PhuturePriest Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 So, I have a question concerning relationships and somewhat racist parents. My parents are a little racist, particularly towards Spanish people. However, they believe you should never marry outside of your race period, Spanish or not. I've never liked a non-white girl (Probably because I don't know any), but I'm not opposed to marrying someone of a different color. When my sister was younger, she asked my dad what he would think if she dated a black guy. He was adamant that she not do this, but assured her he wasn't racist. I've personally always hoped I would marry a Japanese girl, as I find them incredibly attractive. I remembered my sister's test with my father, so I tried it on my mother. When I asked her what she would think if I married a Japanese girl, she said she would disown me, and that "You marry within your race." Oh, the bigotry... Anyway, what should I do if I ever am in a relationship with a non-white girl? I would never get my parents' approval, which is obviously kind of important, though I think I could live without it if I loved the girl.
4588686 Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 I dated a girl who was the same race of me once. She bit me. Pretty hard. It wasn't cute. Or sexy. Take from that what you will.
PhuturePriest Posted July 10, 2013 Author Posted July 10, 2013 I dated a girl who was the same race of me once. She bit me. Pretty hard. It wasn't cute. Or sexy. Take from that what you will. I take from this that I will prop this post the moment props come back.
IcePrincessKRS Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 I dated a girl who was the same race of me once. She bit me. Pretty hard. It wasn't cute. Or sexy. Take from that what you will. :hehe:
IcePrincessKRS Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 I have zero practical advice for you. This is not something I have ever had to deal with. If not for multiracial marriages I would not exist. Therefore I think they're pretty dang legit.
4588686 Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 My advice is to not do that thing where you kind of laugh because you're uncomfortable. That just encourages the biters.
PhuturePriest Posted July 10, 2013 Author Posted July 10, 2013 I have zero practical advice for you. This is not something I have ever had to deal with. If not for multiracial marriages I would not exist. Therefore I think they're pretty dang legit. What makes me laugh is I'm technically not purely white. I'm a small part Cherokee Indian, hence the somewhat dark skin and dark hair. I was actually talking to my mother today about that. She was talking about how proud she was that we're Irish, referring to Ireland as our "Homeland" (Despite the fact we're mostly German), and when I said America was a part if my "homeland" since I'm part Indian (It's nit from her side), she dismissed it as stupid, and I can't help but feel it's probably because it's a reminder that I'm not fully white.
Nihil Obstat Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 Clearly the best option here is to learn a foreign language, then move somewhere far away where you are very much a racial minority. Stay there for about a year, and then come back with a serious girlfriend. Preferably some place like Dakar or Gabon. The more unfamiliar the better. I guess Japan works if you want to be a hardcore weaboo. :| But the girl you come back with has to be an absolute moeblob. [spoiler] [spoiler][/spoiler] [/spoiler] Basically it is shock therapy. The shock either kills them or cures them. Beyond that, and in a serious sense, I have nothing. Racism is not really a thing I have ever encountered in any relevant sense.
CatholicsAreKewl Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 (edited) So, I have a question concerning relationships and somewhat racist parents. My parents are a little racist, particularly towards Spanish people. However, they believe you should never marry outside of your race period, Spanish or not. I've never liked a non-white girl (Probably because I don't know any), but I'm not opposed to marrying someone of a different color. When my sister was younger, she asked my dad what he would think if she dated a black guy. He was adamant that she not do this, but assured her he wasn't racist. I've personally always hoped I would marry a Japanese girl, as I find them incredibly attractive. I remembered my sister's test with my father, so I tried it on my mother. When I asked her what she would think if I married a Japanese girl, she said she would disown me, and that "You marry within your race." Oh, the bigotry... Anyway, what should I do if I ever am in a relationship with a non-white girl? I would never get my parents' approval, which is obviously kind of important, though I think I could live without it if I loved the girl. They'll get over it. I think the greatest evil in the world is tribalism. The quickest fix to the problem is cross-pollination. Marry that Japanese girl. Edited July 10, 2013 by CatholicsAreKewl
Nihil Obstat Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 Korean girls are also quite attractive. As are girls from all ethnic groups. But yeah. Stay on topic.
PhuturePriest Posted July 10, 2013 Author Posted July 10, 2013 They'll get over it. I think the greatest evil in the world is tribalism. The quickest fix to the problem is cross-pollination. Marry that Japanese girl. I don't know. I've heard of people whose parents cut off all tied with them over something like this. I'm not certain that would happen if I married a Japanese girl, but it might if she is Spanish. Either way, my mother in particular will resent the girl and treat her pretty terribly.
EmilyAnn Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 It's not an immediate concern, so I wouldn't worry too much about it. But, if your parents disapprove of a relationship for such petty reasons, then their approval really isn't that important.
Guest Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 (edited) Are your parents Catholicc ? Do they practice ? If so how can they be racist ? Isn't that a mortal sin ? Edited July 10, 2013 by Guest
beatitude Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 I think you should cross that bridge if and when you come to it. ;)
Anastasia13 Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 Tell your parents how great your girlfriend/fiance/wife is. Tell them how great she treats there only loving son and how happy she makes him. When I asked my parents what they would do if I ever brought home a guy who looked like a Kiss fan, face paint and all, that is what my dad said he would want for me, for him to treat me right.
Era Might Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=Q29YR5-t3gg
franciscanheart Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 Do you mean Hispanic? :huh: Spanish girls tend to be fair-skinned anyway so she probably wouldn't even know. Unless you mean Hispanic. Then you might have a problem. Unless you meet someone like me who gets confused for other ethnicities all the time. More importantly though: you're Caucasian? :blink: Weird.
PhuturePriest Posted July 10, 2013 Author Posted July 10, 2013 (edited) Do you mean Hispanic? :huh: Spanish girls tend to be fair-skinned anyway so she probably wouldn't even know. Unless you mean Hispanic. Then you might have a problem. Unless you meet someone like me who gets confused for other ethnicities all the time. More importantly though: you're Caucasian? :blink: Weird. Yes, Hispanic is the word I was going for. Give me some slack, it was late and I was on my iPod. :P Hahaha! What did you think I was? Whatever you thought, I'm not technically 100% Caucasian, as I explained in the last page. Edited July 10, 2013 by FuturePriest387
PhuturePriest Posted July 10, 2013 Author Posted July 10, 2013 Are your parents Catholicc ? Do they practice ? If so how can they be racist ? Isn't that a mortal sin ? They don't think they're racist, so I think it's one of the cases where they're racist and don't realize it, thus meaning it's not a mortal sin.
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