Olam- Gain One, Lose One (yet Again)

[nikita92]

Thank you. I wasn't thinking of identity protection.(my bad.. Especially in my line of employment) I apologize. Of course she is still very much in the process of discerning what his will is for her.! Hence being informed of entering a "New Community"! The use of my terminology was incorrect and thus I apologize for that as well! Of course I will continue to pray that she finds her joy and His will for her amongst other things. Beatitude... No worries! I am not a religious groupie nor have a unhealthy fixation on sister whatsoever. Some communities offer secular people to "adopt a sister" or become a regular benefactor to help them with paying for health insurance,dental things like that. I assure you, that I have been in communication with this particular sister (for over a year) and have sent her small financial donations and a card or two on special occasions such as Easter and Christmas with a small memento gift for her 1st profession anniversary etc. Nothing more than that. it's all above board and within the community's stipulations etc. I completely understand that this sister was in no way responsible to even send a acknowledgement of anything in return. (But she always did without fail) However, I am allowed to feel sad at no longer having correspondence with her. Not going to be in attendance (in the future) to share her joy if she would have made it to solemn vows with this particular community of which she entered into so many years ago. I am allowed to wonder if she ever received the personalized scapular I had made (by another member on here) for her impending 2nd profession anniversary. Her sisters read the card I sent her, and acknowledge the small donation I sent as well...yet my small gift was meant for her..,and I'm left wondering (because they didn't mention it )where the beautiful embroidery gift ended up at. At least, almost a month later to the day, I received the information (of which I am grateful for) that sister is now elsewhere. Cmariadiaz- "wouldnt you want to say goodbye to those who supported you in prayer while you discerned?" ill take this statement of yours, and apply it to one of the resaon's for my sadness. iI would have been nice to have heard "goodbye" from sister. (Again, she doesn't owe me -for lack of a better word anything) Of course I pray for her! I acknowledge the difficulties she might have had in order to discern this decision for herself. As far as countdown threads...I'm happy for those that are on their way to the monastery and convent... But I just learned my lesson. Emmaberry is a good example from here on out...we went on her journey with her...she is in, from here on out, whatever may happen (stays in, leaves) is none of our business. Perhaps people should no longer post any information from this point on as well. Thank you all for you comments and perspectives!

[cmaD2006]

Nikita92 .. it *is* sad when someone leaves a community.  It is a grieving -- because it also reminds us (in a way) that the time on this earth is short. 

 

You never know -- you may have the blessing of seeing the sister that you prayed for and supported in the future.  It *can* happen.  I was connected by way of internet to someone who entered religious life with me and left a few months after I did, and I never expected to connect with her again.  We're very good friends now, and it was really God's actions that brought us together.

 

Blessings and peace to you!

[nikita92]

Thank You for understanding