timestamp='1279554948' post='2144848']
That's amazing Red. Do you have one for women as well?

God bless-
LGLG
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