cmaD2006 Posted July 16, 2014 Posted July 16, 2014 Phrequent Phliers is cool ... you reminded me of joke. Those that go often for retreats/spiritual directors can be either one of two things: Frequent Flyers or Repeat Offenders :P
Credo in Deum Posted July 16, 2014 Posted July 16, 2014 Phantoms? Phatechism Class? I like where you're going with this. We can be: Phatechumens!
beatitude Posted July 16, 2014 Posted July 16, 2014 On one forum where I am an admin, we had a teenager who had been sexually abused and who used the forum for support. Her abuser actually managed to find the forum and set up a fake account, posing as a concerned and helpful person. Luckily I realised it was him due to a few incriminating details that were minor enough for him to overlook. These type of things happen. It is scary to think that they could happen on a forum with such a close-knit atmosphere, but they do. However, I doubt that removing the PM function would fix it - people like this are able to be frighteningly manipulative in order to gain trust, and they would probably just find another way to reach their victims. Is there any way to add a disclaimer to a PM box that says something like, "If someone sends you an inappropriate message, e.g. about sexual matters, then report it immediately"? I think the best way to deal with such things - apart from reporting them to the police, which is essential - is to make sure that younger posters are very aware of Internet safety and how to look after themselves.
cmaD2006 Posted July 16, 2014 Posted July 16, 2014 I like where you're going with this. We can be: Phatechumens! That goes quite well as being right under Church Militant ... it's a Church Militant to be ;)
blazeingstar Posted July 16, 2014 Posted July 16, 2014 On one forum where I am an admin, we had a teenager who had been sexually abused and who used the forum for support. Her abuser actually managed to find the forum and set up a fake account, posing as a concerned and helpful person. Luckily I realised it was him due to a few incriminating details that were minor enough for him to overlook. These type of things happen. It is scary to think that they could happen on a forum with such a close-knit atmosphere, but they do. However, I doubt that removing the PM function would fix it - people like this are able to be frighteningly manipulative in order to gain trust, and they would probably just find another way to reach their victims. Is there any way to add a disclaimer to a PM box that says something like, "If someone sends you an inappropriate message, e.g. about sexual matters, then report it immediately"? I think the best way to deal with such things - apart from reporting them to the police, which is essential - is to make sure that younger posters are very aware of Internet safety and how to look after themselves. You sure that wasn't here?
ardillacid Posted July 16, 2014 Posted July 16, 2014 old reliable [URL=http://s1068.photobucket.com/user/hilpthop/media/iuytft_zps0f7bdf96.gif.html][/URL]
KnightofChrist Posted July 16, 2014 Posted July 16, 2014 OK. So if adult members of phatmass start private messaging younger members about sex... how do you suggest I deal with that? Ignore it? Ban the members so they can create another login and do the same thing? I'm all ears. This sounds like a repeat online sexual stalker or predator. He or she should have there IP(s) turned over to the FBI or like authorities and banned each and every time with or without the ban on pm's. I'm just afraid the shotgun approach will do harm to legitimate and normal future relationships on PM. Those who are innocent of such offensives should not have to suffer for the sick actions of one or a few.
Anomaly Posted July 16, 2014 Posted July 16, 2014 OK. So if adult members of phatmass start private messaging younger members about sex... how do you suggest I deal with that? Ignore it? Ban the members so they can create another login and do the same thing? I'm all ears. First, do what your conscience tells you to. You aren't taking away a necessity. Second, don't seek advice from sketchy people on teh webs.
CatherineM Posted July 16, 2014 Posted July 16, 2014 OK. So if adult members of phatmass start private messaging younger members about sex... how do you suggest I deal with that? Ignore it? Ban the members so they can create another login and do the same thing? I'm all ears. I suppose I'm guilty of this. I've had minors ask me questions about sexual sins. I'm usually the one who over worries about liability issues, and completely missed this one.
cmaD2006 Posted July 16, 2014 Posted July 16, 2014 So here's a question ... how about making the Q&A board completely anonymous? i.e. if anyone other than a Church Scholar/Mod/Admin posts in there it is taken as anonymous (and the person's tag on Phatmass is not posted but is known maybe to mods/admins/Church Scholars).
CatherineM Posted July 16, 2014 Posted July 16, 2014 So here's a question ... how about making the Q&A board completely anonymous? i.e. if anyone other than a Church Scholar/Mod/Admin posts in there it is taken as anonymous (and the person's tag on Phatmass is not posted but is known maybe to mods/admins/Church Scholars). That might work, except it would make us open season for church haters to bomb it with offensive questions.
blazeingstar Posted July 16, 2014 Posted July 16, 2014 I suppose I'm guilty of this. I've had minors ask me questions about sexual sins. I'm usually the one who over worries about liability issues, and completely missed this one. I really don't think this is what DuST is talking about. Sounds like a young member was asked for sex by an adult. That's a HUGE deal. Not telling Johnny 15yo that just because he puts a sock over his hand it's still not ok to shake things up.
CrossCuT Posted July 16, 2014 Posted July 16, 2014 Phabulous Phew majority? But thats not an alliteration.
ChristinaTherese Posted July 16, 2014 Posted July 16, 2014 But thats not an alliteration. what about Phabulous Phriend?
PhuturePriest Posted July 16, 2014 Posted July 16, 2014 I really don't think this is what DuST is talking about. Sounds like a young member was asked for sex by an adult. That's a HUGE deal. Not telling Johnny 15yo that just because he puts a sock over his hand it's still not ok to shake things up. Although private messages are my favorite feature on Phatmass, I am completely willing to lose them in order to save children/minors from sexual abuse and propositions.
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