Where Wholesome, Godly Spouses Are To Be Found?

[savvy]

I always had very high expectations from men. I realized that nobody could meet them except God.

[missionseeker]

I know a few Godly guys. (Am at a Catholic University). But I haven't met any one who would be good for me as a spouse. I don't think the trick is to go to a place and people watch and say "I'm going hunting for a spouse, let's see what we find today today!" I think you just have to be open to things and people and places. God is funny. We grow mentally, spiritually, and emotionally through our relationships with other humans. You never what beautiful souls you will come across in the most ugly of places.

[faithcecelia]

Joyful, having read many of your recent posts I cannot help but think that you will only actually be happy and find your true path in life once you are happy on your own as you are. I think we have all had times when we cannot find something - we look everywhere for it, where it should be, where it might be, even where it couldn't possibly be, but it is only when we stop looking that it suddenly turns up! The same can so often be true for our life-paths. You seem to be desperate to know the answer to 'what does God want me to do?' which is not of itself a bad thing, but I think its maybe time for you to accept that at this precise moment God probably just wants you to be exactly where you are and you need to find peace in that.

[i<3franciscans]

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The man finds you,
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I have to second this. Let God lead the man to you! He knows what own standards are and considering He knows every man on the face of the earth He probably would find the best person for you to spend the rest of your life with.

[Sarah147]

Considering the area I live in that's hard to imagine... But I will pray about it if I am called to marriage.

[Feankie]

Remember....every sinner has a future, and every saint has a past! There is no such thing as the "perfect" man, trust me, I know!!
I have been working on my marriage for 39 years, and yes, it takes work...a lot of it. And it's hard at times. Frankly, it's more give than take most of the time. But that's okay. If I can give myself to my husband in small ways, it pleases him. And it pleases [u]me [/u]that it pleases him.
If you are open to dating, put yourself in a place that is conducive to finding healthy relationships. It's like the old saying, you can't have a diabetic go to work in a bakery.......not a good thing. And, you can't force things to happen. They evolve naturally. They take time, patience, understanding. Be patient and be open.

Edited December 13, 2011 by Francis Clare

[Sarah147]

Be patient and be open. Great advice, and sounds like a good meditative prayer.